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Guilt of a special kind.

MandMLeonaMandMLeona member
in August 2014 Moms

This is our third child. I've always held our babies, maybe a little too much and our first two wouldn't take a pacifier...just me.  This little girl started out needing a pacifier.  She nurses so much and so strongly that comfort nursing just isn't an option...she gets drowned in milk and over flows her tummy.  So I was using a pacifier, but still holding her.  She was fussing all the time, even with changes in her diet.  Since she's my third, sometimes I have to lay her down to help the older two.  I noticed she'd often fall asleep when I did.  So now, whenever she's really hurting and upset I have to lay her down to calm her.  It feels so wrong!  We've got her going to a chiropractor now.  I'm hoping that once they free up her atlas I'll be able to comfort her in my arms.  Until then, I feel like I'm forced to have a container baby and it's breaking my heart.

Sorry for the vent.

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  • tamarar5tamarar5 member
    :( Boo, sad! Hope the chiropractor works.
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  • courtnikocourtniko member
    I hope that the chiropractor helps! You are doing what you can for your little one.


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  • Luciana428Luciana428 member
    Oddly enough our little one was fussing to be held allll the time before the chiropractor. Then I took her once and that same day she would not stop crying in my arms, so finally I put her down and she immediately calmed down! It was super confusing at first and I felt the same way you do, but in the end I figured that she is happy and loved so I should go with it. You're not alone on this one.
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  • SherryBaby2014SherryBaby2014 member

    I have noticed that sometimes my baby starts getting fussy when she’s in my arms and calms when I put her down as well.  I was reading  that this could potentially mean that she’s a little over or under stimulated  and just needs a little space of her own. Sometimes she’s gotten bored with me and is fussy until I put her on the play gym and other times she fusses until I give her a paci and lay her down to sleep.

     

    It’s funny because there was a period of time where all I wanted to do was be able to put her down for a little bit. Now I get a little bit sad when it seems like she doesn’t want to be with me.


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  • Tinkerbell084Tinkerbell084 member
    Usually our LO can be calmed being held. However, I noticed when he is in a super fit/extremely fussy (not too often, but of course happens), he gets super warm and it's easier to calm him after putting him down, in my arms sometimes he just gets hotter and escalates to getting more upset
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