My fiancée is a little weird about sex now that I'm pregnant, is this normal?

kacey_renee · October 2014

As embarrassing as this is to talk about I needed to get some opinions, I'm only 13 weeks and I just feel like we have a lot less and he is slightly weird about my belly, I'm embracing my belly and now I'm starting to be self conscience, please help me out ladies

Yaz14 · October 2014

Totally normal. My husband admitted to me that he doesn't find pregnancy sexy and he feels weird about having sex when there's a baby between us. I'm not offended in the slightest because I have zero sex drive anyway and he can't help the way he feels. I don't find pregnancy sexy either if I'm honest. We do still manage to have some pretty awesome sex on occasion though. If it really bothers you sit him down and talk about it. Pregnancy can do weird things to people's libidos.

bmblebea · October 2014

I've heard stories both ways, that men are turned on or off by pregnancy. Mine is turned way on and it's bad in another way bc I feel terrible for not wanting to due to pregnancy symptoms. I'd have a talk with him so you can see where his head is at and try not to be too worried!

kariemomo · October 2014

My husband is afraid to do it missionary. I told him it's okay for a few more weeks but he has been freaked out since we found out. Afraid to hurt the baby. Though I don't feel good and he asks me almost everyday if I'm up to it and definitely don't feel sexy. Maybe a new position might help or wear some sexy lingerie?

kacey_renee · October 2014

Thank you ladies so much for your responses, I think it is time we just sat down and talked it all out, I guess I was afraid of what his answer might be but I'm just happy to know many women are in the same place, thank you again ladies❤️

BabyIxolib · October 2014

My husband completely averted from sex as soon as we found out, we had a huge fight about it and honestly it just wasn't worth the fight for me. He deploys next month and I think he had a combo of "detachment" and he actually was completely weirded out by the idea that our child was in the middle. I've heard of guys going in both directions, being really into it and enjoying the "new/creative positions" to work around the belly and unfortunately the other way that my husband and your fiancé seem to have taken:(
Good luck.

mrsalvidrez · October 2014

I don't think it's weird for you guys to be having less sex, I posted about a week ago about being 13 weeks with no sex drive and frustrated. However he shouldn't be weird about your body! I mean he might need to adjust to it but that's something he should keep to himself. I feel like my husband is 100x more attracted to me now that I'm pregnant. It could just be because we go longer in between having sex. A quick way to find out if he is being weird would be to put on sexy lingerie and be the one to start it all. If he doesn't want it then you will know, but I am sure he will be into it! Good luck! I know for me my emotions often get the best of me and sometimes I take things personally with DH that don't even exist so maybe just talk to him if nothing else.

fartsandcrafts · October 2014

Talk to him and just get it out in the open. My H was overly cautious at first to a point where it was just awkward and unappealing. He's probably just nervous and doesn't know what may hurt you.

MauiQuickie · October 2014

We had sex only once during the first trimester. I just felt bad and exhausted. Now that I'm second tri, we're getting back to normal, thank goodness. Pregnancy is weird when it comes to sex. Communicate as best you can with the hubby and them just let it be.