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Sadly joining :( (living child mentioned)

AllyDoggAllyDogg member
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We went for an ultrasound last week where I dates 6w1d and we saw a heartbeat. Fast forward to a week later, I went to the washroom and when I wiped, there was bright red blood on the toilet paper.

I went to ER, and while there, it changed to light pink and then stopped. My betas were drawn and on track, and I was scheduled for an ultrasound Tuesday morning.

Came in for my ultrasound and the tech wouldn't let me see the screen, answer any of my questions or tell me what the heart rate was. I saw in ER for two hours before finding out the devastating news that there was no longer a heart beat, and the size was unchanged from the week before.

This would have been our second child, and we were so ecstatic to have two children so close in age.

I haven't passed the fetus yet - and this has been the hardest part yet. I am not even bleeding. It's heartbreaking to know that I'm carrying around a deceased fetus and there Is not I can do about it. My dr doesn't use medication or d&c until it's been at least a week.

I've been a mess all day/night since finding out. I hope this gets better soon.
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  • meredithcarolemeredithcarole member
    So sorry for your loss.
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  • xraychick01xraychick01 member
    I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost mine Sunday/Monday at 6w 3d. I was scheduled for my first ultrasound this Friday :( We all know how you feel. This board, though I've only been here a few days, has been very helpful to me. Just knowing these ladies have (unfortunately) been there and know exactly what it's like. Hugs to you.
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  • negritosmaminegritosmami member
    soo sorry for your loss. I went to the doctor for my 12 week ultra sound. I had JUST breathed a sigh of relief because i was told 12 weeks was the "safe zone". I had NO bleeding or symptoms of miscarraige so i was devastated when they told my my baby was measuring 8 weeks. Then, like you said, to know i had carried my baby in me for four weeks not knowing he/she had passed and had to continue to do that for another four days..it was just horrible. i wouldnt wish that pain on anyone and im so sorry you have to go thru this. You are not alone. We all know how you feel on this board. Many many hugs to you and i wish you a speedy recovery.

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  • 4N6s4N6s member
    I'm so sorry. Only positive is that you found out sooner rather than later. I was at almost 11 weeks.
    As much as it sucks waiting, I think a natural miscarriage is still better than having a d&c.
    Good luck, girl and stay strong.

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  • AllyDoggAllyDogg member
    Thanks for all the support ladies. This week has been awful. I feel like I'm walking around like a zombie and the loss is consuming every minute of my life. I've had spotting for two days now - I'm hoping this is the start of the end. It's so depressing waiting. I'm trying to stay strong for my DD, but it's so hard when I feel so sad.
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  • ctk181ctk181 member
    I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope it is over quickly for you. If you do end up needing a D&C, don't worry it is a simple procedure.
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  • HappilyEverHappilyEver member
    So sorry for your loss. Always devastating news to hear about losing a baby. I hope things get a little easier for you with time.

    If you are not wanting to wait to miscarry naturally there is nothing wrong with finding a doc that will do the D&C now for you. I can't imagine the anguish of waiting.
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  • ChanelAChanelA member
    AllyDogg said:

    Thanks for all the support ladies. This week has been awful. I feel like I'm walking around like a zombie and the loss is consuming every minute of my life. I've had spotting for two days now - I'm hoping this is the start of the end. It's so depressing waiting. I'm trying to stay strong for my DD, but it's so hard when I feel so sad.

    ((Hugs)) I feel the same way! Like a zombie, one moment I'm numbed the next I'm crying in a corner. I'm also trying to strong for DD. I know she thinks somethings up, the last two days she has given me extra hugs and kisses.

    I'm hoping my body starts this process before my D&C on Tuesday.
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  • AllyDoggAllyDogg member
    The process of miscarrying started yesterday. Today's it's been a lot of clots, heavy bleeding, crying and feeling empty. DH has been so helpful today by taking DD and entertaining her all day while I laid in bed crying. I was planning on calling my ONGYN on Monday to discuss a d&c - guess my body had other plans...
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