December 2014 Moms
Shortstack06
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Overzealous Grandparents
Shortstack06
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So this is a misery loves company thread. The closer we get it seems like the drama is picking up(at least for me) and I want to hear your vent/stories about baby's grandparents.
I am a FTM (for those that don't know) and I am currently working. I quit to be a SAHM, but went back. The company I work for offered 6 weeks paid vacation and 6 weeks unpaid. I was planning on going back and using my mom 4 days a week as a baby sitter and my sister 1. My parents have a vacation home in Florida (we live in PA) and they spend a month there at a time usually and go frequently. They are planning on going in April and have told my sister that they are just going to take my child so I don't have to worry about child care. They haven't mentioned it to me but in what sane world do they think that I or my husband would let that happen? I know we are going to butt heads when I get off work and go to get my child and my mom went shopping or something. This is just a small bit that my mom has said but it is the most irritating at the moment.
I am a FTM (for those that don't know) and I am currently working. I quit to be a SAHM, but went back. The company I work for offered 6 weeks paid vacation and 6 weeks unpaid. I was planning on going back and using my mom 4 days a week as a baby sitter and my sister 1. My parents have a vacation home in Florida (we live in PA) and they spend a month there at a time usually and go frequently. They are planning on going in April and have told my sister that they are just going to take my child so I don't have to worry about child care. They haven't mentioned it to me but in what sane world do they think that I or my husband would let that happen? I know we are going to butt heads when I get off work and go to get my child and my mom went shopping or something. This is just a small bit that my mom has said but it is the most irritating at the moment.
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Re: Overzealous Grandparents
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My mother is the same way. She will just do shit and not ask me like it's all good. For example, cut off all of DD hair. I know it's not the same as taking LO out of state for a month but kind of the same concept. I truely don't believe it is done out of spite or any ill will. They just don't consider what the parents think.
I have had to be rather firm with my mom about things. I feel bad sometimes but oh well. She just rented a cabin for four days (thur-sun) for Halloween at this resort place and asked when we could drop off DD. Ummmm, DD has school thur and Friday. I have work Friday and Saturday and DH has school Friday till the evening. Plus she lives an hour away. I'm not saying DD can't go, but a little heads up would have been nice before you all out paid for four days. I told her that she can get DD after school on Friday. My mother was disappointed to not have her for the entire four days but it's better then nothing.
Any who, stand up and be firm.
Solution: Hire professional certified people to care for your children. Hire professionals that know CPR and don't rely on child-rearing practices from 30 years ago.
If you aren't happy about it, don't just complain and look for sympathy. Do something about it.
On the other hand, I think it must be awesome to have parents that want to spend time with their grand kids. In 9 years, my kids have only stayed with either grandparent(my mom and his) for two nights. Once. Why can't there be a happy medium?!
I live and work in a small town and there are two day cares. Each day care said their refrigerator holds milk for the older kids and other perishables for snacks and they feel other children may get a hold of it if they get milk or such out. So they were not wanting to accommodate for it.
I live and work in a small town and there are two day cares. Each day care said their refrigerator holds milk for the older kids and other perishables for snacks and they feel other children may get a hold of it if they get milk or such out. So they were not wanting to accommodate for it.
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Holy crap. That's just wrong. So they allow kids access to the fridge? Do they have all of the infants in with the older kids?
Ya no, I wouldn't put my kid in there if they weren't accommodating for breast feeding, that would raise so many red flags about their level of care.
I know these things can be extremely complicated especially when finances are tight. I know it is hard to turn down well meaning help from family, but if you are not being respected as the final decision maker, that is a huge red flag. If your mother thinks she can make a decision to take your child out of state without discussing with you, what other decisions is she making about your child without consulting you?
I have seen these situations get really ugly time and time again. It is like lending money to family members: sure it sounds good, but it only causes drama in the long run.
I actually think the older kids(4-5 and not in school yet) are the ones to get the snacks together for the younger ones or something. I was a little Leary.
My SIL however was driving me nuts a few months ago. She was saying how she needed all this baby gear for her house and kept talking about coming to the house and taking the baby. I finally told her to stop telling me she was going to take the child who was still in my womb and that the last thing she should say to a hormonal pregnant lady was that she was going to take their child! She finally got the hint and backed off...for now!
I actually think the older kids(4-5 and not in school yet) are the ones to get the snacks together for the younger ones or something. I was a little Leary.
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Not sure about your state regulations, but all the ones here require a food handlers license......pretty sure they're breaking a lot of rules here.
That is scary.