Play groups

HorseLover11 · October 2014

I was invited to a play group - well we all know its mom social hour as babies this young aren't playing

I told DH and he thought she was way too young (she will be just over 2 weeks for the first play group date). I need to start meeting moms with young babies for my own sanity. Do you all think it's too early?

ashaw512 · October 2014

IMO yes. If these are ppl you know then you know what their actives and lifestyle are. But it sounds like you don't, I mean are there older kids, have they been around sick ppl, there are all kinds of questions you should ask yourself. My pedi says don't even leave the house until 2 months old except dr appt. we didn't and luckily DD never got sick and DS hasn't been sick yet.

Eta:fix some words

Everyusernameistaken · October 2014

I think you should go!! It's very important to be around other moms going through the same stuff as you. Of course it depends on your comfort level re: germs and stuff but for me getting out and meeting other moms was VITAL to my sanity in the early days with my first. As you said, LO won't be interacting so wear her if you're worried about germs.
My 3 week old has been to drop in with me and my toddler several times and he just sleeps, and no one gets in his face (with a toddler staying him for 2 months is not an option, haha).
I say go and have fun!!

Jenner37 · October 2014

I second going, I think meeting other moms is so important to your sanity, I don't think these moms are planning on holding your LO, they just want some adult interaction as well. Enjoy!

str13 · October 2014

I don't know. On one hand, the germs can turn into some scary stuff. But on the other hand, at my appt I was asked who my friends were outside of work and the only people I could think of were DH and DD1 who's 15mo. So mom friends might not be a bad idea.

Lol

teenybean · October 2014

Wear your baby and go! Baby in carrier is code for hands off, I think anyway.

Its the best time to get to know the moms in the group as baby is easy-peasy and not going anywhere. These ladies will be your lifeline as you grow into your motherhood.

Most moms have similar health concerns as you do, and all that will work itself out in time. I find since you know these ladies, and will continue to spend time with them, most moms are very sensible in staying home with sick little ones, because its common courtesy they'd like in return.

People who don't fit into the general mom group standards tend to weed themselves out anyway. Like if your group is vaccinated and an anti-vaxxer shows up once or twice, they often don't return as their general life and parenting philosophy is vastly different than the group consensus. This goes they other way too (not singling anit-vaxxers out here, just an example).

Its so great when your kids are older to have a core group of people to play/commiserate with. It lends itself to much more relaxed social outings, when you have a group of moms and kids that you know...less judgement, sharing snacks, less discipline concerns (free reign to "yell" at each other's kids), someone you can trust to hold a new baby whilst you run after your toddler, or make a bathroom run, no shame that day you show up with spit -up on your clothes and need to bum a diaper!

I didn't have this at all with my first (no friends with kids even) and we moved shortly before my 2nd pregnancy. I made an effort to find a mother's group with my 2nd and it was truly a lifesaver for me.

DO IT!!!

Bonnesetter27 · October 2014

I would go if you know the people. We have a 3 year olds birthday party on Saturday to go to but it is really all of my friends getting together. I know them and know they won't hold DD if they are sick and will wash their hands etc. Germs are scary but I think she encounters more germs at the pedi's office. I have also had a viral eye infection and have managed not to give it to her. If you don't know them then maybe wait a few weeks. Go get some friends!

HorseLover11 · October 2014

Thanks ladies!! I do know a few in the group already but the babies now gives us a reason to hang out and not just be acquaintances

Ahlome08 · October 2014

Honestly, as much as I want to say go for sanity's sake, I'm telling you don't. Not even if you know them, period. Germs spread through more Han just touching and I had to learn that with my sick 3 week old. My In laws were watching him and FIL was just getting over a cold (something no one even told me!), and MIL got sick soon after. Just remember, some of the scariest germs/diseases are airborne.

conradraging · October 2014

I would go if I liked people, but in basically a hermit anyway. But you should go. Because sanity.

mrsdanielleM2010 · October 2014

conradraging said:
I would go if I liked people, but in basically a hermit anyway. But you should go. Because sanity.

If I only ever went places I like all the people... I would never leave my house.

CplusJ=S · October 2014

I would go if I were you. We have been taking our newborn out since day 3. Out to eat, evening walks to the park, the mall, indoor play space, library story time, my toddler's swim lessons, & mommy & me class. The key for us is babywearing. When he is on my wrap or ring sling, others don't try to mess with us and it keeps him away from their germs. There is no way I could sit inside with a toddler all day we would go insane. With my first we didn't go anywhere other than the doctor or to see my LC for weeks. No way that could happen this time around. Of course this is one of those decisions that you have to make as a parent. Do whay you're comfortable with and what works for your family.

conradraging · October 2014

mrsdanielleM2010 said:

conradraging said:
I would go if I liked people, but in basically a hermit anyway. But you should go. Because sanity.
If I only ever went places I like all the people... I would never leave my house.

Oh I mean if I liked any people at all. Not like all of them, please. I think me and H first bonded over the fact that we hate everyone and spend most of our time out silently judging others.

RedBaramid · October 2014

@conradraging Hahaha This is exactly my H and I! We just people watch and question their life choices. We don't have many friends locally but that's because most of them moved so we just don't see them frequently. We seem to only get more picky about friendships as we get older.

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