So way back on the breastfeeding thread I brought up a future suck it thread idea for posting all the things people told us we couldn't do and now we can say "suck it!" Because we told them so! So post your "SUCK IT!" story!
My parents and in laws thought I was crazy for wanting to use cloth diapers. They told me it would never last and I would give up withing the first couple of weeks. Well - it is almost four months later and we are still going strong!! My mom watches LO once a week while I am at work and she loves them now too!! (My in laws still think it's gross and stupid but whatever I don't really care what they think :P)
During the first weeks of breastfeeding I was "blessed" with mastitis twice, had bruised nipples and a cluster feeding newborn whose hunger was insatiable. I thought it was my body's way of telling me to give up. Well 4 months in, I'm still going strong, so SUCK IT, boobs!!
This is back in the pregnancy days, but I work in retail and when I found out that a store was opening an hour from where my parents live (I previously lived 4 hours away) I told my store manager and district manager that I wanted to transfer. The only problem was that the store's grand opening date would be two days before my due date, and leading up to grand opening is the "store set" involving 2 weeks of fast paced, hard labor. Basically this: 7am to 7pm, 7 days per week for two weeks with no days off, in order to take a building from an empty shell to something fit to present to the public. I had never been involved in one before, but had hear a lot about what is involved because my husband works for the same company and had done a set previously. Both my manager and district manager told me that it was impossible for a pregnant woman to work a store set and that I might as well put in for my maternity leave to start two weeks early. Those men didn't know a thing. I did not want to sit back and let everybody else do the work, then come in 3 months later as a complete stranger. I told everyone, I WILL make it to grand opening. Long story short, I contacted the new store's manager (who is a bad-ass female) and got permission to work the set. And I killed that set. Worked 75/week (after lunches), made it to grand opening, started my maternity leave ON my due date, and still didn't give birth until a week late. SUCK IT old managers!
This thread is awesome. I haven't had my "suck it!" moment yet (BFing didn't work out... I was really hoping to be able to tell off a few doubters about that one!) but we do still plan on making all of LO's baby food ourselves so I hope that one comes to fruition!
For now, my only real one is that I think a lot of people worried about my ability to care for and nurture my daughter, in part because I had literally zero experience with babies before she was born, and also because I am typically the farthest thing from an "emotional" person, so some people - including myself - worried that I wouldn't love her enough, or be affectionate, or whatever. I now realize how silly all of that is and snuggling my LO brings me the most joy out of everything in my life. So to the people who thought I had a cold, dead heart (including myself) I say, "Suck it!"
A lot of people balked at the idea that I wanted an unmedicated birth and swore I'd be begging for drugs. Well suck it because not only was it unmedicated, but I didn't even scream or curse :P
And I second the suck it about cloth diapering. 5 months strong and counting!
I was told I wouldn't be able to start CDing until babe was 6 months. We started exclusively at about 7 weeks, but used them before that as well.
I was told we couldn't/shouldn't take babe out anywhere for 4-6 weeks. I took her everywhere like my little sidekick including on vacation when she was 5 weeks and she did amazing and didn't get so much as a sniffle until starting DC at 3 months.
I was told by everyone that our sex life would go out the window since we had a baby. Nope!
Same as PP re labour - I'm a complainer with the most mild of things. I wanted a med-free delivery, and boy, did I get it. No swearing, no screaming, no drugs. Although it was a quick delivery, so I may have changed my mind lol. So SUCK IT everyone who thought I couldn't make it through a natural delivery.
eta Also SUCK IT judgy aunt who didn't think I should BF. SUUUCK IT
I was told that I wouldn't be able to get out anywhere by myself with the baby for the first few months. Not only do I get out a few times a week, including going to see old friends every other week, but I've driven to and taken the DC metro with LO alone...TWICE. So SUCK IT doubters.
People said that moving away from the city and having DHs commute be 2 hours was going to kill our marriage and I would end up playing the role of a single mom. DH takes the baby as soon as he gets home most days and helps tons not he weekends. Plus our marriage is still going strong so those people can suck it.
Also in the med free labor camp. People said that I would be BEGGING for the drugs, and granted if my labor with the two contractions at a time thing was longer than 4 hours, I may have been. I did scream though. SUCK IT.
MIL posted something on her fb page today that says "mommy knows well, but grandma knows wellest."
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With that grammar? Obviously not.
Said by the woman who doesn't/wouldn't qualify for the rights to see my child, as seen by the state, my husband, and I.
SUCK IT.
ETA: Our DD is her only grandchild.
My "suck it" would totally be the med free birth too. Everyone thought I wouldn't do it and my mother was pissed that I did. Granted there was a lot of screaming and cursing but mostly at the resident manhandling my lady parts bc "Epidural" was accidentally checked in my medical record. PS stitches are bitches.
I'm with @babygabe614 in that BFing didn't work so I never got to say it suck it to anyone about that. I'm lucky that those people who were skeptical on the BFing are not the "I told you so" type. (I think "I told you so" would be the flip side of "suck it")
Just a note on the med free thing...I did two hours med free at 5 cm and 3 minute apart before I got my epidural. Also had 30 unplanned med free minutes during transition - whoops, empty epidural med syringe. Never planned to go med free but was just curious what it might be like and now think that next time I'll go the med free route. It is doable... but I think I'll need a doula.
I didn't have a doula, but a super supportive nurse. My hospital intentionally pairs you with a nurse that has had a birth as similar as possible to your birth plan. She was awesome!
Well I guess I should share my own lol. I also got so much hate and skepticism about cloth diapering and here we are 4 months later and still going strong! Suckit!
To the haters back in college that hated on me and my husband for getting engaged after dating a year and said we will never make it even to the wedding? Well here we are 5 years later with a beautiful baby girl! YOU CAN BIG FAT SUCK IT MOST!
And lastly to the team green haters and people who made pregnancy a competition, and also said breastfeeding was impossible, HAHA SUCK IT TOO!
@mrsrahl Yes! Suck it to the team green haters and everyone who chastised me for not wanting to know baby's gender. If it's not coming out of your hooha you get no say in my decision. You're wrong. There are plenty of clothing/bedding/toy/baby gear items that aren't pink or blue.
I heard ALL THE TIME that because DD1 was such a good sleeper/baby in general that DD2 would be an overall PITA - but she's awesome! She's actually a slighter better sleeper than DD1 was (which we didn't think was possible) and she's an easy baby. The only real difference in "difficulty" is DD1 was putting herself to sleep on her own by now and DD2 isn't quite there yet. That being said, it only takes maybe 3 minutes of the sleepy dance to put her down so I think we'll be there soon.
TL;DR: DD2 is just as good of a baby as DD1 was so SUCK IT! Just because I had an easy first baby doesn't mean my second will be a colicky terror who never sleeps.
This makes me happy to hear. Everyone says we are screwed for number 2 because Murphy is so good. I hope I get to say suck it when the time comes.
@mullenem teach me this magic sleepy dance! Lol. I rock her to sleep but problem is now only I can rock get to sleep. She freaks out if anyone else tries!
I heard ALL THE TIME that because DD1 was such a good sleeper/baby in general that DD2 would be an overall PITA - but she's awesome! She's actually a slighter better sleeper than DD1 was (which we didn't think was possible) and she's an easy baby. The only real difference in "difficulty" is DD1 was putting herself to sleep on her own by now and DD2 isn't quite there yet. That being said, it only takes maybe 3 minutes of the sleepy dance to put her down so I think we'll be there soon.
TL;DR: DD2 is just as good of a baby as DD1 was so SUCK IT! Just because I had an easy first baby doesn't mean my second will be a colicky terror who never sleeps.
I heard the exact thing, its almost like they were wishing it on us because DS was such a good baby. Although I do have to say in the beginning DD wasn't as good as DS was but she's completely grown out of it and now it's my toddler that's giving us a run for our money.
Re: The "SUCK IT!" thread
And I second the suck it about cloth diapering. 5 months strong and counting!
eta Also SUCK IT judgy aunt who didn't think I should BF. SUUUCK IT
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
@skamber - WTF? That would make me sooo mad!
Just a note on the med free thing...I did two hours med free at 5 cm and 3 minute apart before I got my epidural. Also had 30 unplanned med free minutes during transition - whoops, empty epidural med syringe. Never planned to go med free but was just curious what it might be like and now think that next time I'll go the med free route. It is doable... but I think I'll need a doula.
To the haters back in college that hated on me and my husband for getting engaged after dating a year and said we will never make it even to the wedding? Well here we are 5 years later with a beautiful baby girl! YOU CAN BIG FAT SUCK IT MOST!
And lastly to the team green haters and people who made pregnancy a competition, and also said breastfeeding was impossible, HAHA SUCK IT TOO!
(Fewww that felt good )