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momthatliftsmomthatlifts member
edited October 2014 in May 2014 Moms
I'm actually not comfortable posting it. Disregard. It's just too sad

ETA: nothing wrong with me. I apologize I should have been more specific! Video of a baby born with trisomy 13. It's a short documentary to his very last breath. I was asking if anyone saw it but I was too afraid to post it because I didn't want to be inconsiderate of any of are losses. It's extremely sad.

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  • bridetobe9132013bridetobe9132013 member
    Oh no :( I hope everything is ok!
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  • kendy20kendy20 member
    T&P for whatever you guys are going through.
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  • momthatliftsmomthatlifts member
    Oh no its not me. I figure some of you saw the post. I will re edit.

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  • kendy20kendy20 member
    That is sad, :( but like pp glad you and de are okay.
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  • momthatliftsmomthatlifts member
    Wow so sweet of all of you to be so kind! Yep we are ok.

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  • mrsbtobe20122mrsbtobe20122 member
    I just saw it. Very sad. Def struck a cord with my losses and having such a tough day with DS (fussy sick kiddo)... Really put things into perspective. So, so incredibly grateful for him--- screaming and all.


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  • Bacon2Bacon2 member
    I saw it. Truly heartbreaking. I cried through the entire video.
    Such strong amazing parents.
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  • momthatliftsmomthatlifts member
    mrsbtobe20122 said:

    I just saw it. Very sad. Def struck a cord with my losses and having such a tough day with DS (fussy sick kiddo)... Really put things into perspective. So, so incredibly grateful for him--- screaming and all.

    I had dd I'm my arms because i was feeding her at the time. Bawling my eyes out and gasping. Dd immediately passed out in my arms and i truly did not want to put her down .

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  • spinsoffresonancespinsoffresonance member
    edited October 2014
    That sound so sad. I don't think I can watch. But personally I don't understand why you would carry that child to term (sorry if this offends anyone). It just seems no matter how much you want a child, that it would be a much bigger heartache to see your baby die a certain death than to terminate a pregnancy.
    ETA now I'm the one being inconsiderate, flame away.
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  • momthatliftsmomthatlifts member
    Yeah its definitely a tear jerker. I tried telling my mom about it today and when I got to the part of the father grabbing his lifeless body from the mother I broke down in tears

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  • pandadairpandadair member
    edited October 2014
    ^^^ Lovetits x1000. @kitchencolors bringin' the troof.
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  • tbiscuit18tbiscuit18 member
    I just watched this on FB. DS was snuggling with me at the time and I think that's the only reason I didn't lose it. My heart breaks for those families and at the same time I feel so blessed for each day I have with my own DS.
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  • mrsbtobe20122mrsbtobe20122 member
    MerryLove said:

    ^^^This. There was a part where she said something along the lines of this way they were acknowledging his life instead of pretending it never happened. I don't think parents who TFMR are pretending their babies never existed. Both decisions are incredibly painful and arrived at after careful consideration. Perhaps some parents may choose to terminate in a trisomy 13 case, for instance, because being born is a scary situation and immediate life outside the womb is overwhelming and uncomfortable. A newborn is not cognizant enough to understand the beauty of life and is only aware of its senses, many of which are overstimulated to the point of discomfort in the first few days; add to this the discomfort of difficulty breathing and other complications and it makes sense why some parents might consider termination the gentler and more life-affirming choice. I respect both choices, but do feel that some of the comments may be hurtful for those who have TFMR.

    Thank you for respect.


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  • momthatliftsmomthatlifts member
    edited October 2014
    I'm happy I didn't post the video and everyone was able to choose whether to watch or not on their own, but we can still have a discussion on it. I personally would terminate. I watched the video for a second time and I know I could handle it. However, in part of the video it said they sent him home with pain meds and an oxygen tank. Is it really worth it? I mean, the poor child had to be on pain meds. I guess it is worth it to some people. I wouldn't be comfortable with it.

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  • THD7580THD7580 member
    Omg so curiosity got the best of me and I watched this heart breaking video this morning on FB. My god I cannot even imagine. My stomach is still in knots and I couldn't hold DS close enough after this. There are no words for families that go through this. I admire their strength over anything. I don't think I could be strong enough for the heartache and watching your beautiful baby boy pass right before your eyes.
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