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daycare insight needed
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Hello ladies!
I don't think I've posted on this board before - I have 1 DS - 10 months old. He's been in day care since 4 months, but recently had to move locations because his location had to close (nothing bad). I was sad about this, but moved him to a location with the same day care because some of the teachers and babies were also going, and thought the transition would be easier. Unfortunately it was pretty rough and now I'm trying to decide if I should move him again - to a day care I've toured and like, and is recommended by a colleague, or keep him where he is since he seems to have adjusted . He'll be moving to the 1 year old room in a couple months, so maybe things wilb e better? Some of his old teachers are in that room.
First of all, I guess the main question I have is, is it normal for a day care to switch teachers around randomly?
At drop off today I was told his normal teachers were moved to another room and 2 other teachers would be there. The reason I got was that they were trying a new thing to get all of the teachers to work with all of the kids - but September was the beginning of their new year, so it's only been a month, and why on a Friday of all days, with no notice? Is this common to do?
Second, at what point would you move your baby, potentially causing disruption in his life and upsetting him, versus keeping him somewhere that you're not entirely comfortable with?
Background: he cried a lot the first 2 weeks at the new place, but now seems to be fine. He eats and sleeps and has regular diaper changes, and once a week or so they do art work . But his reports always seem to be missing information, I have to double check. His first week I left a note with his schedule and the morning teacher didn't give it to the regular girls, so he missed his first bottle. They don't always follow my requests (like if he didn't want to nurse in the morning and I ask them to give a bottle a bit earlier, they might give him food instead). The place seems like it could be cleaner, and when I made a complaint about the carpet needing to be vacuumed they seemed annoyed. In the month that he's been there, I have barely ever seen them on the floor playing with the babies. There are 2 teachers and 7 babies, so I'm sure it can get chaotic, but I would think I would see this more often.
With all that said, I'm a FTM and I"m sure I give that vibe. I don't want to move him and feel the same way somewhere else - am I asking too much of them?
Sorry so long! Kudos to you if you read all of that. Thanks in advance
I don't think I've posted on this board before - I have 1 DS - 10 months old. He's been in day care since 4 months, but recently had to move locations because his location had to close (nothing bad). I was sad about this, but moved him to a location with the same day care because some of the teachers and babies were also going, and thought the transition would be easier. Unfortunately it was pretty rough and now I'm trying to decide if I should move him again - to a day care I've toured and like, and is recommended by a colleague, or keep him where he is since he seems to have adjusted . He'll be moving to the 1 year old room in a couple months, so maybe things wilb e better? Some of his old teachers are in that room.
First of all, I guess the main question I have is, is it normal for a day care to switch teachers around randomly?
At drop off today I was told his normal teachers were moved to another room and 2 other teachers would be there. The reason I got was that they were trying a new thing to get all of the teachers to work with all of the kids - but September was the beginning of their new year, so it's only been a month, and why on a Friday of all days, with no notice? Is this common to do?
Second, at what point would you move your baby, potentially causing disruption in his life and upsetting him, versus keeping him somewhere that you're not entirely comfortable with?
Background: he cried a lot the first 2 weeks at the new place, but now seems to be fine. He eats and sleeps and has regular diaper changes, and once a week or so they do art work . But his reports always seem to be missing information, I have to double check. His first week I left a note with his schedule and the morning teacher didn't give it to the regular girls, so he missed his first bottle. They don't always follow my requests (like if he didn't want to nurse in the morning and I ask them to give a bottle a bit earlier, they might give him food instead). The place seems like it could be cleaner, and when I made a complaint about the carpet needing to be vacuumed they seemed annoyed. In the month that he's been there, I have barely ever seen them on the floor playing with the babies. There are 2 teachers and 7 babies, so I'm sure it can get chaotic, but I would think I would see this more often.
With all that said, I'm a FTM and I"m sure I give that vibe. I don't want to move him and feel the same way somewhere else - am I asking too much of them?
Sorry so long! Kudos to you if you read all of that. Thanks in advance
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Re: daycare insight needed
Agree with PPs. You need to be 100% comfortable with where your child is and who is caring for him all day. At 10 months, they adjust MUCH easier than they do at 2. I would make the switch now, let him ease into it (maybe take a few days off work and bring him for 2 hours one day, 4 the next, etc) and then pull the plug. You will be so much happier.
I agree about moving if you aren't completely happy. In the situation you describe I would probably move centers. It sounds like they are just moving teachers around on a rotation for training?
I don't agree with moving new teachers in and out of rooms for that age group at all. I mean if you have a staffing issue that's one thing, but just rotating all the teachers out of the room (including a lead teacher) to give teachers more/different experience would bother me if it was going to be an ongoing thing they are doing often. I feel like you're much better off if you at least have at least one lead teacher who is assigned to your room and that doesn't change (even if that teacher is only there for certain hours like 7-3 or whatever) barring some big staffing issue.
I want to note, though, that at 10 months my DS had really bad separation anxiety even though he was watched by my mother from 4 weeks to almost 2 years old! Basically one day around that age, he just started crying when I left, b/c he realized I was leaving.
I think you may find the same whether he's moving rooms, moving centers, or is just going through a phase.
I hate to say it...but he's almost 3 now...and I don't remember how long it lasted, maybe a week or a couple of weeks? I have a memory of the first day it happened - b/c it made me want to cry! But all I remember now is that he got over it. Which is good news, it means his separation issues may become just a fuzzy memory in a few years.