I need a hubby vent....

dmosquera4 · October 2014

ok let's start with two days ago..... we have a dog and DH is supposed to take him out in the morning before goes to work around 6am so when I wake up(7-8am)I can feed change and Etc with the baby and then feed my self, I take the dog out twice during the day the DH takes him out before bed... Well that day was a realy hard one,Lo has been teething and he was crying all day, hubs didn't take the dog out in the morning so I had to and I didn't get to eat until around 11am after I took care of everybody and LO was fine. I cooked dinner cleaned the house and told DH that it had been a really tough day and I was exhausted, anyways fast forward; I had bathed the baby put him down and went downstairs to sit down and he then asked me if I could take the dog out (I mean seriously? Didn't you just listen to me saying I had a hard day plus I did everything in the house today like wtf!!!!) we fought he apologized blah blah blah.

Today: same thing today and to top it off he had the nerve to go take a fucking nap!!!!!!!..... then I am bathing the baby and LO starts crying DH runs up to ask what did I do to the baby to make him cry.... I mean come on dude don't you have some kind of sense on how to talk to a deprived of sleep tired mom?

He walked out of the bathroom cursing because I said what do you think I was doing drowning him? He is a baby babies cry... He left the bathroom saying and I quote "why do you have to be such a sarcastic bitch"

OK I am done sorry for it being so long, I needed to get this of my chest I'm so mad I can't even

Can I add to the fact that I tried to initiate sex like a month ago and he completely rejected me?

Ok now I'm really done :'(

kelbel2440 · October 2014

I'm really sorry you are going through this. This has been my life for the last 6 months since LO was born. It's so difficult and exhausting. I get very mean and snippy when I'm tired and have definitely been called many things, typically ending with bitch. If I can give any advice it would be to try and talk to him and open up about how he is making you feel, and encourage him to open up too. Maybe he has stuff going on you don't know about. My DH and I have barely spoken for weeks, I can't remember the last time we kissed, and three days ago he consciously decided he is not going to say I love you anymore. We are having a discussion this weekend to decide if our 7 year marriage and 12 years together is even worth the fight anymore. I'm not saying you are the same, but what I thought was simply fighting over little shit for the last 6 months has now turned into something so much bigger. I hope your DH is more open to talking with you and he can hopefully see how hard you are working to make sure everyone is well taken care of. This is one of the hardest times of my life but when I think about all I accomplish every day I can at least give myself a pat on the back and you should do the same! Good luck with your DH!

csmily51 · October 2014

Um the "bitch" shit would stop immediately. I didn't just fucking carry our child for 9 months to be called a bitch. I may be acting like one, but by him calling you a bitch, he's a douche, end of story. And on a serious note, they just don't get it. Why I don't know, but they're insensitive, lazy and prissy about so much shut when it comes to the baby. Don't get me wrong, I love DH, and he's been great, for the most part, but there are times when I'm like really, REAlLY?!

kmos816 · October 2014

Sorry you are going through this... DH and I had a similar thing and I just needed to open up to him and tell him how I was feeling- and told him swearing at me was unacceptable. Things are much better now and he is now starting to help out around the house (I'm a working mom). For us it helps to have these talks in bed before we go to sleep. I would also encourage your DH to help or start doing bathtime.

juniper75 · October 2014

Yeah - my DH and I are fighting all the time too. Enough to make me bring up the topic of marriage counselling more than once. Its really hard when you are so tired and sleep deprived. Or even just having someone to be responsible for 24/7. They don't understand the weight of that or how hard it can be when you are having a tough day. Hugs momma's- it will get better. I don't remember when we started getting along better after my first, I think it was when we all started getting more sleep.

Maybe we shouls have a my DH is being a dick thread for awhile - lol

hlm184 · October 2014

The cursing and name calling needs to stop yesterday. If you are also engaging in that behavior, that needs to stop as well. Work with him to find a good time for a serious conversation, when neither of you are distracted or angry. Then tell him what's wrong using "I" words. I find with guys it also helps if you can give them something to do - guys are "fixers." They hear about a problem and need to fix it. What jobs does your H have regarding baby? Things got smoother for us after DH took over bedtime (whenever he's home). It's time to bond with the baby, DH got more comfortable and confident dealing with him, so he's more willing to take the baby at other times and give me a break. HTH!

dmosquera4 · October 2014

It definitely puts a strain on our relationship nobody tells u how hard this is gong to be be @kelbel2440‌ I am so sorry to hear that I am here whining about this and you have something more serious I hope talking it over makes it better!

I dont ever respond to the behavior when he is been a dick, I just walk away.... I'm spanish and I know If I get to a point shit is going to go down.... I do need to talk to him on a serious note; the thing is that we talk to them they're good for like a day or two and then go back to not caring .

But like you ladies said I'm going to let him do bath time from now on and see how it goes from there, I know things will get better but this is super hard

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