We brought home our second adoption miracle in May, and things have been going really well. Our birthmom wanted a very open adoption with visits on a semi-regular basis and texts/emails/phone calls regularly. I have been texting her every few days with pictures (at least weekly) and for over 2 weeks have had no response. I want to give her space, and for things to be on her terms...but I know she had trust issues and I want to be sure she is getting my texts. I also mentioned a June visit (about a month after the first visit) and she answered my text but did not address the visit. Should I just leave it be? I don't want her to feel pressured, but since she made it so clear she has never been able to trust anyone before I want to be sure I am following through the way I said I would.
We love the concept of a very open adoption, and think it is healthy for our baby girl... but also realize it is on her terms. So please help...
TIA !!
Re: Question about birthmom contact
I would leave it be. I know it's hard, but she may be dealing with a million different things that could lead to her not texting back right now: she could be grieving, she could have had a change in her life (new job, loss of job, new relationships), she could just be busy. I would continue to text her pictures or messages, but let her respond to you in her own time.
We have a semi-open adoption with DD's birthmom and we sometimes go several weeks without hearing from her. Then just as I start to worry about her, she responds and all is well again.