Help me make decisions about my stuff

boogerbearoriginal · October 2014

H/I are about 90% sure we're done with kids. Unless something dramatic changes in the next 2 years, which would give us more money magically lol. I'm sad about the idea, but warming up to it by focusing on positives of being done with baby stage soon.

Anyhow, we have a bunch of shit saved - clothes (different sex and different season born = lots of baby clothes), gear, and cloth diapers. I can't decide what to keep and what to get rid of since there's still some undecided part that thinks we might change our minds.

WWYD? I like the idea of decluttering, but I feel like it's a step towards finalizing the end of more kids and just makes me sad/anxious. Oddly enough LO growing bigger, etc doesn't make me sad but this does. Emotions are weird.

versed · October 2014

We're 97% done and not something we decided until after DS2 was born. I have a keepsake box for the meaningful outfits and baby things, but I'm selling/donating most of it.

I belong to some yard sale sites so I list the items on there for a bit, and whatever doesn't sell is either given to friends or donated.

We're moving soon so the idea of moving less stuff is appealing. Really appealing. And I'm still holding on to some things for that 3% chance we go for #3, but I wouldn't be sad to buy all new things either

JackieP1023 · October 2014

I probably shouldn't comment on this, because I am a bit of a pack rat. (only a bit-I have family members that are worse!)

We are still unsure as to whether we will have another or not. We won't actively try for a few years, for sure. We likely won't go the route of fertility help again, although we aren't ruling it 100% out, either. (We needed help to conceive DD).

That said, I am keeping almost everything, just in case. We plan to store everything in totes, in a room that we don't use very often. (We have an office/guest room in the basement, plus another guest room/craft room-neither are used much.) There is probably about a 30% chance that we won't have any more, just because we can't without help--I'm still keeping everything, and plan to give it to my brothers or sisters when they have kids, if we don't end up having another.

I like Carissa's suggestion-keep the things you REALLY like, and get rid of anything else.

sdlaura · October 2014

I would probably keep it until I was 100% sure I was done. As nice as it would be to declutter, the way life sometimes works would probably mean that you decide to have another immediately after getting rid of everything

boogerbearoriginal · October 2014

LOL @sdlaura - that's one of my worries, like will I regret this in 2 years?

We technically have the space for it, just makes it a little cumbersome to access stuff in our storage area. So having less in there would be better. And I think about how few clothes I was able to reuse from LO1 since LO2 is a girl (and while I'm not opposed to girls in blue, I didn't put her in Mamas Big Guy onesies lol) plus she was born in Feb and he was born in July so even if they were the same sex, a lot of the clothes weren't season appropriate.

@bookshelves, unfortunately pretty much all of my friends have kids or don't want kids, so they don't need it. And my sisters are both done with kids, as are the ILs. My brother doesn't want kids and lives in CO so yea. I can pass down clothes to my SIL, which I suppose she'd give back if we ever needed them but we wouldn't consider a third until LO2 is at least 2yrs (meaning getting KU then, so 3yrs until I need the stuff back).

I think I'm just having a hard time with totally closing off the possibility, but if we've got money for a third in general, we'll be able to buy some clothes for phantom baby lol. So I need to let it go (as the Frozen chick says).

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