To the bosses of the board

jaycatsby · October 2014

Enough is enough.
There are quite a few of us here w end of month due dates who are just starting to post.

We have questions that you had 3 weeks ago, and deserve to be able to post them anew, just like you did.

We have the right to choose to post seperate threads. Maybe I don't want to scroll through 18 pages of your symptoms from 2 weeks ago. I want to post about mine, today. And I want to know who else, today, might be feeling like me.

We have come here for community more than information. If I want info about my symptoms, I can google. I can even search the April 2015 board, or May 2014. But it's not just info I want, even though my post might ask "is this normal/ok?" If I want to talk to someone else taking iron pills today, I'll start a thread.

We also have the right to say what types of posts and what questions are ok with us here without being shamed for being sensitive or accused of being ignorant.

May is my month, this is a public forum, and I should not be told to go elsewhere to find the community that I need. We can create a community here based on all our needs.

beezybaby · October 2014

You do have all those rights, and maybe people should be more empathetic to those whose due dates are later, and maybe they shouldn't "shame" you-for anything. It isn't fair that those ladies that have early due dates get to post every little thought and feeling, and everybody is supportive and helpful, and then for late month due dates its totally unacceptable to post those exact same things.

BUT this is just sort of how it is here. It is an unfortunate aspect of the bump community. It isn't going to change. You can take the bad with the good, and there is a lot of good, or, as others seem to have suggested, find a different site that is....cushier. All\ BMB on TB are like this, worse I would say, than May15. It isn't this particular set of women...it just is. My suggestion is, you seem to have connected with a number of women who feel the same as you. Seek the support you need from them, especially when it has to do with timing related symptoms.

Pintobean39 · October 2014

I'm about over all these special snowflakes. It's like talking to a 2 yr old. You just don't get it, and no matter how many times we tell you you still won't. You just want to cause problems. Go find another forum.

tashad18 · October 2014

It is too early for this shit. There are no bosses on the boards. Mods yes, but no bosses.

I think the overwhelming majority of people were tired of the same shit being posted so a discussion was had on how to declutter the board. Obviously we are trying to be supportive or we wouldn't have and still wouldn't be finding ways to discuss symptoms in a more organized manner.

lgsdesigner · October 2014

You don't have to "scroll through 2 weeks of our symptoms from 2 weeks ago". I created a daily symptoms post...use it.

jaycatsby · October 2014

I guess the answer is really I'm just not cool enough to hang here.

I consider this more of a community board than support board. That's my need...community.

I think iron and vitamins are interesting. Food-based, chewable...so many choices.

I think calling people special snowflakes is a way of invalidating an opinion and shaming some one.

I think that no one deserves to be told that "no one" shares their opinion.

gsancho · October 2014

Do you also go to TMZ and tell them to give celebrities their privacy? Or lecture people on twitter about the overuse of hashtags? What do you think you are going to accomplish with a post like this?

All boards on this site have a daily/weekly threads for people to post common topics in order to limit clutter. And all boards on this site have some level of snark, get tired of repetitive posts, and aren't all about rainbows and happy feelings.

There's nothing wrong with realizing a site is not for you and simply moving on. Why is that so hard for some people?

ChanelA · October 2014

These post have to stop. It is what it is take it with a grain of salt or leave it. I myself made a post that turned into snarky remarks was I pissed off about it yes but hey this is the internet. Overall I can say I have found more support and factual response on this site than any other. While I was less than pleased with that one post I also have gotten tons of support during this limbo situation. It's annoying to have to scroll through pages and pages just check on other people or check in the limbo thread.

VeganOnTuesdays · October 2014

This is seriously still going on? So much so that a speeshul snowflake thread had to be created? I mean this in the most matter of fact way as possible. Perhaps the 5 of you that hate it here SO much and obviously want the same thing should ban together and head to a different site. This is the tone of the board and you won't change it with your constant whining! So quit with the AW-ish posts and threads and either get the fuck over it or move on.

gsancho · October 2014

jaycatsby said:

I guess the answer is really I'm just not cool enough to hang here. I consider this more of a community board than support board. That's my need...community. I think iron and vitamins are interesting. Food-based, chewable...so many choices. I think calling people special snowflakes is a way of invalidating an opinion and shaming some one. I think that no one deserves to be told that "no one" shares their opinion.

I may not be speaking for everyone here, but I see TB as a support system more than anything. Not to say we never talk about supplements here, but there are blogs out there devoted to vitamins where they would love to talk about it all day. Really, the internet is a big place!

SnowFlake84 · October 2014

you have the right to post what you want. We have the right to call you out for doing so when we've already had 500 threads on your topic.

DawnLilly · October 2014

@jaycatsby‌ there is a clique. There are cool kids. It's not difficult to join. Actually, it about the simplest thing in the world. To get in the hang of it, try to pick two posts a day where you specifically try to help or support someone else.

Search for posts within our board at the bottom of the screen. It's fine if posts that are a couple days old get bumped up. We normally look at them again anyway. There was a question regarding doplars I remembered seeing and I thought of a question so I searched for it and added my question to the the same thread instead of starting a new one. My question was answered in minutes.

I didn't see your question regarding iron. I am extremely anemic and have low blood pressure. I can attempt to answer your question now if you'd like or you can tag me in your post. I have coffee at the moment and slept well so I am being very patient. Please let everyone know you jumped the gun and apologize for trying to start something. We would be happy to welcome you going forward. Contrary to popular belief, it's not fun when anyone leaves for any reason.

blackbird818 · October 2014

jaycatsby said:

I guess the answer is really I'm just not cool enough to hang here. I consider this more of a community board than support board. That's my need...community. I think iron and vitamins are interesting. Food-based, chewable...so many choices. I think calling people special snowflakes is a way of invalidating an opinion and shaming some one. I think that no one deserves to be told that "no one" shares their opinion.

I think I'm getting a headache.

There's no getting through to these people (ie I'm looking at all of you special snowflakes).

DawnLilly · October 2014

I love when I try to be nice and supportive and they make me immediately regret it.

Morenajuliet · October 2014

LinnyDan12 said:

jaycatsby said:

Enough is enough. There are quite a few of us here w end of month due dates who are just starting to post. We have questions that you had 3 weeks ago, and deserve to be able to post them anew, just like you did. We have the right to choose to post seperate threads. Maybe I don't want to scroll through 18 pages of your symptoms from 2 weeks ago. I want to post about mine, today. And I want to know who else, today, might be feeling like me. We have come here for community more than information. If I want info about my symptoms, I can google. I can even search the April 2015 board, or May 2014. But it's not just info I want, even though my post might ask "is this normal/ok?" If I want to talk to someone else taking iron pills today, I'll start a thread. We also have the right to say what types of posts and what questions are ok with us here without being shamed for being sensitive or accused of being ignorant. May is my month, this is a public forum, and I should not be told to go elsewhere to find the community that I need. We can create a community here based on all our needs.

You can post about your symptoms today in today's symptom thread. That's why it's there.
Maybe I don't want to scroll through 18 pages of the same topic over and over again when I'm trying to be there for the women that need real support while going through something.
No one wants to talk about vitamins. If you want to talk about something interesting go for it. Iron isn't interesting.

I was actually going to ask a little question about iron but now.......maybe no

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rivers714 · October 2014

I just want everyone to get along - I'm so sick of the fighting. You guys are my only support system currently

Morenajuliet · October 2014

LinnyDan12 said:

Morenajuliet said:

LinnyDan12 said:

jaycatsby said:

Enough is enough. There are quite a few of us here w end of month due dates who are just starting to post. We have questions that you had 3 weeks ago, and deserve to be able to post them anew, just like you did. We have the right to choose to post seperate threads. Maybe I don't want to scroll through 18 pages of your symptoms from 2 weeks ago. I want to post about mine, today. And I want to know who else, today, might be feeling like me. We have come here for community more than information. If I want info about my symptoms, I can google. I can even search the April 2015 board, or May 2014. But it's not just info I want, even though my post might ask "is this normal/ok?" If I want to talk to someone else taking iron pills today, I'll start a thread. We also have the right to say what types of posts and what questions are ok with us here without being shamed for being sensitive or accused of being ignorant. May is my month, this is a public forum, and I should not be told to go elsewhere to find the community that I need. We can create a community here based on all our needs.

You can post about your symptoms today in today's symptom thread. That's why it's there.
Maybe I don't want to scroll through 18 pages of the same topic over and over again when I'm trying to be there for the women that need real support while going through something.
No one wants to talk about vitamins. If you want to talk about something interesting go for it. Iron isn't interesting.

I was actually going to ask a little question about iron but now.......maybe no

Oh no, I didn't mean it like that! Go for it. I was thinking of all the threads about PNV's that I've seen here and on TTGP. Plus she had already posted her iron question, which was more just saying she had low iron and then not responding to those who shared their experiences so there wasn't really a discussion.

I had my appt yesterday so I asked my Dr. I'm still taking iron from my pregnancy/giving birth 8months ago. Im kinda nervous to give it up but the Dr. said I could still take it- I just wasn't sure. Yeah- not that exciting.

Poppy715 · October 2014

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Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545 -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!

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