February 2014 Moms
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SAHM check-in 9/30
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What were your successes this week?
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
What helped save your sanity?
Topic for the week: Do you feel like people treat you differently now that you SAH?
GTKY: Happiest mommy moment.
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.
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Re: SAHM check-in 9/30
What were your successes this week?
After last week, everything feels like a success!
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
Identity issues and having to travel are running through the back of my mind stressing me a bit. Thinking about having to pack is a little overwhelming. I'm struggling with what to pack for fall, I'm still used to 85 degree days.
Also, I think a top tooth may be coming in.
What helped save your sanity?
Everything is better than last week.
Topic for the week: Do you feel like people treat you differently now that you SAH?
As someone mentioned a while back, I feel like I have less to talk about with friends. I'm struggling a bit with identity issues and my friends know I miss work, so I have a hard time explaining that I don't really have a plan yet about when to go back to work.
My dad especially seems very worried that I'm not happy at home. He seems to be really concerned about my lack of plan, and I'm stressing that he's stressing.
GTKY: Happiest mommy moment.
When LO was about 4 mos old, he reacted with giggles during our bedtime book for the first time. This was easily the happiest moment in my life. I know it's kinda weird that it wasn't a big moment, like his birth or something. It was just so special for me, that he was loving something I love.
Can someone please post next Tuesday in case I don't have internet at my parents house?. @ShellBell3845 maybe if she's not too busy as a FAHM?
What were your successes this week?
teeth came through! so hopefully the teething has stopped for a bit..or hopefully he gets his top teeth in next and i can be done teething for a while! FX
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week? a very dear friend of mine passed away last week, and i found out on saturday. I was an absolute wreck. he was my former boss, but he was like family to me, and i had lost touch with him about three years ago. Well a few months ago i had tried to get back in contact with him but no one had any information on him and his number had changed. another friend and i had wanted to go to his house to see if he still lived there, but we never got around to it. I am so mad at myself for not following through with her. I wanted him to meet LO so desperately. i know i can't be mad at myself bc of it, but i KNEW something was wrong. i knew i had to see him. if only i had put more effort in. but either way, his health had declined after needing a few surgeries a few years ago, he collapsed saturday while his bf was gone, and when he returned it was too late and john was gone. I still can't believe it, he was like a big brother to me. and he was only 43.
What helped save your sanity? after johns passing pretty much everyone that had ever worked with him at our starbucks all started talking on Facebook and really brought back some great memories, and i got in contact with a lot of people i haven't talked to since high school. so that was great. Were going to plan a memorial service for him out here (he's from indiana so his funeral will be there) so we all can say our final farewells
Topic for the week: Do you feel like people treat you differently now that you SAH?
I'm very lucky in that everyone around me is very supportive of me being a SAHM. most of my family had to go back to work, and only my SIL and my aunt were SAH so everyone is actually pretty envious of me. I know I'm very fortunate to be able to stay at home.
GTKY: Happiest mommy moment. oh man, so so many. I don't think theres any one moment, but i will say, when i see LO just playing and he looks back at me and smiles and shows me those dimples, my heart melts and i cry every. damn. time. i can't believe just how much i love that little guy. its overwhelming in the very best way
and I'm sad to say ill be leaving this check in in a few weeks. i just received my final paycheck from my SAH job. I saved my 6 weeks of bonding FMLA in case this happened, so i have 6 weeks to figure out what I'm going to do. I need to find a day care for LO and a job for me! and also figure out a schedule that'll work with grandpa too since i take care of him from 8pm-10am. Its been very overwhelming. this weekend was just awful. from finding out about Johns passing, and the very next morning finding out that i was going to have to go back to work. sheesh. but I've pulled myself together and I've got the ball rolling on finding a job and a day care. so send me your good vibes that i can find a job that'll afford me to pay for day care and pay my bills!
ETA: Sorry for the novel!!!!
What were your successes this week? Taking LO to a fall festival and surviving a 15 hour solo day. Lo loved the fall fest, and I loved taking him there.
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week? Having some issues with DH, teething, and yesterday. I really lost patience yesterday with LO. Nothing seemed to be going like it should have. We missed story time because of a later than normal nap, and I felt like that story time was going to be the only real interaction with any adults I would have. LO didn't nap, I was irrationally angry at DH for leaving me all day.
What helped save your sanity? I got away for a few hours on Sunday. I was desperate to lay on the couch and binge watch almost anything, but I knew if I stayed home I'd either be on LO duty or housework. I went shopping instead!
Topic for the week: Do you feel like people treat you differently now that you SAH? I think people have weird responses no matter what you do. They're not happy if you SAH, they're not happy if you work... Because I'm a FAHM, I don't have a good answer for this. Before I got my PT teaching job, I had lots of people ask what I was going to do because it was headline news that my current job was ending. And when I told them I was going to SAH, the reaction was always kind of lukewarm.
GTKY: Happiest mommy moment. So many. So so many. Have I told you guys how I cried the first time LO went in his exersaucer because he was so full of wonder? I think his first laugh was one of my favorite happy moments. It was one of those days... You know. The never-ending, I can't wait for Daddy to get home, please do not cry again days. And LO was on his playmat, and something made him laugh. I stopped what I was doing and just listened to him. His laugh was infectious, and soon we were laughing together. In that moment, all was good, and everything was exactly as it should be.
Feel free to bring up any other thoughts, feelings, or concerns you are having.
@JoyBaby5 Walks are important for our daily survival. I’m not sure how we will survive Winter here, but hopefully he’ll be more mobile then. (No crawling yet)
@MissDemeanor I totally get the “normal person” stuff. For so long we went places separately while one of us stayed home with the baby or dropped him off at MIL’s. It’s so nice now.
What were your successes this week?
Got to the gym 2 days last week and so far 2 this week. I weighed myself and I’m not as far from my goal as I thought but still have 20 (in a perfect world) pounds to go before I’m back to pre-baby weight. Just trying to drink extra water and make better choices at home to get me started.
We also got another tooth in and another one started today. The good news is you would never know he’s teething. None of the common “symptoms”. He’s a champ. Thank goodness because 5 months of crankiness was way too much to deal with!
What was your biggest challenge or struggle this week?
I feel fairly “fragile” still. When things go wrong it usually makes me get into one of my deep holes again. After talking to my sister she thinks I should consider medication. I’m not opposed to it, but I’m not bad enough where I feel like I need something like that. I really feel like it’s a mental thing rather than something I need medication to control. So I’m trying to do better at controlling my emotions and when I find myself slipping, find a distractor. I’m determined to get better and have less “meltdowns”.
What helped save your sanity?
The weekend was a great refresher for us. It almost always is. We are continuing to make progress on our house and making it look better on the outside. (the backyard is all weeds and the front lawn is grass and a lot of weeds so there’s plenty of work to be done!)
We also had a play date almost every day last week. It was great for me to talk to friends I hadn’t seen in a while. This week isn’t as exciting but it’s nice to get LO back into his “routine” and let him take naps uninterrupted.
Topic for the week: Do you feel like people treat you differently now that you SAH?
I live in Utah. Most moms here are SAH’s and both of our families are the same and can support that. It’s actually kind of the reverse I think. I think I would feel judged if I chose to continue to work.
GTKY: Happiest mommy moment:
Like many others, it’s hard to pinpoint 1. Would either be finally seeing him after 23 hours of labor, or when he was finally sleep trained and started sleeping through the night consistently.