Anyone else NOT feel ready?

SarahJ517 · October 2014

I'm full term yesterday (37 weeks) and I have everything ready for the nursery, cleaned the house from top to bottom, frozen a bunch of meals, and I just feel like I would be fine being pregnant for a while longer! I'm excited to meet my baby and I'm terribly uncomfortable, but I just feel nervous and overwhelmed like--I'm going to actually have a baby! I'm a second time mom so I'm wondering if having a 2 year old running around has something to do with that. Any thoughts, especially from other second time moms??

hgielrebmik · October 2014

Third time mom here. I know what you mean. I'm ready to be done, but not ready for the chaos of having 3 kids. But don't worry - everything will fall into place and before long you won't remember what you ever did without LO and you will adjust to your new normal. You've got this. Best wishes and enjoy these last few weeks of special time with your toddler.

Emerald27 · October 2014

Oh, I'm totally not ready. Hospital bag isn't packed, present and activities for DS for while we're at the hospital not purchased/prepped. There's still lots to do over here...

CubanPinky · October 2014

3rd time mom here too..even tho my bags r packed, house is spotless and already on maternity leave…i do feel the same way. i have a 9 yr old and a 5 yr old that help out a lot…but still…i almost have panic attacks daily thinking about after LO gets here

Nichole7041 · October 2014

I'm a 2nd time mom with a 17 month old and I'm definitely with you at not feeling ready! I don't know how I'm going to adjust to a toddler and a newborn but I'm looking forward to it

jenndub · October 2014

I packed my hospital bag at 11:45pm the night before my induction this time. I was hoping to go past my due date because I was so busy with everything else. Now that's she here it's all good. But I would have been just fine waiting a little longer.

auglove12 · October 2014

I have everything for the nursery done, bags packed, doing the freezer meals this weekend. But I think because I'm a FTM I am feeling mostly nervous about the pain, the process of it all and recovery (tearing or hemorrhoids)

TheFutureMrs.O · October 2014

So not ready. And stressed out. I have a 16 month old and have been chasing him around. Hubby has been out of town on business. My last day of work isn't til Friday. No bag packed. I'm so behind on things. Feel so overwhelmed right now. RCS in 1 week. We are going to have such a busy weekend.

asarem93 · October 2014

I'm ready to no longer be pregnant, but I'm terrified of actually having an outside baby that I have to care for. The concept of "congratulations here's your baby, don't let it die or be a terrible person... but your on your own" has always baffled me.

pnwlover12 · October 2014

I'm terrified of the logistics of having a three year old and a newborn at the same time. We wanted to have our 2nd kid relatively close in age because I didn't want a huge age gap between them and because I wanted to not worry about being pregnant again later in life. But now that it's almost time, I'm like WTF was I thinking? I should have waited until DD was 5 and more independent! I'm hoping it is just normal jitters and everything will work out, but yeah....really scared.
:-S

KelliRR · October 2014

I'm a FTM, and like pp, pretty much everything is ready (sure, I could make extra meals, clean the fridge out, wash more laundry, but everything that really has to be done is ready) and I'm definitely ready to be done being pregnant. And about once a day I start panicking about actually bringing a baby home and being responsible for it. I'm so consumed by that I haven't even really thought about labor! I think most often about when DH will go back to work (he will take 1 week) and I'll be really in my own, and the hardest to imagine is when I go back to work after 6 weeks. I guess if anything I'm comforted that non-FTMs feel this anxiety, too.

Slapdashalice · October 2014

I'm ready for my c-section (in 6 days!) and ready for my baby to be here BUT not on the same day :-/ Sounds stupid I know but that seems extremely overwhelming! I'm sure we will all make it work though, no matter how nervous we are now.

hippohat · October 2014

Ditto all the others, seriously terrified. Infancy was SO darn hard, I just can't wrap my brain around caring for DD and getting through the early baby days and sleep deprivation, especially with the insane hours my DH is working. We were anxious the first time around, but knowing what's coming is even more torture. I've found myself wishing we knew if baby is a boy/girl just so there's one less unknown! I have a handful of things packed, but most things will be used until we need to go. I hate people asking if I'm ready because I don't know that my answer will ever be yes.

I'm happy that DD is the age she is, she'll be an awesome helper, I'm just dreading feeling like I've upset her happy little life. I'm also lucky that she started preschool this fall, we're hoping that helps everyone.

I am super appreciative that I still feel well enough to be cleaning/crafting/nesting every minute possible, it's helping with the anxiety a lot. And I'm starting Unisom tonight so hopefully I can battle the insomnia a little better

erinchrisitne424 · October 2014

pnwlover12 said:

I'm terrified of the logistics of having a three year old and a newborn at the same time. We wanted to have our 2nd kid relatively close in age because I didn't want a huge age gap between them and because I wanted to not worry about being pregnant again later in life. But now that it's almost time, I'm like WTF was I thinking? I should have waited until DD was 5 and more independent! I'm hoping it is just normal jitters and everything will work out, but yeah....really scared.
:-S

I am worried for the same reasons and my son is almost 4 and a half. He is pretty independenet, but it is still very nerve wracking.

slsl509 · October 2014

Physically I can't wait to not be pregnant anymore. Mentally I'm terrified and I hate to read these threads because I see all the things I haven't done. I think I just have to throw in the towel and say that I've done what I can do and I'm too tired and sore to make the freezer meals or any of that. Sigh

Virginialeigh · October 2014

slsl509 said:

Physically I can't wait to not be pregnant anymore. Mentally I'm terrified and I hate to read these threads because I see all the things I haven't done. I think I just have to throw in the towel and say that I've done what I can do and I'm too tired and sore to make the freezer meals or any of that. Sigh

I totally feel the same way. 37 weeks and I just don't wanna do anything else. DH is convinced it's gonna come at any moment and keeps telling me to pack my bag, but there's still time left. He also insists I put a towel down everywhere I sit.

vrj0522 · October 2014

I have very few little things to take care of and while I'd love to not be pregnant any longer, I am definitely not feeling ready for a second baby. It freaks me out and I seriously wouldn't mind her staying in there until the end, even if that means being uncomfortable. Inside babies are so much easier to take care of.

FFC: I always chuckle a little to myself when FTMs keep talking about being ready to have their baby and they're only at the beginning of 3rd tri or so. If only they knew what was coming, they'd enjoy pregnancy a little bit more and would be rushed to have that baby a little bit less.

staryb · October 2014

FTM and In terms of what i need before my baby is born I'm ready enough but mentally, I don't know how I feel. I cant wait to meet LO but my whole life is about to change and that freaks me out a bit. I have 16 days left until my edd and it feels like forever but forever is really what comes after she's born. I'm really having a hard time wrapping my head around that.

Slapdashalice · October 2014

slsl509 said:

Physically I can't wait to not be pregnant anymore. Mentally I'm terrified and I hate to read these threads because I see all the things I haven't done. I think I just have to throw in the towel and say that I've done what I can do and I'm too tired and sore to make the freezer meals or any of that. Sigh

I cheated and bought lots of Amy's Bowls and frozen dishes from Trader Joe's. I had grand plans to make delicious home-cooked meals but then I decided to sit on my ass and eat cake instead

Nichole7041 · October 2014

I think we talked a little bit about this already but for me every day is going by like molasses. Kicker is I'm only 35 weeks! I think being a stay at home mom is making it go by slower because it's all I think about.

Alyssakai · October 2014

At least once a day I have a mini freak out and half wish that I could go back in time, and think "what the hell were we thinking when we decided to have a baby". I know it's just nerves, a family is all I've wanted as long as I can remember but with everything closing in I'm freaking a little I think.

SarahJ517 · October 2014

I feel so much better after hearing from everyone! I think I expected it to be the same as last time--37 weeks and I was more than ready to go. Maybe it's just being aware of what pp is actually going to be like!

turtlewifey · October 2014

I feel exactly the same way you do! I am hoping to go to my due date, or maybe even a few days after (but not 11 days like last time...that was miserable). I have the essentials ready in case the baby comes, but nothing more. I hope he stays put for a few more weeks at least since like you said, I have a much better idea this time of the craziness that will ensue once baby arrives. He is much easier to care for on the inside than the outside!

ashleyliberty · October 2014

I'm a FTM and doing it on my own father isn't in the picture. I'm 37 weeks today and freaking out about having a baby to raise all by myself. Everything is ready for LO but I'm still feeling anxious and like I'm not ready but then sometimes I feel like I just want her to be here an hold her in my arms.

JessAnnJ · October 2014

Sometimes I feel guilty that I don't really feel excited. Mostly just terrified. As PPs mentioned taking care of an inside baby is much easier than an outside baby and I'm worried about how my 21 month old DD will handle things as well as how I will handle two. I am very worried about breastfeeding and how that will go because I had so many struggles. I'm also worried about how painful my recovery will be. Last time I couldn't do much for the first 4 weeks because I was in a lot of pain.

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