MIL- Genuine advice or just general bitchiness?

garnetandgoldgrace · September 2014

My MIL scolded me the other day for taking baths saying if I didn't take them it would help me get pregnant.

I always thought that was for the guys?

Is her point valid?

Bee1112 · September 2014

Uhhhh no.

I don't really know. But I'm thinking she is wrong.

garnetandgoldgrace · September 2014

DovahFel said:

100% no. And unless you asked her, even broaching the subject seems weird and uncalled for.

That's just her nature. And right after she said that she nagged DH about his gray hairs.

Yay me.

garnetandgoldgrace · September 2014

Ok guys. I am glad that it's not true because.....I already have the bath filled and ready to go. Baths are my escape. A good book and a bath? HEAVEN.

garnetandgoldgrace · September 2014

Budders12 said:

No, you're good. I never take baths, but it's just because I know how gross my tub is.

I take one about 3-4 times a week. no joke.

Elizabethcv · September 2014

autumngrace said:
My MIL scolded me the other day for taking baths saying if I didn't take them it would help me get pregnant.
I always thought that was for the guys?
Is her point valid?

Exactly....tell her you have no balls and not to stress.

nettje said:
Nope. Just affects the swimmers.

Elizabethcv · September 2014

I hate quote boxes....they are in the wrong order ....sorry !

garnetandgoldgrace · September 2014

DovahFel said:

autumngrace said:

Ok guys. I am glad that it's not true because.....I already have the bath filled and ready to go. Baths are my escape. A good book and a bath? HEAVEN.

YES!!!

I'm a bath-a-holic as well. Also, REALLY a bummer about a naggy MIL. My husband got that in my mother. I got an angel. I remember one day I was having a rough time and I finally broke down and asked her for help. She was "fertile myrtle" in the family. When I asked her what I was doing wrong she said, exactly: "You are so smart, and I know you know way more than I do about this. I know you and I know you are doing what is best, but I can certainly pray for you."

That was the golden response for me. Lots of hugging after that.

She sounds fantastic. Honestly it's hard because my fiancé previously (who passed in 2010) has a fantastic mother who I was really close to. I grew up without a mother since the age of 3 so I have never experienced naggy women in my life. So, this provided a bit of a shock value to me.

HippoTooth · September 2014

I'm very thankful that I don't have a MIL that would even bring up TTC.

DaikokuJess · September 2014

OP, I wanted to let you know that you've inspired me to take a bath tonight.

dmsmth · September 2014

I think your MIL is nuts. Enjoy your bath.

mikeandnat · September 2014

Nobody comes between me and my bath time. Especially not my crazy MIL who hasn't been pregnant in 25 years and who was on BC, cigarettes and god knows what else at the time.

PrimRoseMama · September 2014

No. I think it's a misguided advice toward raising your core temp. Supposedly it can create issues, and while pregnant hot tubs are a no-no .

Baths are always fine as they don't maintain constant high temperature that can overheat your body. Saunas & hot yoga are also a thing that I was told to avoid while pg.

However, there is no sense in living like a pg woman until the HPT turns positive.

I don't think it was bitchy, just misinformed.

garnetandgoldgrace · September 2014

DaikokuJess said:

OP, I wanted to let you know that you've inspired me to take a bath tonight.

Yes! yes! Baths for all

Bathing is always a good choice :P

bjdealerok · September 2014

Kind of/sort of on topic (sorry to thread-jack): DH and I are going to a hotel next month for a delayed anniversary get away and it looks like it will be during my fertile window possibly. Does he have to stay out of the hot tub completely? Or can he get in after sex?

catwine · September 2014

autumngrace said:

Budders12 said:

No, you're good. I never take baths, but it's just because I know how gross my tub is.

I take one about 3-4 times a week. no joke.

Lucky!!! Our new tub is so deep that we run out of hot water before it is totally full. I've had one bath in it and the water didn't even come to my chest...sigh.

ayo82 · September 2014

Bubble baths for life! I take one almost every night. A bath with a book and wine is heaven. I will only stop once I'm KTFU.

StikierIten · September 2014

autumngrace said:

She sounds fantastic. Honestly it's hard because my fiancé previously (who passed in 2010) has a fantastic mother who I was really close to. I grew up without a mother since the age of 3 so I have never experienced naggy women in my life. So, this provided a bit of a shock value to me.

I'm so sorry...for both of your losses there.

And your MIL sounds like mine. Words come out judgey instead of inquisitive. It's ok to ask "Why did you do that?" but not "WHY did you do THAT?" you know? My MIL has been nagging us to have kids for 7 years...I'm glad we don't talk much because I might start crying the next time she asks. I just try to breathe and realize it's on her not me.
And FWIW not all women are like that, you just got one of them. You're certainly not alone!

garnetandgoldgrace · October 2014

StikierIten said:

autumngrace said:

She sounds fantastic. Honestly it's hard because my fiancé previously (who passed in 2010) has a fantastic mother who I was really close to. I grew up without a mother since the age of 3 so I have never experienced naggy women in my life. So, this provided a bit of a shock value to me.

I'm so sorry...for both of your losses there.

And your MIL sounds like mine. Words come out judgey instead of inquisitive. It's ok to ask "Why did you do that?" but not "WHY did you do THAT?" you know? My MIL has been nagging us to have kids for 7 years...I'm glad we don't talk much because I might start crying the next time she asks. I just try to breathe and realize it's on her not me.
And FWIW not all women are like that, you just got one of them. You're certainly not alone!

Thanks. I am actually still VERY close with my late fiance's mother. In fact, she loves my husband very much and we celebrate holidays together quite often. In fact, we are going over for dinner on friday to her place.

My husband sometimes says "I am sorry my mom is not as cool as ____'s mom." LOL And this is not in a mean way...

my life is weird.

garnetandgoldgrace · October 2014

Kellybenelly83 said:

I would take the bath and just nod politely. My MIL was told last week that we are TTC. She was sweetly unreactive. I think she is afraid of putting any pressure on us at all, so when DH brought it up she just gave a few cute anecdotes of DH as a baby and insisted we would have the cutest babies ever.
My friend who JUST started TTC is sending me links about cleaning products and thinks my lysol wipe addiction is why I'm not pregnant yet. That one I found a little weird.

really? lysol wipes? Where are people getting this?

yepitsme215 · October 2014

Let me just say: MILs kind of suck. Just today mine was asking me when I was going to get pregnant because she "already has two grandsons, she needs a granddaughter!"

With that said, like some other users have said they can cause yeast infections. I tend to avoid baths because of that, but I've never worried it was gonna keep me from getting pg.

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