My sister and I are very close in age and have done almost everything together. We were both married less than a year a part. She has recently shared with me that she is no longer taking contraceptives. I was surprised as she hadn’t expressed to me that she was ready to start a family. Rather than being super happy and excited, the jealous monster is taking over. I’m almost sure she will become pregnant before I do, because the universe works that way. I keep telling myself that this is a great thing, and it will be awesome if we both have kids around the same time. But again, what if it takes me years to get pregnant? How will I react if she ever gives me the news and I’m still trying? I really hope that you ladies can understand where I am coming from. I really don’t have anyone else I would be willing to share these thoughts with.
Re: Jealous Monster
Problem is she did get KU and is due Oct/Nov. It took her several years to get KU but it still hurts. I am so glad she has never experienced the pain of pregnancy loss.
It has been really tough. I don't know if I have a solution to offer. My sister has been very respectful to me and I really appreciate that. I hope that because you and your sister are so close that you can share your fears with her.
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My guess is that a lot of women who have experienced losses can relate to what you're going through.
I've found out that one of my best friends and H's cousin are pregnant now and I'm sooo happy for them, but I cried each time when they told me the news. Sometimes I wish I lived in a bubble so I didn't have to hear about or see other women's pregnancies, but then again it's real and I think it's important that we face our feelings about it. Just being able to acknowledge that we're jealous is a big deal. But I try not to turn that feeling of jealousy into resentment. I try to remind myself that another woman's pregnancy has nothing to do with my own and I need to keep a positive outlook on the future. ((Hugs))
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. This is very true. What I didn't mention was that when I was having my melt down over my friend's PG my husband (wisely) reminded me that while I might be jealous of their circumstance I wasn't truly envious of their life. I don't have the fragile marriage coupled with a new house and an impending arrival. The point being: everyone is fighting a battle you don't (necessarily) know about. Or if they are not now they will be at some point. Happiness is not guaranteed.
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