need an opinion

jjm8604 · September 2014

im a single mom to a 6 year old girl and am due in February, the dad to this one hasnt been around but likes tp try and give opinions, my daughter helped me pick out a name and hes mad about that, is it wrong of me to ask my daughter what name she wants for a sister? By the way she helped me choose the name Alyviah Kaydance Rose, hes mad because my daughter helped me choose, and he suggested rose so i did include a suggestion of his. What would you all do in this situation? Just curious because i think its a beautiful name and i think having my daughter help pick the name gives her pride in helping

jennjilljo · September 2014

I dislike the spelling but it's a beautiful name. I say keep the name because if the dad hasn't been around then there's a good chance that he will continue to not be around but your daughter will be there the whole time. I have no personal experience so others who are more experienced than me may have better advice. I do love the name and I wish you good luck with this.

jjm8604 · September 2014

Thank you thats what i thought too, i know my daughter will always be here

kefttsc · September 2014

I get that she has his DNA too, but if he isn't around, I vote that he doesn't get a choice.

PeaceofKia · September 2014

I would change the spellings of both Alyviah and Kaydance...I'm thinking you're meaning a play on Olivia and Cadence? The creativity of spelling shouldn't trump the pronunciation and future resume callback IMHO.

But to answer your question, there's nothing wrong with asking for your daughter's input, but remember ultimately, you want a name that the child will grow up with proudly and you included the dad's suggestion, and he should be fine with that because you didn't have to since he's not really in the picture.

Sahara6971 · September 2014

I prefer traditional names or at least traditional spellings.

I don't really have an opinion on who should have a say in the name choice. I mean technically, it is entirely up to you. You could ask for his opinion just so he doesn't feel left out I suppose.

Stargirlb · September 2014

I don't like your spelling (at first read I was like "Ally-VEE-uh KAY-dance?) But if you spell it Olivia Cadence or even Olivia Kadence, that would be much better!

jjm8604 · September 2014

Ok thank you guys my oldest daughter us Shavelle Joy-Mahrie

TexasMamma0809 · September 2014

Don't worry about him. No help with the rough stuff, no input on the fun stuff I say. But i had no idea how to say the first name. I was saying it like "ally-v-uh". That is soooo complicated for the little girl to spell!

mishka29 · September 2014

Until suga wrote Oliva, I had no idea that was the name I was reading. It's great, go with it, but spell it right please!

tammynixx · September 2014

It's a pretty name but I agree with the other PP, please spell it differently. Before sugar posted I had no idea what it was.

foxslaw · September 2014

I agree with PP on the spelling of the name. He shouldn't get a say if he's not around, besides your older Daughter will love being a part of the decision! However, if you are financially dependent on him I do think his opinion matters a little more (like a tiny bit more). Otherwise, who cares?

mommadozer · September 2014

I say go with daughters name choice. He's not around so he should not get that big of a say.

To be honest, I had no idea how to pronounce the name until Sugar posted. Not a fan of names spelled in a unique manner. Your child is going to be constantly correcting her name her entire life.

Irishcurls · September 2014

Even after pps mentioned Olivia, I scrolled back and still couldn't get it. My opinion is that the spelling is doing a very nice name an enormous disservice.

Dani_Love · September 2014

I would spell them correctly it took me forever to figure out the first name. I think it's amazing you included your daughter in something so special and important. If he's not around he has no say

ordinary1 · September 2014

If he hasn't been around, he really doesn't get a say. There is no parenting when it's convenient. I also suggest changing the spelling. I didn't know you were going for Olivia until I read the comments.

twinklymama · September 2014

I was thinking the same way as PPs. I got Kaydance (Cadence), but was totally lost on Alyiviah. I get that its a beautiful sounding name(s), but you and she will be constantly correcting people. I'm Stephanie, and people still muck it up. And that's a common spelling. Maybe Olivia Kaydance Rose?

It makes it even more special that big sister helped pick it out.

srcr2011 · September 2014

I also had no idea what the name was. Now that I know, I love it. I love Olivia

jjm8604 · September 2014

Trin42 that is very cute, i just like unique spellings,

Thank you everyone for the opinions it helps to know what other people think

aggiebug · September 2014

A great post on why spelling matters. I think you should take a look.

Alygohome · September 2014

As someone with a unique spelled name DONT DO IT. Olivia is perfectly beautiful. Alyiah is terrrryble,

maltwin1 · September 2014

I agree that if the father has very little to do with this baby then it should be your decision what you name the baby.

I also agree that Olivia and Cadence are far superior choices for spelling. Using weird spellings just seems like asking for your daughter to have trouble with spelling and pronunciation through out her life.

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