Making Family Freak Out

kimberly_ann81 · September 2014

I moved a dresser down stairs into Peanut's room so I can put his cloths in it and then put Pumpkin's clothing into the nursery dresser. I'm sure my MIL and DH would had died if they knew what I did.

Anybody else doing things that would make family/DH freak out if they knew?

krgriffin26 · September 2014

I've been doing a lot too. I put together the crib, bookcase and nightstand (on different days) while my husband was at work. He works nights so I didn't get yelled at until he came home

My mom was here last weekend and she and my sister put together our dresser because she didn't want me trying that one too. I do more than I should but I do it slowly and drink lots of water and take breaks.

dr_pr · September 2014

I teach a chem lab, and never ever tell H what chemicals I'm responsible for setting and cleaning up. I wear gloves, but a lot of them are volatile and stink up the place. I was actually more concerned when I taught this lab during first tri, but all those vapors can't be good for Artoo now either. It's why I laugh to myself when H tells me he doesn't want me cleaning the bathroom because the cleaners are strong. If he only knew.

ssstephanie214 · September 2014

I ate half a questionable chicken salad sandwich just now. Put the other half away because I felt guilty.

howin23 · September 2014

My family actually worries a lot less about me now that I'm at 32+ weeks than they did around 20 weeks. I guess back then it was more that if I did something wrong the baby wouldn't survive, but now the baby would still survive, just be born way early. Still not good, but I think they figure that at this point the baby is probably strong enough to deal with my lifting crates and doing other silly things.

kfo22 · September 2014

DH set up the crib on almost-toddler low setting, so I adjusted the frame the other day to get the crib skirt on. I felt so accomplished! Just one of a thousand things I need to do...

absolutelymaybe · September 2014

I lifted some heavy boxes to a top shelf in the guest bedroom closet when I was organizing it last weekend. DH was outside mowing the lawn and I didn't want to wait for him.

I googled it (shut up) and it said the concern for lifting heavy items was about injuring your back and not hurting babies. So I figured if babies would be ok I would risk it.

And come to think about it... My back is kind of hurting. Oops.

Bethyboo26 · September 2014

Painted both the upstairs and downstairs of our house... Without a mask (the horror)... And I'm still running which neither my husband or family know about, only my OB.

meeshybee · September 2014

I moved the computer desk and computer while DH was at work a couple weeks ago. DH was annoyed with me, but I'd been trying to get him to do it for weeks and finally gave up.

I also plan to put the crib together by myself. I've done it on my own 3 out of 3 times, I can handle it a 4th.

ejpetey · September 2014

I moved this past weekend and every time I tried to carry or move a box my friends/family told me to stop... which to be completely honest I wasn't too bummed about. Minus the stress, moving while pregnant is actually a pretty good deal as long as you have lots of people to help!

hiketheworld · September 2014

Honestly, most everyone has said nothing about me lifting heavy things. It's always random people or my inlaws. I wish my DH would do things without me asking but he pretty much treats me exactly the same as pre pregnancy except now he doesn't expect me to run to cross a street before the light changes.

We don't have a car so I carry all the groceries home myself. This is getting very difficult for me to do and I've told him that multiple times but he eats dinner at work most of the time and always eats breakfast and lunch at work so I am the only one that eats at home on weekdays. The shopping rarely gets done on weekends.

If I ask him to do something he will, so I just have to ask. Grocery shopping may become something I do online and have it delivered.

aa98 · September 2014

My parents and in-laws were here this past weekend and oh boy, it was a litany of what I can't do in my "condition." Meanwhile, I am pretty sure when my mom and MIL were pregnant they were doing way more. When DH and I were pulling out our futon, they about had a heart attack, but who else is going to do it? My mom and MIL are tiny and I worry they would get hurt, and my FIL shouldn't be lifting heavy objects for medical reasons himself...

I was cleaning the bathrooms for their visit and DH said you shouldn't be doing that, the fumes are bad for the LO. Well, I left them for you for the last few weeks, and have they been cleaned? Sheesh, if you don't want us to do certain things, then you need to step up and do them yourself!

MuchlyGen · September 2014

My husband is used to me. He calls me his Amazon. But he does still sigh over it when I persist in carrying heavy things around, because he's perfectly willing to do it for me and it just doesn't occur to me to ask. I'm trying to do better about asking for help, esp with stuff like taking the car seats in and out of the car where it's super uncomfortable to lean over to do latches, but I just... don't think of it.

kimberly_ann81 · September 2014

I mentioned doing something to my FIL, I think finishing the same retaining wall for my landscaping in the front of the house, and he looked at me and said "Get my son to do it. Don't you be doing that in your condition."

nerkly · September 2014

Has anyone heard a story or know someone who went into labor prematurely because they lifted/moved/shoved something heavy? People at work, home, etc., keep telling me not to "over-exert" myself, but I'm afraid I'll actually lose strength by not taking care of things that seem doable. I need my muscles to get through labor! So yeah, just curious if this is just a general "pregnant women should rest and be coddled or we'll feel guilty" or if there's actual evidence of bad outcomes...

absolutelymaybe · September 2014

@nerkly - Based on my research, the lifting/carrying restrictions have more to do with your joints during pregnancy than starting labor prematurely.

The premature labor concern seems to be more for women who are on their feet all the time.

MuchlyGen · September 2014

@nerkly I always wonder what those people think mothers do when they have more than one kid, haha. I have a five year old and a three year old that feel like sacks of bedrocks sometimes, and I sure don't carry them around for funsies... But I'm mama, which means sometimes they need up. Don't think there is any risk of premature labor (unless your doc has stated otherwise!!!! There are women obviously who have unusual risk), just be careful since your center of balance is totally off and your joints are going to be looser.

kimberly_ann81 · October 2014

@krgriffin26

My DH works 12 hour shifts and right now is the busy season, he's working all kinds of overtime. Good for the budget, bad for family life. I'm kind of in the same boat of having to do most things myself if I want them to get done. Joy of Joys, he goes to night shift the day after LO is due.

jillybean7582 · October 2014

Not this pregnancy so far but with DS I decided one Saturday when I was 37ish wks the family room in the basement needed to be rearranged so baby had more room to crawl around(because they come out crawling around you know), DH was at work and it obviously couldn't wait till he got home. So I spent 4-5hrs rearranging every piece of furniture in our basement about 20times each till I found the perfect arrangement. Talk about crazy nesting! DH was furious.

AnnieRoo13 · October 2014

absolutelymaybe said:
@nerkly - Based on my research, the lifting/carrying restrictions have more to do with your joints during pregnancy than starting labor prematurely.

The premature labor concern seems to be more for women who are on their feet all the time.

This is my understanding too. Your body is producing relaxin to loosen up your joints for labour and this can result in injury if you lift something heavy and pull something out of whack.

DH isn't too worried about me. He had me help him move a china cabinet upstairs and into our attic today. It wasn't exactly light either! I don't like to be too restricted, but I've tried to take it easier than I normally would, take more breaks and drink more water. I find just sitting down for 10 minutes and having a glass of water makes a huge difference if I overdo it.

AnnieRoo13 · October 2014

zengal said:
I still wear my sky-high heels to work all day. I don't know why everyone freaks out, but they sure do.

Oh this is me too! I wear them to my OB appointments too since I go straight from work and the doctor, the nurses and even other pregnant women comment on them.

MissN06 · October 2014

AnnieRoo13 said:

I still wear my sky-high heels to work all day. I don't know why everyone freaks out, but they sure do.
Oh this is me too! I wear them to my OB appointments too since I go straight from work and the doctor, the nurses and even other pregnant women comment on them.

I'm jealous you both can still wear heels they hurt my feet to much right now.

aa98 · October 2014

kyliedaniellexx said:

kimberly_ann81 said:

I mentioned doing something to my FIL, I think finishing the same retaining wall for my landscaping in the front of the house, and he looked at me and said "Get my son to do it. Don't you be doing that in your condition."

The bolded makes me want to scream when people say it to me. FI's nana said it to me not long ago and I was not impressed! Being pregnant isn't a condition, people.

YES! I am so tired of hearing my FIL say this. I do NOT have a condition, I'm pregnant, one of the most natural things in the world. Maybe the word "pregnant" was taboo for the older generation and they replaced it with "condition"?

kemb0001 · October 2014

I think the nesting phase has began. I've been non stop painting our house trying to finish up things before LO arrives. I know I shouldn't be doing it and climbing ladders, but my hubby is never home and honestly, he's a horrible painter. I've also had to do a lot of yard work. I guess I don't mind since it's a little activity although a lot of bending. Oh well, if something needs to be done, I can't just sit around and hope someone will do it right?

kimberly_ann81 · October 2014

At one point in history women were sent into "confinement" the last two months. You were also "in the family way"

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