Worrying!

katiewheels · September 2014

I might sound like a mad woman but is anyone else constantly worrying that they are just no longer pregnant? I find it hard to believe sometimes! even though I'm feeling sick and tired and my boobs feel like a truck has run over them I just can't feel anything or see a bump and I'm terrified at the 12 week scan ( next week) there is going to be nothing there! Someone please tell me they have these irrational thoughts too!

Ncountrygal · September 2014

I've been through it before and I still feel this way sometimes. For now I'm just happy I don't have many symptoms. It's surreal now but the baby will be kicking you before you know it!

Dani428 · September 2014

You're not alone

MPKbaby237 · September 2014

You're normal. I'm in the same boat. I have my ultrasound this afternoon, and I'm trying to plan a full day of meetings at work to keep my mind occupied until 3 o' clock.

kariemomo · September 2014

You're not alone. I keep worrying over everything and keep googling the same things I googled 2 weeks ago. I'm pretty sure I was having gas pains but freaked out earlier, googled a bunch, sat at my desk and just could not stop thinking. I was bored at work today, so my mind went crazy. I come home and my husband tells me there is nothing to worry about and that my gas pains are probably just in my head, because they went away once we started talking about other things. I have an appointment Friday and I'm so nervous about it. But I always say a prayer when I'm starting to worry and it calms me down, usually I pray on my drive home, since I have a 45 min commute.

ashtasticness · September 2014

Definitely know how that feels! I had a missed miscarriage last year and went to the doctor expecting it to be one of the best days of my life and it ended up being the worst. I'm ten weeks pregnant now, have seen my little squishy and the heartbeat but still have this lingering fear that something will be wrong at my 12 week appointment. I just want to hear that little heartbeat now! I have heard that the worries ease up in second and third trimester when your chances of miscarriage are very slim and especially once baby starts to move around and kick up a storm. Hang in there! You definitely aren't the only one

cperteete · September 2014

I felt the same way until my first ultra sound yesterday. I just didn't feel pregnant. Well, the US proved that wrong. Healthy baby with a nice strong heart beat. Then I realized I've spent the last 2.5 months worrying rather than enjoying being happy! Hang in there. Everything will be just fine. Sending calming prayers your way

SMFB · September 2014

My 12 week scan is this morning. I know exactly how you feel. I haven't even had an OB appointment yet so I haven't even heard a heart beat. Also my boobs don't hurt this morning for the first time.

wolowizard · September 2014

I feel the same way and have felt that way for weeks. My NT scan is tomorrow. It'll be my first ultrasound. Hopefully that will help it feel more real. I recently was able to feel my uterus for the first time. That helped, but seeing a baby in there will be more convincing lol.

redneckmomma25 · September 2014

I have my NT this morning and I almost wanted to cancel because I was so worried they would day the baby stopped growing a few weeks ago.

Mel&John2013 · September 2014

I feel that way all the time!

Sargeantpepper · September 2014

It's completely normal. I talked to my Mom and a couple of friends with children and they all said the same thing, get used to worrying because you are going to worry for the rest of that child's life lol. If it gets too overwhelming, talk to your doctor.

jk3610 · September 2014

i have my 12 week appt tomorrow and i can't wait for it to be over, just to have the doctor tell me it all still looks good. it's hard to wait weeks without any new information

Sharon&Paul · September 2014

I have symptoms and I still worry. It is normal to worry.

emb518 · September 2014

I'm 12 weeks 5 days today and have my 12 week US today and am a nervous wreck! This is a big milestone and I'm just praying it all goes well!

springlove59 · September 2014

I'm 13 weeks and still get worried about that. You are not alone in feeling this way!

wholebunches101212 · September 2014

Yeah I feel like that all of the time and I have googled how do you know,if your still pregnant. Haha

ChristineG25 · September 2014

You are definitely not alone. I have my ultrasound on thursday to hear the heartbeat and see it again. I'll be 11 weeks 3 days and I am terrified. I google the same questions over and over again looking for reassuring information. In the end, though, I do try to stay away from the internet and google. I tell myself that I am pregnant today and I have no reason to think otherwise. I also tell myself that I should be so excited for Thursday because the odds are in my favor and I will get to see my little one's heartbeat again! It's hard to be positive and stress-free, though.

I'm thinking about all of you who have ultrasounds this week! I hope everything goes great and that you get to see your healthy little one!

fro88 · September 2014

You're totally normal! I feel this way constantly! I think every single thing might indicate a MMC. My 12 week scan isn't until next Monday and I am terrified I am going to walk in and hear 'We have some bad news for you' I have had to coach myself to just breathe deep and say 'there is no real reason to suspect an issue, it is all in my head'. It doesn't always work, but it usually earns me at least a few minutes of peace.
Good luck finding your calm!

knitfastdiewarm · September 2014

I feel like this constantly. I didn't want to look at the screen during my last U/S until the tech said something positive. You are not alone. Hang in there.

epidemic · September 2014

Same situation here. I have an appmt Monday (11 weeks) where I hope we can hear the heartbeat with a Doppler.

It's hard not to worry when we love them so much already..but as PPs said..we can't do anything except take good care of ourselves right now.

Babykells3 · September 2014

KonaiNeto said:
You do not sound like a madwoman, this is quite normal. Most women do not feel pregnant until much later in the pregnancy, usually when they really have a bump and/or can consistently feel the baby move. I had/have the same worries, I think most mothers do. Take a deep breath and tell yourself that you have no real reason to worry right now, and if something has happened, there is nothing you can do about it, so worrying about it won't do you or anyone else any good, and worrying too much can have a negative impact, so it's better to try to keep calm. It won't banish these worries and feelings, but, in my experience, it does help.

This! I feel exactly the same way, 13.5 weeks with #3 but I still haven't heard a heart beat and won't have my first ultrasound until next Monday. I haven't had any reason to think something may be wrong so I'm just trying to relax and enjoy the early stages. We will be getting kicked in the ribs in no time!

Duffgurl · September 2014

I get worried. I always ask DH his our baby ok and he usually responds yes babe...stop worrying. I think it's totally normal.

HeavensAngel20x · September 2014

I always get worried too! I've had 2 ultrasounds and my next appointment is in 2 weeks for my 14 week appointment and I just want to hear the heartbeat

at my 10 week appointment the doc would try to Doppler the heartbeat because it's a 50/50 chance and she doesn't like to worry moms. So I'm anxiously awaiting my 14 week appointment!

apperdoodles · September 2014

I was totally worried too! tbh this website made me a worry wart. I wasn't even aware of what a MMC was...

I was convinced it was going to be an MMC yesterday. The doctor couldn't find the heartbeat with the doppler (cue me panicking) but then they did an ultrasound.

And we heard the heartbeat and saw the little beast squirming around!

Of course dh was right... like always.

SMFB · September 2014

Had first ultrasound today, baby seems ok. Measuring 11 weeks instead of 12 so I have to go back next week to complete the NT testing.

MagalinaH · September 2014

You are certainly not alone. I have this thought daily. It helps a lot to hear that others of you are going through the same emotions. My 12 week appointment is Thursday and I have a terrifying feeling that they'll tell me I lost the baby (I even had a dream about this over the weekend). We just got our announcement photos back and I want to share/post them SO badly because I love them so much, but in the back of my mind, I keep saying "what-if something goes wrong at the appointment? Just wait". SO, that's what I'm doing. I know that percentage-wise, more likely than not, everything will be/is fine. I hate the unknown. I'm a worrier by nature. The combination of these two things is not good for me emotionally. I just try to take it one day at a time.

KTlovespugs · September 2014

Oh man, I'm a worrier too! I'm driving my partner insane with the articles and the blogs. BUT I've found that guided pregnancy meditations and acupuncture really lower stress and bring me back from crazy town. It helps to find something that makes you smile - even if it's just online shopping for the crazy expensive designer nursery furniture that's so easy to lust after. And, just to offer some reassurance and positive energy since multiple people listed this fear; I had an MMC in May at 10 weeks. It sucked. I can't even begin to explain the way I felt that day or how grateful I was that my partner was with me at the 13 week appt that I told him he could blow off. Turns out, like many women, I have low progesterone. No big deal in the grand scheme and I'm so happy to know what went wrong. Now I take one little pill at night and that issue is dealt with. I was pregnant again by the first week of August and I am psyched about it! I wake up every morning and thank the fates for my shot at being a mom. And it gets better :-) Last time I was so sick and just felt awful. This time I'm hungry and sleeping really well! Other than the sore boobs I forget I'm growing a person! It scared me at first it not be sick, but every pregnancy is different and the odds are always SO MUCH higher that everything will go well. Make that your mantra and have faith in your body - she knows what to do. Go enjoy a walk on this beautiful fall day and treat yourself to something fun. Worrying is so natural and we all do it. Embrace your feelings, talk it out with someone who loves and understands you, and then smile because you're going to be an amazing mother ;-)

lspagnuolo · September 2014

Oh hunny! I felt the same way! It is completely normal and let me tell you when you go in for your first ultrasound you will feel overwhelmed with emotion when you see the little peanut jumping around! Happy thoughts always!

purple_2012 · September 2014

I'm so worried that when I go to my appointment next week and my OB won't be able to find a heartbeat. We saw the baby and HB at 8 weeks. Some of my symptoms have faded away, which is causing me to worry even more.

If we could afford a Doppler, I would buy one!

katiewheels · October 2014

Wow thanks everyone for your responses! It's so reassuring that everyone has the same fears as me! Nice to know I'm not crazy

. Good luck to everyone and I hope everyone's scans go well and you see your little babies wiggling around in there

it's such an exciting time so I guess we need to stop worrying and start getting joyful!

Mushibamboo · October 2014

Yeah I wish I could stop worrying. I wish they had at home ultrasounds ... I'd try the doppler but with twins I wouldn't trust myself to pick up both heartbeats. Next scan isn't until the 15th siiigh wouldn't it be nice if you could pop in weekly just for a peep inside?! I complain to my Mom and she reminds me that they didn't have ultrasounds in her day. Can you imagine?! 40+ weeks of waiting!!

scaggsed · October 2014

Yes, exactly. I have had quite a few ultrasounds (repeated bleeding and attentive doctor I guess) and still worry even after seeing it bouncing around last week. I was convinced at every u/s that it's going to be bad news. After the NT next week I'm going to make a conscious effort to enjoy the rest of my pregnancy.

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