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Baby's Gender

slamanthajslamanthaj member
in April 2015 Moms
My friend recently had a baby and she told me she found out the gender at 12 weeks by blood work. When I asked my doctor he told me 20 weeks and we can find out ! Most people are telling me 16 weeks. I know it's going to depend on what they can see but what is normal! I'm so excited I want to know now!!! :)
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  • ally3242ally3242 member
    It's the sex. You want to find out the sex. 
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  • Mel&John2013Mel&John2013 member
    redneckmomma25 said:
     Pregnancy is all about patience. Your patience levels need to increase after having the baby as well. It's good practice.
    Ha! True story.
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  • SargeantpepperSargeantpepper member
    There are places in my area that strictly do sonograms to find out the sex. You have to pay and some have deals on certain days. The earliest they will do it is 16 weeks.
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  • ur_mom222ur_mom222 member
    edited September 2014
    I am doing an ultrasound at 16 weeks at a place my doctors office suggested to me called prenatal universe. I'm not sure if there's one like that in your area but if you call and ask the opinions of one of the receptionists or doctors they will let you know good places. 16 weeks is the earliest you can tell if the baby is in good position and for me it is only $65. This is my first baby and I'm one of those people that is obsessing over it. To be honest I don't even care if it's a boy or girl I just want to know just to know. I'm incredibly excited to find out as you probably are too and I don't think having low patience for something like this is a bad thing at all. Your life, your baby, your decisions! I do recommend calling your doctor and asking about places instead of googling so you don't get some random weird place though. Good luck!
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  • taahirataahira member
    It might take longer than 20 weeks to find out the gender, the sex of your baby can be pick up in an ultrasound after 16 weeks.
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  • CKingsleyCKingsley member
    I'm a STM and had my NT Scan today at 13 weeks. The tech completely caught me off guard and asked if we wanted to know the sex. I said yes, thinking she was just curious. Then there was that dangle on the screen. I've always been a firm believer of waiting until 16-20 weeks and I keep telling myself that it could have been an arm or something. I didn't see the doctor today and won't for 3 more weeks to see what she thinks, but I won't be buying blue until I get the Anatomy scan, It's nice to be able to tell DD she is probably going to have a baby brother and stop saying "it" and "nugget" all the time.
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  • OneLastRefrainOneLastRefrain member
    ally3242 said:
    Why does everyone care so much if one uses the term "Sex" (which I know is technically correct) or if they use "Gender"...? Unless you plan to buy gender neutral everything, it is an acceptable substitute. If the sex of my baby is Male, I plan to buy things based on male/masculine gender. If the baby is Female, we will get female/feminine things... I'm only bringing it up because every time the term gender is used, several people are always quick to correct. Now, back to the topic, a lot of elective ultrasound boutiques offer discounts if you return later in the pregnancy for another glimpse and can always re-confirm the sex.
    My son has a penis but that does not mean he will not identify himself as a girl as he gets older. Sex organs and gender are two very different things.
    I don't see anyone saying "sex-specific nursery" or "sex-specific clothing" though. If they have, I've missed it. 
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  • smoretolovesmoretolove member
    I had the harmony test during week 9 and they said it could determine any chromosomal abnormalities as well as the sex of the baby. When I asked, the doctor said it was really accurate. They will only call me if there's an abnormality so if i want to find out super early, I can call them about the sex!
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  • ally3242ally3242 member
    OneLastRefrain said:


    ally3242 said:

    RobynB13 said:

    Why does everyone care so much if one uses the term "Sex" (which I know is technically correct) or if they use "Gender"...?
    Unless you plan to buy gender neutral everything, it is an acceptable substitute. If the sex of my baby is Male, I plan to buy things based on male/masculine gender. If the baby is Female, we will get female/feminine things...

    I'm only bringing it up because every time the term gender is used, several people are always quick to correct.

    Now, back to the topic, a lot of elective ultrasound boutiques offer discounts if you return later in the pregnancy for another glimpse and can always re-confirm the sex.

    My son has a penis but that does not mean he will not identify himself as a girl as he gets older. Sex organs and gender are two very different things.

    I don't see anyone saying "sex-specific nursery" or "sex-specific clothing" though. If they have, I've missed it. 

    Then by all means, continue to refer to your child's sex by gender. But know that sex and gender are not the same thing. Your child doesn't have a gender organ.
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  • fartsandcraftsfartsandcrafts member
    Can we please steal and post the sex vs gender thread from March 2015? Please!?
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  • OneLastRefrainOneLastRefrain member

    I don't see anyone saying "sex-specific nursery" or "sex-specific clothing" though. If they have, I've missed it. 
    Then by all means, continue to refer to your child's sex by gender. But know that sex and gender are not the same thing. Your child doesn't have a gender organ.
    I'm not disagreeing with you that they are different things. I'm just saying that, on The Bump, there is always a big uproar over differentiating the two, but I've never, not once, seen/heard someone refer to "sex-specific clothing". It just doesn't roll off the tongue the way "gender specific clothing" does. 
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    somewheresublime86 said:

    I went to an all women's college (and yes, they specified that anyone who identified as a woman, regardless of their genitalia, could attend).

    If you think the debate over sex vs gender here is heated, you probably haven't attended a women's studies class with people who have gender identity disorder. Or had people ask you to use gender neutral pronouns (like ze and hir) when you refer to them.

    The distinction is important, because failing to recognize that there's a whole spectrum of gender identities leaves lots of kids disenfranchised and at risk. I'm not committed to raising a child to be gender neutral at all. It's not my thing. I am committed to raising a healthy, well rounded kid who gets to explore their interests. But to pretend there isn't a difference between gender and sex does a number of already invisible feeling folks a real disservice.

    At my all-girl school, anyone who identified as female as well as females who identified as males were welcomed.

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  • crawtatercrawtater member
    I knew as soon as I saw the post there'd be some correcting posts in response. I use the words interchangeably mostly so that my work computer doesnt flag me for posting about "sex" because i am crazy and paranoid. I find the nitpicking on this to be annoying. but as you can see there will be plenty of real answers alongside the corrections so yay for that.
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  • Portiz007Portiz007 member
    I stopped using the bump
    For this particular reason no one can ask a question because someone's response is always going to be soooo mean. What to expect when your expecting forums are so much better.

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  • ally3242ally3242 member
    Portiz007 said:

    I stopped using the bump
    For this particular reason no one can ask a question because someone's response is always going to be soooo mean. What to expect when your expecting forums are so much better.

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  • Portiz007Portiz007 member
    edited October 2014
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  • mckaminskimckaminski member
    I think this has gone way off topic of the original post...

    BUT as someone who has friends that have struggled with the sex/gender issue I appreciate the thought behind the distinction. That being said I'm not worried about either at the moment... It is still early! I just want a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby-and I wish you all the same!
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  • Portiz007Portiz007 member
    Swoon13 said:

    Portiz007 said:

    =D> =D>

    You have a strange definition of leaving. Just came back to check on your feeble shit-stir? Fuck off already.
    Beautiful come back
    ;)
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  • Portiz007Portiz007 member
    Now that is hilarious :D
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  • ally3242ally3242 member
    edited October 2014
    souptin said:



    Portiz007 said:

    Swoon13 said:

    Portiz007 said:

    =D> =D>

    You have a strange definition of leaving. Just came back to check on your feeble shit-stir? Fuck off already.
    Beautiful come back
    ;)

    If she wanted come back she'd scrape it off your chin

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  • Portiz007Portiz007 member
    edited October 2014
    Love my wheels :D
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  • sken1230sken1230 member
    I took the Panorama test and they called with my gender results and I am 14 weeks now…I chose not to find out, which is killing me!!  Anyways…was able to find out I was having a boy at my 20 week but the tech couldn't tell me what I was having with my second cause the baby wasn't cooperating :(  So it all depends if the baby is in the right position at the scan…best of luck!

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  • cheskanelscheskanels member
    First time round we found out at 20 weeks although a fee of my friends were told around their 12 week scan, for the second baby they said we will have less scans so its a bit up in the air whether or not or when our second one will be! I think its lovely finding out the sex of your baby and you should be excited, i'm very excited to find out what we are having this time :) patience has nothing to do with it you are an excited mother to be! Everyone on here is suppose to be supportive not rude or condescending!
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  • ally3242ally3242 member
    cheskanels said:

    First time round we found out at 20 weeks although a fee of my friends were told around their 12 week scan, for the second baby they said we will have less scans so its a bit up in the air whether or not or when our second one will be! I think its lovely finding out the sex of your baby and you should be excited, i'm very excited to find out what we are having this time :) patience has nothing to do with it you are an excited mother to be! Everyone on here is suppose to be supportive not rude or condescending!

    I was unaware I was here to be a pregnancy cheerleader.
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