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Am I the crazy one here or is everyone else?

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So about ten minutes after we got home yesterday afternoon, our teenage neighbor comes to our door shaking saying he backed into Dhs car. We go outside and the door is pretty damaged. Kid is going to call the cops and we tell him call his mom and dad first and maybe we can work something out without involving the cops(obviously we wouldn't do this with random neighbors but the dad is a lifelong friend of my dads so we know he would be good for the money). Parents come home and mom is sobbing hysterically saying she can't believe her son did this to us. I say its fine, shit happens, no one got hurt and cars can be fixed. Neighbors start coming out to see what happens and I'm like "nothing to see here, just a little accident" and we're both in good spirits making jokes. Neighbors are like "if that happened to me I'd be fuming!" Would you be sobbing if your kid hit someone's car? Would you be losing your shit mad if someone accidentally backed into your car? I seriously felt like I was in the twilight zone.
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  • catycatecatycate member
    It doesn't seem worth it to be super pissed about. I'd be irritated, but crying and hysterical? No.
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  • honkytonk_kidhonkytonk_kid member
    I might be crying about having to pay to fix it, lol, but not about the situation in general. I mean, you know them and know they are good for the money to get it fixed, what is there to be fuming about?


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  • yanakimouyanakimou member
    Based on what you said, I would go with option B: everyone else. 
    I wouldn't be crying hysterically (I don't think) as long as everyone was ok (probably shaken up though).  And I probably wouldn't be loosing my shit mad either, especially if it was an accident and he apologized and no one was hurt. Like you said, cars can be fixed, hopefully lesson learned.
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  • kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member
    scatteredtrees said:
    I tend to cry when I am embarassed, so I can see possibly tearing up in front of you. I wouldn't be mad though, especially since the kid came to you immediately and was prepared to deal with the consequences. 

    Someone hit my Jeep and drove off, leaving me with a $2k repair. Now THAT I was fuming mad about. ;)

    Kid wasn't crying (just more shooken up which is to be expected). Mom was the one sobbing-you would have thought her kid hit my kid or something. And I would have totally understood being visibly upset if you're a struggling middle class family trying to make ends meet and you get this unexpected expense. Totally not the case with these people at all. In regards to your jeep-people suck.
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  • jnksmomjnksmom member
    It was clearly an accident and I don't think I would be that upset. Sure it sucks you have to get the car fixed and they have to pay for it but the kid was honest and willing to pay the consequences. There is no reason to be fuming mad about it.
    Nosey neighbors need to mine their own business.
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  • ordinary1ordinary1 member
    Everyone else is being crazy. If my kid hit a car I would be upset, but not hysterically crying or fuming mad.
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  • ToastieSimonsToastieSimons member
    Not at all.  accidents happen.  noone got hurt.  I'd rather him have hit your DH's parked car than a kid, or a car with someone in it.  He's shaken up, it will get him to drive a bit safer and noone but the car door is worse for the wear.  

    If I was his parents, I'd make him work to pay me back for the cost to fix it. end of story.  What is the point in being fuming/upset, angry, etc over it?  It's already done. He didn't do it maliciously and he owned up to (which is pretty remarkable nowadays) why punish him further?
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  • LatteLady5LatteLady5 member
    edited September 2014
    Maybe she's having a really bad day?

    Posted to soon ETA: You're not crazy and I do think she's over reacting. It can be fixed. Nobody was hurt. No big deal.

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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
    LatteLady5 said:
    Maybe she's having a really bad day?

    Posted to soon ETA: You're not crazy and I do think she's over reacting. It can be fixed. Nobody was hurt. No big deal.
    Maybe this was her first ever car accident (albeit vicariously)... When I was a teen and had one I was bawling because I didn't want to get in trouble but knew it was unavoidable (i.e. stress response)...  The one time I didn't - HOLY SH** did I get my @$$ chewed!!!!!!!! (it was the cheapest kid-car accident I ever had too!)
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  • fintinfintin member
    You are definitely not the crazy one here. He told you immediately and you have known them for a while. As far as the mom crying she was probably just embarrassed like PP said. At least he was mature enough to let you know and deal with the consequences. Not all are that lucky.
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  • LatteLady5LatteLady5 member

    MesmrEwe said:
    LatteLady5 said:
    Maybe she's having a really bad day?

    Posted to soon ETA: You're not crazy and I do think she's over reacting. It can be fixed. Nobody was hurt. No big deal.
    Maybe this was her first ever car accident (albeit vicariously)... When I was a teen and had one I was bawling because I didn't want to get in trouble but knew it was unavoidable (i.e. stress response)...  The one time I didn't - HOLY SH** did I get my @$$ chewed!!!!!!!! (it was the cheapest kid-car accident I ever had too!)
    I don't know that I'd cry, but I might, especially if the day was already a bad one

    I've only ever been in one car crash. I was on my way to dance practice a little before 6 am and hit black ice. I was bawling and scared and called my dad chewed me out and was a total jerk. There was a kind woman behind me who I happened to know and she stopped and let my sister and me sit in her car and stay warm and cry.

    I'm not usually an over reactor. I'd would probably try to just settle the damages to the car and get new carseats sans cops like KC did if it was a friend.

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  • thechickencoopthechickencoop member
    edited September 2014
    Honestly, I'd probably be crying but just because I'm a crier (if I was the one who hit your car, not the mom of the kid), but I mean, really?  I mean, they either offer to pay, or offer their insurance info; what are they getting so worked up about? 

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  • id012id012 member
    I think if I was his mom I was just be upset that he hit your car and would feel awful about it. Im not a crier so I probably would not cry.
    and if I was you I wouldnt be mad! It was an accident. Shit happeneds. If he was messing around amd hit the car because he was doing something stupid I was probably be mad tho.
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  • spring_timespring_time member
    I may cry because I am a crier. I am also a person whose mind jumps to the worst possible scenario. She could have been thinking what if he accidentally hit a child with his careless driving? It could have been relief no one was seriously hurt. As another person said, it also may have been the last straw that day. So, no, I don't think you are crazy, but I don't think the mother is either.

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