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annoying pregnant friend vent...kinda long

Stellar1Stellar1
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My husband's bf and his wife are having a baby boy due in 6 weeks. We are having a girl due 6 weeks later at the end of March. Ever since I got pg. she has made annoying comments, like "wait until you get to this point in pregnancy- insert wherever she is in her pregnancy." It DRIVES ME CRAZY!!! I am in my third trimester and she is only a few weeks ahead of me. Whenever we go out with other friends she acts like she is the only one pregnant and I'm not. Last night we were out for her husband's b-day and the entire time she was talking about herself. I am not the type who wants to talk about my pregnancy all the time but when people ask me questions I'd like to be able to respond without her interrupting and bringing the convo back to her. Well, I ended up leaving early cause I was so annoyed.

 

Fast forward until a few minutes ago: Convo with my DH.

He was so annoyed with her after I left last night- (he had no idea that she was annoying me last night). He told me that she said that even if she hasn't had her baby by the time I have my shower she probably still won't come b/c she doesn't want the attention on her since she will be so close to being due. He was just like whatever. Then she goes on to kind of rub it in his face that they are having a boy and we are having a girl. She thinks that my dh is upset b/c we're having a girl- which is not true- he is very happy and excited about having a girl but why would she say shit like that?? I'm sorry to vent and that this got long. Do any of you have friends like this? I don't know how to handle it and is she going to continue to compare our kids to each other once they are born?

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  • ashlyroseashlyrose
    I would only suggest to have your H talk to his BF about his annoying wife. I would stop communication for awhile & see if she notices & asks what's wrong.
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  • MrsStPatsBrideMrsStPatsBride

    UGH, I hate it when all people have are negative opinions for you.  I read a quote from Russel Crowe (odd source, I know!) where he said that so many people tell him all the negatives, that he only hangs out with the people that say "Man, it's gonna be freakin cool!" 

    Why is it so easy for people to spout the negative and not report on the positive?  I've had a few friends before me who will say "Wait until..." and I just say "Well, I feel great, so I guess everyone is different."  Every pregnancy, like every birth, is different.

    And you probably don't want her at your shower if she's such a fame whore--she'll probably fake contractions so all eyes are on her!  She does sound like she'll continue to "compare" kids after yours is born--if it gets bad, maybe it'll just be baby and daddy play dates?  Good Luck and keep your head up!

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  • Stellar1Stellar1

    imageashlyrose:
    I would only suggest to have your H talk to his BF about his annoying wife. I would stop communication for awhile & see if she notices & asks what's wrong.

     

    DH's bf knows that his wife can be very annoying, His bf did say something to her about one of the comments she said to my DH. I would try to stay away from her but it's hard b/c our husband's have been best friends for years!

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  • mrsdanigirl8mrsdanigirl8 member
    I'm so sorry you have to deal with this! I am blessed to have a few girlfriends who are pregnant with me right now and they've been so helpful through the whole thing. It's more like we use each other to vent to vs. a competition/spotlight thing like your friend is doing.
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  • Stellar1Stellar1
    imageMrsStPatsBride:

    UGH, I hate it when all people have are negative opinions for you.  I read a quote from Russel Crowe (odd source, I know!) where he said that so many people tell him all the negatives, that he only hangs out with the people that say "Man, it's gonna be freakin cool!" 

    Why is it so easy for people to spout the negative and not report on the positive?  I've had a few friends before me who will say "Wait until..." and I just say "Well, I feel great, so I guess everyone is different."  Every pregnancy, like every birth, is different.

    And you probably don't want her at your shower if she's such a fame whore--she'll probably fake contractions so all eyes are on her!  She does sound like she'll continue to "compare" kids after yours is born--if it gets bad, maybe it'll just be baby and daddy play dates?  Good Luck and keep your head up!

    Thanks! I told dh that when she said she wasn't gonna come to the shower that he should have said, "good"!!

    She probably wants all the attention on her so it would be better for her not to be here.

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  • Kris721Kris721 member
    She is unhappy with her life and she needs to feel like she is "better" than everyone.  I used to have a friend like this, but her friendship was soooo draining I had to cut the cord (she didn't give me much choice...she was mad at me for getting engaged...lol).  It is just exhausting to keep up with those kind of people!  Good luck with the situation since it is your husband's best friend's wife....not someone you can cut out of your life. 
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  • justgnatjustgnat

    WOW. just WOW. She's not going to come to your shower for such a stupid reason? How would she feel if you didn't come to her shower? Did you already get her a gift? I totally wouldn't. Or maybe you're happy she's not coming. I could see that.

    I'd say this is going to continue after the babies come. Sounds like she's going to be one of those "Oh well, my boy was rolling over by (insert age that is younger than whatever your baby is at the time)" moms.

    No advice for you, but what a self-centered biotch.

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  • SeminoleJessicaSeminoleJessica

    ugh what a PITA!

    I have friends with kids that keep telling me "Just wait until X time" and when I pass that time they come up with something new.  Lame.

    I hope you just enjoy how nice your shower will be without her and that she sends an expensive gift lol!

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  • Stellar1Stellar1
    Thanks chicas for the posts! They made me giggle!!!
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  • jen3jen3 member
    I wanted to add one.  I have a good friend who had a baby in the fall.  Whenever we talk she goes on and on and on and on about pregnancy, labor, and the first few weeks.  Very similar to what you were saying about "just wait until you get to this."  I know she means well but she just doesn't stop talking.  Just wanted you to know you are not alone.  I guess from her I learned how I don't want to be about my other pregnant friends. 
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  • Stellar1Stellar1

    imagejen3:
    I wanted to add one.  I have a good friend who had a baby in the fall.  Whenever we talk she goes on and on and on and on about pregnancy, labor, and the first few weeks.  Very similar to what you were saying about "just wait until you get to this."  I know she means well but she just doesn't stop talking.  Just wanted you to know you are not alone.  I guess from her I learned how I don't want to be about my other pregnant friends. 

    Thanks for the post. Before I got pregnant, I never wanted to be one of those annoying pregnant ladies and now I definitely try not to be.

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