Or age there about - I'm not picky lol I posted on Parenting earlier because I'm having struggles with Aiden. It seems they're pretty typical struggles and it seems like maybe there are more of us out there. I know this is really our toddler board but let's not discriminate
Our issues right now are: 9 million needless trips out of bed every night, refusal to eat and then wanting a snack or sneaking food the minute my back is turned (and then lying about it!). Just a general malfunction of the listening ears
Anger is getting the best of me more often than it should and it's not that I'm angry at him (though that's what ends up happening). It's that I'm angry that I don't know how else to handle any of this.
I'm opening this up for tips, tricks or plain ole commiseration. I want to enjoy my time with him more than I have been and maybe some of you are in the same boat.
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Have you seen the sequel to "Go the F*ck to Sleep" is coming out and it's "You Have to F*cking Eat?"
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/25/adam-mansbach-go-the-f-to-sleep-sequel_n_5882138.html?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000037
I'm with you. I yell a lot unfortunately (well you saw it! So you know for realz now). G doesn't sneak food but he CONSTANTLY is drinking milk. He fills up on milk before almost every meal. Per the ped, I just view it as my job is to put out a balanced meal and limit snacks and he'll eat if he's hungry. Sometimes I just can't get him to eat a full meal. I have said it before but for about a year it seems they survive on air and the sweat and tears of their parents.
G doesn't lie (he's pretty in my face with his disobedience) but they say that lying if showing a higher sign of intelligence because it takes more creativity to make up a story than just tell the truth. The clever ones are the hardest!
When I'm getting pissed with him and his behavior re-direction is still working but I use scissor crafts and legos as he gets to use them on the higher table out of Arlo's reach and they make him concentrate and calm down. He gets lost in the world of Legos and scissors, plus he knows they are a big boy treat.
BTW this just seems to fit here in the commiseration. Yesterday G was pretending to be "stuck" (he wasn't really) in a curtain and needed daddy's help. I told DH "it's a game, you are supposed to help him out." DH was slow to help and unfortunately G pulled the curtain hard enough he pulled the rod down (not heavy) and it bonked him on the head. He was NOT really hurt but he was so pissed DH didn't help him in time. He kept saying, "Daddy you are supposed to PREVENT me from getting hurt! It's your job as a Daddy to prevent that!" Clearly he learned the word prevent recently and is ready to throw that vocab in our face. I had to turn my face to stop laughing when he yelled at DH about preventing him from getting hurt.
I will emphasize one more time he was NOT HURT. Because I know you will all understand how they like to play us and I know when he is actually hurt!
I hope I'm not too late.
Regarding getting out of bed. What worked for us (after we changed door handles and locks and even put a kid-proof thing on the inside of the door that he actually broke) was...I made a game board and every morning that he stayed in his room the whole night he moved his game piece (a picture of him I cut out) to the next spot. At the end of the trail was the word "zoo" but it could be a picture of a toy or whatever motivates him. I did it one week, the board had 6 spots in case he messed up one time. That's all I had to do and he hasn't had an issue since. I can dig up a picture of the board and post it if you want (we had it shown on the fridge so he could see it and we would like talk about it 15 times before he went to bed every night and freaked out in the morning when he moved his picture)
Regarding food...we all sit, eat dinner, and get up. If you get up, you are done. The plate is taken from the table and put on the counter. You get one more time to try to eat and that's it. If you get up again you either help throw the rest of the plate away or you watch me do it. He usually says I'm a "bad mommy" at this point. This week has been awesome and he eats everything at first try but, in general, I don't fight him if he doesn't want to eat. If he gets hungry, he gets water until the next snack/meal.
Bradley is learning what hurts me and calling me a bad mommy is it. He doesn't lie so much as he just stops talking. Like if I catch him doing something he shouldn't (ie wrapping a shoelace around Tyler's neck) he just shuts down. I really try not to get too mad because I don't want him being that dude who doesn't share his feelings. We have been spending about 15 minutes in his bed before sleep talking about his day, I'm hoping this helps figure out what makes him tick...
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Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13
He makes up stories a lot and he thinks it's cute when he does. He started pre k3 this month and on Tuesday he came home and said a little boy wouldn't let him play puppets. He literally looked like he was going to cry telling me this story and I felt terrible for him. Then all of a sudden he says, " I'm just fibbing! I'm nasty!". I don't know where he comes up with these lines! I'm convinced he's going to be an actor when he grows up.
He also is very mean to his little brother. It's common for me to see him go up behind his brother as he's walking and just shove him. No matter how many times I scold him he still keeps on doing it. He also is very possessive of his belongings. He freaks out if his brother touches his stuff, which is funny because he shares with everybody else.
He still naps, and I think he needs it but then he can't fall asleep for he night until after 9. It's a nightmare. If we keep him up through his nap he's a miserable mess by 5 pm.
Preschoolers are a tough crowd,
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Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13
I am so much less stressed since I took that approach. I'm not disciplining him, he chose this. It makes thinks a lot easier
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Bradley 05-04-11 & Tyler 06-18-13
DS1 2-26-07
#4 Due May 2015
IT'S A BOY