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slowly but surely....

jonahsmajonahsma member
in Late Term and Child Loss

I have expressed numerous times how dh never talks about our babies and how it upsets me that he doesn't. I feel that he doesn't even think about them or grieve for them like I do everyday.

Well the other day was the second angelversary of our first loss and I mentioned it to him. I said "it has been 2 years since we lost our baby"

and he says " it has been 2 years that I have been hearing baby cries and looking around for my baby because I always feel like there is a kid missing" He says "I always dream about a baby"

And I say "well that's not fair Every night I ask God to see my babies ! and you're the one that sees and hears them." Then I think would I be able to even handle dreaming about them , hugging and kissing them, only to wake up with empty arms and an aching heart? Can I handle hearing the baby cries and looking for a baby that isn't even here? No it would tear me apart. Maybe dh feels just as sad as I do and i'm starting to think he does.

Slowly but surely he is coming around and telling me his fears and sadness. I love him and I hate that we are going through this.


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    lexusolsenlexusolsen member
    I'm so glad he opened up to you. Sometimes it makes all the difference!

    Dh and I will often tell each other that we hate that we have to live this life but we are glad to have each other to help.
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    stefugestefuge member
    I'm glad he opened up to you! ((Hugs))
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    Me: 32 DH: 33  High School Sweethearts  Married 5/28/2005
    DS1 born 6/5/10 at 40 weeks via emergency c-section due to fetal distress and IUGR caused by placental insufficiency
    DS2 born still 8/28/13 at 32 weeks via emergency c-section due to a complete placental abruption - cause unknown
    Baby #3 on the way, EDD 2/29/16.  Originally twins, but we said goodbye to Baby B at 8 weeks.
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    Mel&John2013Mel&John2013 member
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    I'm so glad he opened up to you! What a difference that makes.
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    erinelerinel member

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    I'm so glad he is opening up to you.  Men definitely handle things differently than we do, but it's nice to know that he is feeling the same things as you, even if it took him a while to express it.

    Me 32 (Stage IV Endometriosis, short luteal phase) DH 38

    Married 5/2010

    January 2014- DS born healthy at 35.4 weeks

    February 2014- DS passed away due to complications from adenovirus

    February 2015- Rainbow baby DD born at 36.3 weeks

    My chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/42fd32 

     


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    4N6s4N6s member
    Wow!
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