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New sahm- bored out of my mind

Stevens627Stevens627 member
in June 2014 Moms
How do you guys keep busy and avoid the monotony?

I loved my job and am a very social person. I never expected to become a sahm.

I am worried I will become a depressed slob who lives in pajamas since I am not a self motivated person...help!
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  • Read247Read247 member
    nutmegs8 said:

    @read247 is that how the app looks on an iPhone?  If so, I'm totes jealous.

    Yup! iPhone app. I wish I could see siggys though... I miss the tablet, but it wasn't working at all on that thing.
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  • Stevens627Stevens627 member
    I quit my job because the commute had me leaving home at 5 am and returning at 7 pa

    I never planned to be a sahm. I am really thankful to be able to be home with my baby and I know I shouldn't be complaining. I am just having a hard time adjusting to not having any adult interaction

    I honestly was just feeling lonely and posted this in the hopes of someone understanding me.
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  • BabyCurtiss2014BabyCurtiss2014 member
    elsa1688 said:

    @curlylocks3‌ :x

    I have zero interest in turning this into mommy wars, but staying at home can be challenging sometimes. I want to stay home, I feel blessed that I can, but when my partner works 60+ hours a week and we don't have much family around, the days can be long.

    This is how I feel too. I stayed home and I feel like I am so busy I don't have a minutes to myself. We don't have any family here we are new to the city and I don't even hardly know anyone. My husband works a lot! Leaves at six and comes home at 7:30 or later. Days can be long and walls can start to close in. I'm going to try to join a moms group but right now I feel like I don't even have time for that. Maybe it's because we are not on a schedule yet. I think parenting is hard no matter how you do it and all have pluses and minuses. Sometimes I feel that if my little one was in daycare he would be more socialized and more ahead in development. No situation is perfect. I thought staying home would be a bit different than what it is...still I am grateful. Before we moved here I was an operations manager for an investment firm so this is quite a change and I know it sounds crazy but sometimes I miss the hustle and bustle and definitely miss the adult company at times :-) good luck to all mommies working or SAH! :-)
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  • curlylocks3curlylocks3 member
    lest12 said:

    you just quit because you couldn't do it and "a baby needs his mother".

    Snipped because I'm not competent enough to bold stuff on mobile. WTF. Not cool OP, not cool at all.

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  • lest12lest12 member
    The post I'm talking about sounded emotional and like she had a really bad day so I'll give her that... I just think when you're in such a great supportive community such as this one it's important to think before you speak.

     

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  • babyglo350babyglo350 member
    edited September 2014
    lest12 said:

    This thread rubs me the wrong way mostly because OP, you announced quitting your job in the "how's baby doing since your return to work" thread and basically said, in the middle of a conversation with working moms, that you just quit because you couldn't do it and "a baby needs his mother".

    I get that this is all very hard no matter which side you are on, but that comment really bothered me (My poor baby needs his mom, too, but I have to work). So now to hear that you are "bored out of your mind"... meh. My sympathy is low. Sorry.

    This 100%. I just poured my heart out the other day about going back to work. I haven't said anything up until this point and I won't say much other than to choose your words carefully OP. Try to be sensitive when brining up a sensitive topic. "Bored" just doesn't work here.
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  • fsumomfsumom member
    Both are difficult.  I am currently a SAHM and it's not easy by any means especially on days like Monday when DS was fussy the entire day.  Plus, since we lack a second income, there are things working mothers can do that I cannot and sacrifices that I've had to make in order to stay home. I've also worked full-time as a parent and know how difficult it was to not be home with my older DD and the stress of finding enough time in the day to get everything done.


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    sjdihle said:

    There aren't enough things to sacrifice for me to stay home. Unless I want my student loans to default. And we stopped the frivolous health insurance habit.

    Word.

     

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  • diagonalleydiagonalley member
    fsumom said:

    Both are difficult.  I am currently a SAHM and it's not easy by any means especially on days like Monday when DS was fussy the entire day.  Plus, since we lack a second income, there are things working mothers can do that I cannot and sacrifices that I've had to make in order to stay home. I've also worked full-time as a parent and know how difficult it was to not be home with my older DD and the stress of finding enough time in the day to get everything done.



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  • fsumomfsumom member
    edited September 2014
    You are correct @Read247

    I apologize if my reply was taken out of context.  I understand there are sacrifices on both sides.  Just because I'm currently a SAHM doesn't mean I don't realize that. I only posted the sacrifices I am making currently. I worked until until May 30th and do have an older daughter that I had to send to daycare and after school.  With that being said, lately I've had a couple of comments from people that tell me often how lucky and blessed I am to stay home, etc.  A former co-worker responded to me recently when I asked her how she was doing "I guess I'm okay but I sure wish I could do what you're doing!"  I do feel very fortunate for being able to stay home for the time being but I also don't want to feel bad while doing it.
    ~Jessica~ 


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  • lest12lest12 member
    No one is telling you to feel bad.

     

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  • fsumomfsumom member
    edited September 2014
    @lest12

    I'm not sure if you were replying to me but just in case...My co-worker mentioning what she did (and it not being the first time) makes me feel bad for her because I know how badly she wanted to stay home with her daughter.  Therefore, I do have a bit of guilt because my former co-workers are like a second family to me.
    ~Jessica~ 


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  • lest12lest12 member

    I get that.  I just thought your that post came across like you felt people were purposely trying to make you feel bad about staying home.

     

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  • enpowersenpowers member
    I work part time but on my days off I like to find new parks with walking trails or new neighborhoods to take the stroller out in. That way you're outside getting some exercise and you can do something with baby at the same time. And you get to leave the house! I like to stop by a coffee shop on the way home too it makes me feel like I get to do something for myself.
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  • BabyCurtiss2014BabyCurtiss2014 member
    It's not a contest y'all! But bored!?!! I'm a SAHM and anything but bored! I'm lucky if I have five minutes to go to the bathroom! Lol
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  • augustusgooseaugustusgoose member
    I understand what the OP was talking about. There is a difference between having things to do and being bored, if there wasn't a difference, the word bored wouldn't exist. Anyways, I to get bored sometimes, or stir crazy if that's less offensive for some reason. That's not to say that I don't have dishes, or vacuuming or cloths to do. Even when I didn't have a new born I always had a list of things to get done and I would still get bored. It happens.
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