I hope I don't offend you!!

bjackson2688 · September 2014

So this is a bit of a rant so bear with me ladies!! This is my first pregnancy and though it wasn't planned, my boyfriend and I are so incredibly happy and grateful. I know that there are so many people who have dealt with losses and infertility and my heart hurts for you. I can't imagine how hard it must be. With that said, I feel like absolute shit ALL THE TIME. I feel like I already look 5 months pregnant because I'm bloated as all hell, I can't even think about food without wanting to barf, and if my boyfriend touches my boobs or ass one more time I'm gonna cut his penis off. I feel awful about complaining because it's such a miraculous experience but ugh. Ok.. I think I'm done.

DawnLilly · September 2014

Hahaha. Here,

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=jf8B6UQSrW4

I have it bookmarked.

bjackson2688 · September 2014

@DawnLilly‌ THANK YOU!! Haha I so needed that right now

momtosam · September 2014

Yeah, I am right there with you. I really really hate pregnancy. I would love it if I could just jump ahead 9 months and have my baby in my arms. I am totally Wendy. I am completely jealous of women who look and feel amazing pregnant. I am just not one of them. It sucks.

imakeeff0rts · September 2014

Not offended, but you've got a long 8-ish months ahead of you.

bjackson2688 · September 2014

I keep in mind that my body is doing what it needs to do in order to grow a healthy baby which keeps me in check but it's just hard to take in sometimes when I'm usually so active and in control. WHATEVA I know when I see that munchkins little face id do it 10 times over.

Ndracer · September 2014

I've suffered infertility and loss and I'm not offended. But maybe that's because I'm pregnant now lol. I feel like crud all day. I do always follow any complaint with "it's alright I'm happy to go through this for my babies". But let's face it, sometimes you feel nauseated, gassy,constipated, emotional,etc,etc. The only good thing for me is I take all this stuff as signs my pregnancy is going well.
Hang in there.

HoneyBearandTheBug · September 2014

^ this exactly

I also hold to the "because someone out there has it worse doesn't make your complaints invalid" argument. Pregnancy is hard! It's amazing and a blessing and awesome, but it can suck sometimes!

chazzajsy · September 2014

ambarnett1 · September 2014

I feel ya girl.

MAdams728 · September 2014

No one enjoys feeling like crap, no matter how grateful you are!

SnowFlake84 · September 2014

This.

petrichor10 said:
I'll probably offend someone, but I feel that is one of the gifts my losses have given me. I laugh when I throw up. I appreciate every moment of pregnancy, even when I feel horrible.

VeganOnTuesdays · September 2014

I completely feel ya. Last night my dog threw up 3 times, my husband has the worst cold in the history of time, and then ME (the bloated whale). We were a spectacle let me tell ya.

Ndracer · September 2014

DH and I just had an argument about this. He says I shouldn't complain. I say I'm not complaining just stating a fact. If you ask me how I feel the answer is going to be nauseated and tired. But I'm glad to be. But I still feel like crap! Ugh men. Lol.

itsmevkb · September 2014

I try not to complain too much as I wanted to get pregnant and hey, after six previous pregnancies I 100% know what I'm in for. I also try and know my audience. It's one thing to complain to your partner, to other pregnant women, to this group, etc. and a completely different thing to complain to someone who just had a loss (and yes, this happened to me with my second miscarriage, my co-worker and I were pregnant at the same time and I miscarried at 10 weeks and spent six months listening to her complain to me about her pregnancy.)

First trimester is hard because you feel like crap but don't look pregnant and can't feel the baby moving. At least at some point in the second you start to look pregnant and feel the baby move which starts to make you feel more like hey, this isn't SO horrible. And, once you've had the baby it all becomes a bit of a blur and you start to think hey, that's wasn't so bad, I want to do that again!

lgsdesigner · September 2014

Once 1st trimester is over, things may be better for you. Well...until you hit late 3rd trimester.

bjackson2688 · September 2014

Thanks for all of the responses! @HoneyBearandTheBug‌ yes!! When you feel like shit, you feel like shit. I'm still so grateful but its been rough. @Ndracer‌ UGH i feel like when they don't see the bump, they feel like it's not real? When my boyfriend had the same reaction all I said was, I'm growing a HUMAN that's going to one day be our baby. It's not all rainbows and glowy skin.

xraychick01 · September 2014

I hear ya on the boob issue! Hands off buddy!

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