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Kath1083 · September 2014

I am coming over from the April 2015 board. To be honest I am still in shock from the events of the last couple of days. Last Wednesday I went to the doctor and everything looked great, I was in the middle of my 8th week. The doctor told me everything looked good and said she would see me at my 12 week visit. Fastfoward to Monday, I came home from work and had just the littlest amount of bright red blood. I called the doctor and they got me in for an ultrasound and found that the baby no longer had a heartbeat, The doctor informed me that a D&C would be the best way to go (siting my profession- teacher). My D&C was the morning. I feel like the last few days have been a bad dream. This was my first pregnancy and will try again just not sure when.

Question: For anyone who had a D & C.... how long did you stay home from work?

alexkylee · September 2014

So sorry for your loss. I came over from the April board as well and started with the smallest amount of blood which progressed overnight. I had my D&C last Wednesday and took Thursday off. I felt great Thursday and even ran a few errands. I went back to work Friday and a few cramps, but did fine. It was important to me to get back into my routine. My boss encouraged me to stay home Friday (he doesn't know what procedure I had done), but I'm selfish and want to save my time off for the next time I'm pregnant (fingers crossed).

4N6s · September 2014

It's like a nightmare, huh?
I was in the April group as well.

I didn't have a d&c, but found out last week that there was no heartbeat. Just over two weeks after the heartbeat stopped, I miscarried naturally. My doctor wouldn't do a d&c on me (my first pregnancy as well).
I work full time too. I'm not sure how flexible your schedule is, but it is possible to go naturally. You will know when it's starting. You'll have enough time to get home. Make sure someone is with you though... I ended up passing out and was unconscious (completely not reassuring you!) from losing too much blood too fast.

My best friend had a d&c and was basically on bed rest for a month! Out of work for A month because she got an infection and couldn't do much of anything. She said it hurt to move.

KristinNP · September 2014

I had a D&C last July and was off work for four days but only because I was already on vacation. It occurred on the Thursday and I returned to work the Monday. I'm scheduled to have another D&C this Saturday and I'll be returning to work Wednesday afternoon. It just depends on the individual I guess. Physically, unless there are some complications, I was fine to go out and do things the next day. Mentally was another question. I still bled for a week or two after the surgery and the first few days were pretty clotty and heavy but cramps were much less and otherwise I was ok. Good luck to you and very sorry for your loss.

FigureSkater8 · September 2014

I was also on the April 2015 board. My D&C was Monday. I felt tired on Tuesday. Today (Wednesday) I feel basically normal and could go back to work tomorrow but won't. I was already on vacation and just emotionally don't want to go in this week. However I'd say I could have gone back 2 or 3 days post-D&C. I'm still bleeding and wearing pads but nothing significant.

I know what you feel about it being a bad dream. I've been in the house (leaving 2-3 times maybe) since last Friday. I think I'll feel like when I go back to work or out and about that this was all a strange dream and that I'm still pregnant. :-(

It's been helping me to email and talk with friends and relatives about this to process this. I'm not a very emotional person so I've been making a conscious effort to not bottle up my feelings and make sure I'm working through this...

Kath1083 · September 2014

Thank you all for your support and advice!

I am going to try to go to work tomorrow. My doctor said it was okay, my boss knows my situation and I live very close if I should need to go home.

4N6s Your situation sounds so scary. I am sorry you had to go through that. My doctor insisted on the D&C its so strange how different doctors handle all of this.

alexkylee- I completely agree about the time off! We can save days each year and I plan to have as many as possible.

flyoffeve · September 2014

I'm sorry for your loss. I mc naturally last week (2nd time with a natural mc). It happens so fast for me that I don't get the option. But, seeing many responses on this board, I would have opted for the d&c. I had to tak three days off last week because the pain was so bad. However, it is, unfortunately, a decision to make and which ever route you choose there will be variations for recovering.

katie0919 · September 2014

We found out last Tuesday that my pregnancy was likely to not be viable at 7.5 weeks. She had me come in one more time last Thursday and the baby had not grown at all, but still had a very, very weak heartbeat. So, instead of doing a D&C on Friday, she asked me to stop taking my Prometrium and see what my body did.

But Sunday I had awful cramping, the spotting and bleeding started Monday and I have been bleeding ever since. A natural miscarriage is not *that* bad. My biggest complaint is the cramps are from hell....like, early labor type cramping. 4 Advil at a time don't even help. The heating pad is my best friend (as I sit here at work with it applied to my belly - I don't even care what people think).

But, all that being said, my doc said if I had a D&C done on a Friday I would be more than good to go by Monday. I have several friends that had the procedure and said physically they felt fine almost immediately after. It's the emotional side of things that are the hardest to deal with (as we all know). So, for that, I am so sorry for your loss!!

tamlynd · September 2014

So sorry to hear about you loss xxx I too, was an April mom. I'm also a teacher, I feel that I went back to school too early. I miscarried on the Sunday 31Aug and then had my d and c the next day 1st Sept. I went back to school on the Thursday because I thought I would have been able to manage and just had so much to get done, had kids orals and parents afternoons etc. I ended up freaking out on the Sunday and had to take the monday off and went to see a therapist. I actually wasn't coping. Before I went back to school for the first time, I had asked my h.o.d to tell the staff and kids. We have a small school and the kids deserved to know in a loving way that their teacher had a baby in her tummy and that she lost the baby and he went to heaven. No graphic details. Just a special way. I didn't want the kids to just think I had flu and then when I was back if I felt emotional they would have been confused as to why I was crying or something. That was the way I needed to deal with my loss, sharing it. I'd say, take a few days. Your job is demanding- physically, emotionally and mentally. I wish i had listened to my ob gyn and taken the whole week. You need time to deal with the way you need to feel. Take the time you feel you need.

thinking of you fellow teacher xxx

kreardon11 · November 2014

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FWIW, I popped out of bed (physically) two days post D&C. It was the best decision I've ever made, because if I didn't go that route I wouldn't have known that it was a molar pregnancy and that I would need close watching for 6 months. I highly recommend a D&C so that you know any complications. GL, OP.

Nikolie93 · November 2014

I have no experience with D&C's, all of mine have been natural.

I just wanted to say I'm sorry for your loss to the OP and *hugs* all around.

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