I know we can grow grey hairs wondering, but if you know or have a good idea...why isn't your BD around?
I had to talk to MC today and put my anger towards him behind me. I wanted to blow stacks when he said "your child" and "my daughter." Kept talking about how he was trying to make sure we both had what we needed and all this other BS. I wanted to be like...WHY haven't you seen her? Why are you choosing to do all this, but not be around?!?! Drives me insane.
But I think I've just realized it cramps his style. I think that's why he has chosen not to be around. I really think it interferes with his dating life or something. None of it makes sense, it never has, and I know it never will. Just wondering if any of your BD's have said "Nah, I'm out...not my thing" or whatever...given you a reason.
I know in the end he is also doing this so when she comes to him and says WHY? he will say...I tried and your mom wouldn't let me. So typical.
PCOS // Loss 3/2010 // Single Mom // Natural Birth // DC Metro // Baby Girl Born 2/2/2014
Re: Why aren't they around...
Thats also why i try not to sit and dwell on the why. Id make myself crazy going round and round with the whys and why nots
I have friends who are girls who have no contact with their biological fathers(and never have) they are wonderful successful well adjusted women who have wonderful relationships with their step(read adoptive) fathers. And honestly when e is older she will be able to be prepared for a sm who.doesnt know she exists.
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Its not fair to your dad to be still holding it against him. Just like holding onto your anger towards your x isnt healthy for you or e.
And after thinking about it, im more then glad bd isnt around. Hes controling and very homophobic, hes not a kind hard working man like my bf. Hes very cruel and now post military career is very lazy. I would rather my son learn how to be not just a good man but a good person from the people i put in his life.
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