O bump how I love thee

canadianttc1st · September 2014

I must say I know I see a lot of women on here that complain about some of the responses they get however being part of another pregnancy forum I truly understand.

Seeing the same topic five times in a row, women saying they feel their baby move at 3 weeks, posting pictures of "bumps" at 6 weeks and so much more. It is so frustrating and everyone really does just rain them with butterfly's and rainbows.

Thank you ladies!!!

What is one of the common threads you hate the most?

Rowsdower85 · September 2014

Haha, I feel you. I used to use the What to Expect app.... But holy crap, was it annoying!! The same 3 topics over and over again, and women just constantly blowing smoke up each others rears. I'm a much bigger fan of TB, last week was awful with repetitive posts, but it seems to have calmed down a bit now...

SuperFudge00 · September 2014

I'm kind of over the baby names. They aren't as frequent as others but it just seems pointless.

Either OP wants genuine suggestions (that can be found through any internet baby name search) and individually shoots suggestions down for one reason or another.

Or

It becomes a free-for-all where people want their name choices AW'd and then get butthurt should anyone express an opinion contrary to theirs.

SuperFudge00 · September 2014

Omg, the fly-bys. They don't read anything. They don't even go back to see if anyone responded to their post.

Aint nobody got time for that. photo Aintnobodygotnotimeforthat.gif

SuperFudge00 · September 2014

MrsSchloss said:

saltbox40 said:
It hasn't happened yet..... but I dislike the "Gender/Sex Dissapointment" threads.
No way, that can't be real. How sad.

I agree. I can understand someone wanted a specific sex, but to be disappointed? SMH

redneckmomma25 · September 2014

Any special snowflake or drive by post.

Duffgurl · September 2014

I just dislike certain repeats. Especially if its right underneath their post. Although if I read a posts and suspect MUD sometimes I won't even write a response...seems wasteful. Unless I feel spunky

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angelike81 · September 2014

Maybe some of the moms who are overly excited are first time moms. I know at times I want to be excited being that this is my first pregnancy but with all the loss post I'm to afraid to get to excited.

islandmom79 · September 2014

RHoPA1109 said:
All of the above, and the "how old are the mum's" thread. Ughhh.

This one is by far the worst. I haven't opened it since the beginning but it has so many posts. Who could even keep track of everyones age and it doesn't really matter to me how old someone is.

SuperFudge00 · September 2014

MrsSchloss said:

MrsRexManing said:
You know, while I can't relate to those feelings of sex/'gender' disappointment, I get it. Especially if you know it's your last child, and you envision putting braids in your daughter's hair or dancing with your son at his wedding one day, or whatever it is. I can see how someone might grieve the loss of that possibility. It's not something I'd like to read, but I don't think its something to be ashamed of. I wouldn't fault someone for feeling disappointed unless that disappointment interfered with how they care for the child they will have.
I didn't think about it that way. Thanks for the perspective, it makes sense!

Same

miahbelle · September 2014

mbm1983 said:

MrsRexManing said:

You know, while I can't relate to those feelings of sex/'gender' disappointment, I get it. Especially if you know it's your last child, and you envision putting braids in your daughter's hair or dancing with your son at his wedding one day, or whatever it is. I can see how someone might grieve the loss of that possibility. It's not something I'd like to read, but I don't think its something to be ashamed of. I wouldn't fault someone for feeling disappointed unless that disappointment interfered with how they care for the child they will have.

exactly. disappointment is allowed to me. disappointment and harboring resentment over the kid is absolutely not. but i'd say that's rare. at least i hope it would be.

I just hate it when people have their heart set on a specific sex when there are people out there who just want a baby. And honestly, it makes me wanna scream "grow up" if you can't even just say I want a healthy baby. But that is my UO.
The threads I hate are drive by-ers and "omg I felt the baby!"

SunRae1 · September 2014

The most annoying thing to me right now is the guess the sex of the baby posts and the I have no symptoms am I normal posts.

nahawley82 · September 2014

This is way later, but on my July 13 board we got millions of questions every day regarding the glucose test, like what you should/shouldn't eat/do before test. Only the dr can provide you with that info, as some require you to fast others advise to eat....just seemed like an everyday occurrence, for something ladies on the Internet really can't answer!

miahbelle · September 2014

RHoPA1109 said:

miahbelle said:

mbm1983 said:

MrsRexManing said:

You know, while I can't relate to those feelings of sex/'gender' disappointment, I get it. Especially if you know it's your last child, and you envision putting braids in your daughter's hair or dancing with your son at his wedding one day, or whatever it is. I can see how someone might grieve the loss of that possibility. It's not something I'd like to read, but I don't think its something to be ashamed of. I wouldn't fault someone for feeling disappointed unless that disappointment interfered with how they care for the child they will have.

exactly. disappointment is allowed to me. disappointment and harboring resentment over the kid is absolutely not. but i'd say that's rare. at least i hope it would be.

I just hate it when people have their heart set on a specific sex when there are people out there who just want a baby. And honestly, it makes me wanna scream "grow up" if you can't even just say I want a healthy baby. But that is my UO.
The threads I hate are drive by-ers and "omg I felt the baby!"

Why should people be forced to lie about their feelings? I think lying and repressing one's feelings is more immature and worthy of a "grow up" than a level headed person being truthful and rational and then not dwelling on after a concise honest answer would be.

I guess I feel like you shouldn't want one sex over the other... Yes I know it happens and yes I think if you don't get what you want you need to move on. It just bothers me when people obviously want a certain sex and are clearly not happy when they get the opposite. But maybe I know too many people who "just want a little girl soooo bad".

taahira · September 2014

The I have no MS is this normally thread...I find myself rolling my eyes as I lift my head out of a sick bowl.

jijikinz · September 2014

So basically everyone hates every kind of thread there is..lol

donnamartingraduates93 · September 2014

jijikinz said:

So basically everyone hates every kind of thread there is..lol

This was literally your first post. Interesting choice.

SuperFudge00 · September 2014

Now I need to add The individual NT scan threads. Most of us are getting them, should we all monopolize the page to share our own?

drmrsmantis · September 2014

MOtownMama said:

You know, while I can't relate to those feelings of sex/'gender' disappointment, I get it. Especially if you know it's your last child, and you envision putting braids in your daughter's hair or dancing with your son at his wedding one day, or whatever it is. I can see how someone might grieve the loss of that possibility. It's not something I'd like to read, but I don't think its something to be ashamed of. I wouldn't fault someone for feeling disappointed unless that disappointment interfered with how they care for the child they will have.
All of this! This is why I could never be team green unless I already had one of each sex. I think disappointment can be natural. I had a split second of grieving over the little girl I never had while pg with DS, even though I wanted a boy first! I would feel so guilty if I had felt those feelings on the day of his birth. I would rather have 20 weeks or so to digest the info.

I couldn't have said this better. @miahbelle I struggled with this when I found out DS was a boy, mostly because I was already bonding with the idea of a baby that wasn't meant to be (I thought he was a girl). I also had a hard time envisioning myself as a good mom to a boy, which is totally unrealistic in retrospect. And I really felt guilty about being disappointed, which I think got in the way of dealing with those feelings. Eventually, all was right when I met DS, and now I wouldn't have it any other way, but I think it's normal. I agree that you're judging too harshly.

I basically hate any type of SS or AW thread that belongs somewhere else (symptoms, ultrasounds, etc). Not enough to open them and redirect people. I'll just judge silently and go on to the fun ones. But I'll love tit the shit out of those baby pics when they're in one thread.

miahbelle · September 2014

drmrsmantis said:

MOtownMama said:

MrsRexManing said:
You know, while I can't relate to those feelings of sex/'gender' disappointment, I get it. Especially if you know it's your last child, and you envision putting braids in your daughter's hair or dancing with your son at his wedding one day, or whatever it is. I can see how someone might grieve the loss of that possibility. It's not something I'd like to read, but I don't think its something to be ashamed of. I wouldn't fault someone for feeling disappointed unless that disappointment interfered with how they care for the child they will have.
All of this! This is why I could never be team green unless I already had one of each sex. I think disappointment can be natural. I had a split second of grieving over the little girl I never had while pg with DS, even though I wanted a boy first! I would feel so guilty if I had felt those feelings on the day of his birth. I would rather have 20 weeks or so to digest the info.

I couldn't have said this better. @miahbelle I struggled with this when I found out DS was a boy, mostly because I was already bonding with the idea of a baby that wasn't meant to be (I thought he was a girl). I also had a hard time envisioning myself as a good mom to a boy, which is totally unrealistic in retrospect. And I really felt guilty about being disappointed, which I think got in the way of dealing with those feelings. Eventually, all was right when I met DS, and now I wouldn't have it any other way, but I think it's normal. I agree that you're judging too harshly.

I basically hate any type of SS or AW thread that belongs somewhere else (symptoms, ultrasounds, etc). Not enough to open them and redirect people. I'll just judge silently and go on to the fun ones. But I'll love tit the shit out of those baby pics when they're in one thread.

I'm glad you could move on and I know people do get their mind/heart set on a boy or girl and I admire the people who can accept the baby even when it ends up being the opposite, I really do. It's hard to move on from losing your ideal. My problem really is when they don't move on (insist every child they get pregnant with is the sex they want - go on and on talking about what sex they wanted - express extreme disapointment/anger/ irritation about the sex, ect). I also just don't like people getting set on a certain sex, although that one is way more acceptable IMO.

drmrsmantis · September 2014

Swoon13 said:

even though i'm getting really fucking jealous over it, i don't think i ever get tired of ultrasound pictures. i don't care how many posts there are. i love seeing those grainy wavy lines.
Same here! They offset the crushing sadness I feel when we get a loss thread.

Samesies!

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