Is your DH/SO getting more excited?

Duffgurl · September 2014

So with some men it takes longer for it to kick in that they are also expecting a LO. Has your DH/SO started to get more excited about the pregnancy and knowing a new addition will be coming?

My DH has been excited since I told him but now every other day he will stop and be like Babe we are having a baby and smile. Its so cute. I also love when he puts his hand on my lower part of my abdomen and he will be like shhh I am talking to our baby. Melts my heart. :x

MitoRachel · September 2014

Not really. I'm not expecting much until he gets to hold the baby. He was mildly interested a few times during my other pregnancies, but bonds wonderfully once the baby is here.

SuperFudge00 · September 2014

He's been excited. Still kisses my belly in the mornings. But he is not as excited as I am. But the NT scan rejuvenated his excitement!!

zoeysims · September 2014

DH already has 3 babies... Ages 4, 3, and 1. He's not excited for this baby and it breaks my heart. He pretends to be happy but when I tell him about my symptoms or when I say something like ugh my boobs hurt he will roll his eyes and say something stupid like "my ex wife didn't even say her boobs hurt until after the baby was born"
And at that moment he's lucky I don't have a gun in my hand. I HATE being constantly compared to this lady! I've never even met her, but her pregnancies sound FUCKING LOVELY! I hear about them all the time!
I know he's "been through this" and he's "experienced"
But I would like him to experience MY pregnancy instead of comparing me to her. I'm totally venting right now!
UGH! Sorry!

zoeysims · September 2014

And he just text me "I love you, you and the baby"
SHUT UP IM MAD AT YOU!

Duffgurl · September 2014

zoeysims said:
DH already has 3 babies... Ages 4, 3, and 1. He's not excited for this baby and it breaks my heart. He pretends to be happy but when I tell him about my symptoms or when I say something like ugh my boobs hurt he will roll his eyes and say something stupid like "my ex wife didn't even say her boobs hurt until after the baby was born"
And at that moment he's lucky I don't have a gun in my hand. I HATE being constantly compared to this lady! I've never even met her, but her pregnancies sound FUCKING LOVELY! I hear about them all the time!
I know he's "been through this" and he's "experienced"
But I would like him to experience MY pregnancy instead of comparing me to her. I'm totally venting right now!
UGH! Sorry!

That is not cool. Have you talked to him about it?

zoeysims · September 2014

Yes, multiple times. Every time he promises to try harder to not talk about her. It never works. Im so used to it that now I just walk away or pretend like I didn't hear him.

jobotrobot · September 2014

He's pretty stoked. He talks to my belly and kisses it and all that junk (which I love) and says our baby is going to be so cool. He reads up on a lot of stuff and I got him a book that had some useful info in it specifically for dads :
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0789210770/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

When we were at our first appt and had an ultrasound, his eyes lit up when we saw the little wiggle worm and it was great to see him so happy.

yellowdaisies84 · September 2014

I have a very sweet, sensitive, loving and romantic husband. He really is wonderful. But he hasn't reacted how I expected with pregnancy. He hasn't had a negative reaction- don't get me wrong- but he seems to be pretty low-key about it. He has never put his hand on my tummy which is something I expected him to do immediately. He doesn't bring up the baby or the pregnancy on his own. I think he's a little overwhelmed- as am I- we are so excited and we were trying but we're totally unprepared and our apartment won't do for the three of us so now we're house-hunting, worrying about finances and dealing with everything all while keeping this pregnancy a secret. Also, I've been nauseated and exhausted and pretty lazy, sensitive, and I feel like all I ever want to talk about is being pregnant. I feel like if I try not to talk about it for a day he'll start bringing it up on his own. I think everything will be better soon, especially when we tell our families and get some emotional support from other people and start to realize that this is really happening and that we can totally handle this. My MS is now getting WAY better so hopefully I can start acting more like my normal self again. That was so hard to be a grumpy nauseated exhausted woman and he came down with a really bad cold during the beginning of the pregnancy so we were both sort of worn out and out of it- plus we have been SO BUSY since we found out, it's like we haven't had a chance to catch our breath. I think we just need some time together.

Duffgurl · September 2014

zoeysims said:
Yes, multiple times. Every time he promises to try harder to not talk about her. It never works. Im so used to it that now I just walk away or pretend like I didn't hear him.

Well I hope he starts to realize you just don't do that and is more supportive towards you. ::Hugs::

bowman958 · September 2014

My husband has a huge test on Friday and might be more excited after that. Right now he has his focus elsewhere. Last time he wasn't that into it until he felt the baby move. Even then he couldn't get her to move on demand so he wasn't that pumped. I think when I was in labor is when it really, really hit home.

vickersh1 · September 2014

DH is more excited that I am. He has been wanting kids for a few years now, but I wanted to wait until I finished school. He texts me every morning to see how my morning is going and at lunch asks how I am feeling. I've luckily not had MS - but he did make some tacos one night that didn't set well with me. He went to the store and bought some fruit for me instead to help easy my stomach. He has been amazing!

Note: I am excited for the baby - but never have been a fan of the whole pregnant for 9-10 months. I just want the baby to be here! (Hey worked for my sister! She was told she was pregnant and 12 hours later had the baby)

lacey0482 · September 2014

My husband and I both have the worry about something not going right again hanging over us, so neither of us are as excited as one might expect. But, even with our daughter's pregnancy he didn't seem to be really IN to it until much later in the pregnancy. And of course once she was here was a totally different story. I think it generally takes men longer to get excited about it because it's not a change they are experiencing quite yet, aside from the side effects of dealing with us and our hormones.

lacey0482 · September 2014

I hope this isn't AWish, but I wrote this when I was 5 months pregnant last time and it seems like he had just started getting excited around this point.

https://lifeoflacey.blogspot.com/2011/05/on-becoming-daddy.html

cwiceangel · September 2014

Mine has been excited since before we actually found out and I was just suspecting I was. But I made him hold back because I was worried about losing this one and the first loss almost tore us apart. But now were more excited. We're allowing ourselves to get more excited and happy about it. We will announce this weekend probably. We will be a couple days shy of the second trimester. And dr says all looks really good. But I think once he can feel things move it'll be all over. Lol

littlewest1 · September 2014

I don't think he really thinks about it that much. He was there for the ultrasound but other than that there really isn't an every day reminder that another baby is on the way. I think it might take me actually showing for him to remember we are having another. Plus he loves our daughter so much he has this fear that his relationship will change with her after the new baby is born...maybe he's trying not to think about it that much right now. He's a hard read too.

wolowizard · September 2014

My fiancé is excited. He doesn't show excitement but he does rest his hand where the baby is. However, the first time he did it, it was after we went to DQ and I had to explain to him that he was 'holding' my Blizzard, not the baby.

vdavis89 · September 2014

My husband asked me the other day "how is the pregnancy going?" just like that! I just looked at him dumbfounded and said "honey did you really just ask me that?" it was kind of awkward ..... some days he's excited some days he's freakin out about our tiny house, bills, money and anything else he can possibly stress out over.

Yesterday he said he has a surprise for the baby, i asked if he meant the big baby (our almost 2 year old) or the baby that's still cookin and he said both ... he came home with a playhouse from a friend at work and he stayed up till 9 cleaning it up for DD

MudLover · September 2014

Yes he is and it totally melts my heart. He is a great father to his daughter and to mine. I know this little one will be no exception to his awesomeness.

Murran131 · September 2014

I think for many men it's just not that real until they see the baby. I absolutely loved the look on my husband's face at the last ultrasound. He was so delighted! Sweetest thing ever. Then it fades a bit until we see the baby again. Which is fine. I'm constantly reminded by the sickness, cramps, exhaustion, etc. that a baby is growing in there. He's reminded by my complaints most of the time

So yeah, he is getting more excited every time we see it, but it's not going to be truly real until he can hold our little kicker.

amandamarie2 · September 2014

I think the first time DH really felt attached to our baby was when we had a scare, went to the ER, and wound up having our first ultrasound. He's had a really busy month at work but lately I think it's been hitting him more, he's started putting his hand on my belly or kissing it and often talks to the baby, always referring to the baby by his nickname for them, "Minion."

kariemomo · September 2014

Mine has been super excited. After we had an ultrasound at 9 weeks, he asked of we could tell everyone. I said no. I wanted to wait till closer to 12. Though I'm feeling more confident that everything is okay. Being 10weeks tomorrow. He even has a plan for feeding, he told me out of the blue, "when I wake up at 5, I will feed the baby and change the baby, so you can sleep, and then since I stay up late, I will feed the baby and put the baby to bed when I go to bed" (since I go to bed early). We will see how this all plays out, but I'm glad he's thinking about it, and wanting to be involved with feeding and helping out.

missab · September 2014

My husband isn't necessarily into the baby yet, but he is completely into my pregnancy -- making me comfortable, making my life easier (does all cooking/cleaning/laundry/grocery shopping these days), and making me feel beautiful at all times (despite my ever-expanding blump). Cutest thing yet was the day we found out we were low risk (maternit21) and that we were having a boy -- all afternoon he kept texting me saying he couldn't concentrate because he was so excited!! That said, I think that piece was a little abstract and fleeting, but he's still the most amazing husband and will be the best dad ever.

OliveMom3 · September 2014

My dh is a very quiet guy but he expresses himself really well when he writes. He send me really thoughtful texts throughout the day and gives DS and I kisses before he leaves for work in the morning and he always mentions the very little person growing. He calls me Ti Crotte (which translates to little booger) and he calls our soon to be addition mini-Crotte. DS is Titi Crotte.

crossfit704 · September 2014

I think it became real for DH at the first ultra sound. He's always said he can't see anything human like on ultra sounds and suddenly it was "ITS A LITTLE HUMAN!!" The us tech looked at him slightly crazy. Everynight before he goes to bed he kisses me on the head then rubs my belly and says "Goodnight superfly". Yes, this is what he calls the baby….not it is not what we are naming the baby.

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