Over whelming urge to strangle partner

claireb86 · September 2014

Uuuughhhhhh he's just suck a dick!!! It's like he doesn't understand the metamorphism I am under going and he still wants his back rubbed. Rub my dam back!! And while you're at it if I'm crying because my jeans don't do up don't laugh and try to "lighten the mood"!!! Stroke my hair and tell me I'm beautiful! Grrrrrr

LEMSA · September 2014

Nut punch.

JLaudio · September 2014

Sit down and explain it to him. You're hormonal, your back hurts, your tired and that he needs to be a little more sensitive, not only to your feelings but also to your needs right now. If he still is being a dick, then he definitely deserves a swift kick in the dick.

bowman958 · September 2014

Maybe if you communicate your expectations he will have a chance to get it right. Give him a break and tell him what you need from him.

drmrsmantis · September 2014

claireb86 said:

Uuuughhhhhh he's just suck a dick!!! It's like he doesn't understand the metamorphism I am under going and he still wants his back rubbed. Rub my dam back!! And while you're at it if I'm crying because my jeans don't do up don't laugh and try to "lighten the mood"!!! Stroke my hair and tell me I'm beautiful! Grrrrrr

I think you guys both want to consider each other's needs, or it's going to be a long 9 months (+ the rest of your life). Maybe offer to give him a back rub at a time when you're feeling better. Maybe give him a few suggestions for things you'd like to hear when you're feeling grumpy. That's what I do with DH.

Also, is this what you meant?

Metamorphism is the change of minerals or geologic texture (distinct arrangement of minerals) in pre-existing rocks (protoliths), without the protolith melting into liquid magma (a solid-state change)

bowman958 · September 2014

@drmrsmantis‌ I think she meant more like this

jk3610 · September 2014

Dh has been wonderful because he knows how i want to be treated. I tell him clearly and calmly when i'm not in a compromised emotional state. We talk honestly with each other. Just let him know how you feel but don't be judgmental. Maybe he is feeling anxious about being a dad. Dh is nervous about being a ftd, and he jokes a lot with me to ease the tension. You just have to accept that it's not only your life changing but his too!!!

dana1047 · September 2014

Just be open & communicate. Every girl likes to feel beautiful. Unfortunately men are not mind readers.

I ugly cried over pasta salad last week. DH tried to offer compassion, but then ended up laughing uncontrollably. Sometimes these cranky hormonal cries & rages just need a good laugh.

dana1047 · September 2014

We also have a member on our board that lost her husband a few weeks ago and will now be going through her pregnancy without her partner. Reading her post made me thankful even for the annoying parts

JLaudio · September 2014

Take it from someone who gets irritated very easily, sometimes it's better to walk away, give yourself a rational talking to, figure out EXACTLY what bothered you, then go talk to him about it and let him know what you expect. You also have to be receptive of his feelings and expectations as well though. My husband now knows when I'm ticked at him, to just leave me alone, nothing he says is going to right, he is always wrong if/when I'm seeing red, I have to work it out on my own before I can confront him rationally, sometimes I don't confront him at all, other than to apologize because I'll decide my emotions were not rational, maybe this could work for you as well.

Critter015 · September 2014

Good luck, no amount of explanation, pleading, or nut punching has gotten through to my husband in my 3 pregnancies. 4 hours after he watched me give birth to our son he was asking me if I would get him something to drink because I was up and hobbling to the bathroom. I don't even think that is his worst offense.

claireb86 · September 2014

Hahaha no I'm not really homicidal, it's ok I like him today. I am very hormonal with this pregnancy (number 3) and am aware of the changes for him too. I was just venting to who I was hoping would be people who understand the hormonal rages too. To the person who said "bag of dick" was the a cianide and happiness reference? Hahaha made me laugh

Lulu00724 · September 2014

I have the exact words for mine: Stop eating my damn cheese sticks.

justyouraveragemama · September 2014

One of two things happen when I am emotionally overreacting: DH either laughs at me or gets angry at me for being touchy or ugly crying. I don't think he knows how to react when this happens, it's a little out of character for me. Although thankfully he has realized that eating my food causes rage haha

Edited because I don't know how to type words at the moment

s_corrigall · September 2014

I hear ya, I tell my husband several times throughout the week, "I love you to death, but all I want to do is punch you in the face."

claireb86 · September 2014

Mine has started hiding in the corner and throwing food at me when my face drops hahaha he's learning......finally.

JLaudio · September 2014

Honestly, the ONE thing that keeps causing arguments in this house is food. We don't ever argue, then he touches MY food, then the shit hits the fan. Maybe one day, it'll sink in for our men. Lol.

rwalton1 · September 2014

My god, let the girl vent! Obvi she can't vent to her husband. I let my bf read a lot of the pregnancy info the docs gave me and even downloaded this app and another on his phone so he knows what's going on with symptoms, the baby and what to expect. I also try to make sure he can come to every appt and ask questions. I was very emotional the first month, and when we found out I was pregnant, he said "thank god, I thought you were crazy". Haha. I was pretty intense. He's very supportive now. When I cry at insurance commercials or something stupid, he just laughs...it is pretty ridiculous and actually helps.

bowman958 · September 2014

rwalton1 said:
My god, let the girl vent! Obvi she can't vent to her husband. I let my bf read a lot of the pregnancy info the docs gave me and even downloaded this app and another on his phone so he knows what's going on with symptoms, the baby and what to expect. I also try to make sure he can come to every appt and ask questions. I was very emotional the first month, and when we found out I was pregnant, he said "thank god, I thought you were crazy". Haha. I was pretty intense. He's very supportive now. When I cry at insurance commercials or something stupid, he just laughs...it is pretty ridiculous and actually helps.

Thank you for your input. I will take it into consideration the next time I post.

Psyche.

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