37 weeks and Formal dinner

laxin31 · September 2014

What would you do? My husbands work is having a black tie dinner on Oct 2nd, tickets are 45 a piece. Now I will be 37 weeks pregnant and have NOTHING to wear. I could order something but it would be close to another 100 bucks if not more. I have been getting more uncomfortable at dinner chairs if i sit too long and this kind of dinner there is a lot of sitting and dullness to the event. Trying to figure out if its worth attending for me. Now one of his bosses wife will give me a hard time but she is also a friend/co-worker (for our volunteer office) of mine but I just don't know if its really worth it at that point.

Jennyc00 · September 2014

Oh man that stinks. I went to a semi nice dinner with my hub a month ago and wore a nice maxi dress but I don't think I could go for formal at this point and have to buy a nice dress for one night.... I think I'd cash in my preggo rain check card!

SusieBW · September 2014

I don't know, I get so few chances to get dolled up at this stage in my life, I think I might like the opportunity. We went to one of these back in the spring, and I even got my hair done. But something like this at 5 months pregnant is definitely NOT the same as at 8 months pregnant. Maybe discuss with your DH ahead of time, and have a game plan that might include heading home a little early? Do you have something you can wear that you could make work if you dressed it up with the right jewelery/shoes?

vrj0522 · September 2014

I personally would go but I think I'd be more up for it. Sounds to me like you already don't want to go, so why not just stay home?

KelliRR · September 2014

I was a bridesmaid at 33 weeks, so I feel you. I am also an attorney, so I have to dress up for court often. If it's important to your DH, I'd say go, but plan for an early evening, so that you won't feel obligated to try to stay all night, and DH won't have different expectations.
As far as what to wear, a Little black dress (I got mine that I wear to court at Target for $25) is totally appropriate, especially because you are pregnant. Wear nice jewelry and whatever shoes you damn well please.

ashie0610 · September 2014

I would not want to go either. My MIL is currently trying to convince me to come to my SIL's engagement party next Saturday since I didn't have the baby yet. I'll be one day shy of 39 weeks and it's an hour and a half away!

Yeah, if squeezing into a dress to squeeze into a car just to sit uncomfortably among people asking nonstop about your belly, pregnancy, birth plans, and sharing delivery stories sounds like a freaking BLAST, then I say go for it.

No thanks. Ugh, I probably sound like a miserable bitch right now, but all I can think of is how that engagement party is the last place I want to be next weekend, and, like your boss's wife is doing to you, I'm totally being guilted into it right now!

andrieya · September 2014

You don't have to squeeze into a dress! We went to a wedding two weeks ago and a super nice dinner this past weekend (38.5 weeks) for our last pre-baby four star meal. I was super excited to go because I loved the dresses I had for the occasions. If physically you're not up to it, that's one thing, but don't let not having a dress stop you from going out! Get shopping girl!

Emerald27 · September 2014

I would go. Yeah, you might not be your comfiest and you might be very tired afterward, but soon you'll have baby to care for and opportunities like this will be less convenient and less frequent. I'd make the best of it and just plan to leave early if it's too much!

Thewizardofrhythm · September 2014

I think you should go. I'm 37 1/2 weeks and I went to a formal evening wedding on Saturday an hour away and it was totally fine. I even wore heels! It was nice to just relax and do something fun. Plus, maybe the dancing helped to ease baby into optimal birth position! I was stressed about the dress thing too but I found a stretchy black dress in my closet that fit and just dressed it up with jewelry and makeup.

laxin31 · September 2014

Normally I would have NO PROBLEM going to this kind of dinner. There are some contributing factors that go into this dinner. Its called a change of command dinner its with the military so if anyone is military they might get where I am going with this....

Its about an hour long of cocktail hour, finally sit down for about another hour of speeches, rules of the night--one is you can't get out of your seat unless you ask permission by the MC (which I would be allowed to and not get fined...well my husband not get fined..which he would have to drink from the grog due to my pregnancy) and many toast.

Let alone my husbands squadron is not exactly the most fun group of people. These events are supposed to be a lot of fun and drinking.

Its not that I don't want to go but for $45 a piece for us to go is also a bit hard to swollow on top of buying a dress I need for this event and if I end up cutting out short.

Emerald27 · September 2014

@laxin31‌ Sounds like you don't want to go. So don't!

MrMrsandBaby · September 2014

I was going to agree with a couple other posters but after reading your last post I can tell you clearly don't want to go so I'm not sure what you want us to say? Don't go. You already decided it won't be fun, and you will be miserable and you can't afford it. So just stay home.

ETA: words are hard

jenndub · September 2014

I feel like you're asking us to give you permission to not go. You don't have to go, so don't if you're not up to it. I probably would attend, but I'm crazy and go to everything.

aminalex · September 2014

All of what PP says. It might be fun but if you really don't want to go, you can DEF play the pregnancy card.

plus you don't have to spend a lot on a formal dress: https://www.minefornine.com/
My SIL had 3 weddings to go to when she was super pregnant. She wound up getting a really pretty gown.

angeltennis3 · September 2014

As pp's have said...it sounds like you have already made up your mind so not really sure what you are looking for...

laxin31 · September 2014

angeltennis3 said:
As pp's have said...it sounds like you have already made up your mind so not really sure what you are looking for...

Honestly I haven't made my mind up yet. My husband should go even though he doesn't really want to due to lack of fun in his command. I am just afraid that by the time I say we are going and than something happen or I'm not feeling good we just wasted a bunch of money. Which is why I asked would you go at 37 weeks and pay for a new dress and tickets?

rhonda101014 · September 2014

I went to a wedding last friday at almost 37 weeks and I was so uncomfortable. Had bh all night and was wishing I had stayed home.

I guess it depends on how you are feeling. But dressing up at this point sucks for me and I hated spending money on fancy clothes that I will never wear again.

irisheyes317 · September 2014

Personally, I would go. I'm going to both a wedding and an engagement party this upcoming weekend when I'll be 36 weeks. I'm not buying a new dress for either, even though they are formal. I have some black stretchy dresses that will work perfectly well with the right accessories. They aren't exactly what I'd wear if I weren't pregnant, but people are willing to give a hugely pregnant woman a lot of leeway. My thinking is that even though I'm tired, we only have a few weeks left to enjoy events like this without worrying about babysitters etc.

On the other hand, it sounds like you really don't want to go and don't think you'll have fun. You have permission from this internet stranger to get out of it, and I'd be surprised if anyone questioned you if you said you couldn't go because you weren't feeling well at this stage.

andrieya · September 2014

Blah, those ARE boring. Go out on your own date night!

laxin31 · September 2014

theresat858 said:

I wouldn't go to an event where you can't get up to pee at will. That sounds like a nightmare.

I get a pass because I am pregnant. The tradition is that anytime you need/want to get out of your seat you have to ask permission unless there is a break.

leela02 · September 2014

It really depends on how you feel about the event. If it's not the sort of experience that you usually find fun, then being physically uncomfortable and spending extra $$ might mean it's not worth it.

pnwlover12 · September 2014

I'm in camp stay at home and order Chinese food.

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