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Nikkimax120
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What to do??
Nikkimax120
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Re: What to do??
My partner and I have been together for 5 years. I was a single mom before then and my daughter is 7. I've always wanted 2 kids and sometimes he'll listen to the idea but mostly he says each family should only have one especially ours. His reasons are 1. He doesn't want my daughter to feel like we don't love her the most. 2. He things the world is over populated and many babies don't have parents and that we shouldn't bring another person into the world. He doesn't like the idea of adoption 3. He doesn't think we have enough money. I can understand where he comes from, BUT I'm maternal. I've always wanted 2 kids and I had my daughter when I was 19. Was single the entire time as the father and I broke up (after he cheated on me again) 2 weeks before I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant. The pregnancy was great, but it was lacking love and was surrounded by a lot of hurt and being scared for being so young. I finally have found the man that I love and that has accepted my beautiful daughter as his own, but I can't help but want to have just one more and have a happy experience and share that experience with the man that I love. I think about this all day and every time I find out someone is pregnant I'm ecstatic, but I always have to hold back my grief that I might not ever get that happy feeling. I feel so guilty I didn't feel that for my daughter due to my fear and the circumstance.
Am I wrong? Is this a deal breaker? What should I do? Is he right? Should I just get over it? Help! Thank you!
2. If it were me, I would want a commitment in the form of marriage from him before I would have a kid with him. Marriage doesn't ensure that your potential future child will have a loving two parent home, but it does make that more likely.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
Expecting Baby Bean February 2017
I had Ds when I was 20 and me and his father are still together. However, being so young and not very successful was a stressor, not to mention I was also grieving while pregnant. To me, I've always felt I missed out on all the happiness and excitement of a pregnancy for years.
Fast forward 11 years and we decided to have a second. I'll be honest, it was awesome to feel excited and do all the pregnant things I never got to the first time around. But guess what? We BOTH wanted to go for a second. I'm telling you this because if you're both not on board, you're not going to get the outcome you're fantasizing about.
You're focusing on what you never had with the first one and not listening to your partner. This is a slippery slope.