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August 2014 Moms
FrodaBaggins
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Take comfort...
FrodaBaggins
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My husband is reading a parenting book - I will make sure I get the title and authors and update this to give credit where credit is due, but he emailed me this passage earlier this morning and it made me feel a lot better:
"Even if your little one keeps crying while you hold her, she feels your arms around her. This is very different from the uncomforted crying that is so stressful to infants. She may be in pain or she may simply be overstimulated and need to release all those pent-up stresses of being newly alive in an overwhelming world. Either way, your presence is doing its job, giving her the safety to express her emotions— and to feel heard. This crying actually releases stress hormones. Think of it this way: She had a hard day, or (even months ago) a hard birth, and she wants to tell you about it. She may be crying, but it’s a good, cleansing cry. She’s releasing all the cortisol, adrenaline, and other pent-up stress hormones from her overstimulating experiences in this crazy new world. Because you’re holding her, her body is responding to her crying by building neural pathways to deliver calming hormones. This is hard work for you, but the good news is that if you can just keep breathing to calm yourself, and keep providing a safe “holding environment” for her, she’ll eventually build the neural connections to soothe herself."
"Even if your little one keeps crying while you hold her, she feels your arms around her. This is very different from the uncomforted crying that is so stressful to infants. She may be in pain or she may simply be overstimulated and need to release all those pent-up stresses of being newly alive in an overwhelming world. Either way, your presence is doing its job, giving her the safety to express her emotions— and to feel heard. This crying actually releases stress hormones. Think of it this way: She had a hard day, or (even months ago) a hard birth, and she wants to tell you about it. She may be crying, but it’s a good, cleansing cry. She’s releasing all the cortisol, adrenaline, and other pent-up stress hormones from her overstimulating experiences in this crazy new world. Because you’re holding her, her body is responding to her crying by building neural pathways to deliver calming hormones. This is hard work for you, but the good news is that if you can just keep breathing to calm yourself, and keep providing a safe “holding environment” for her, she’ll eventually build the neural connections to soothe herself."
Southern California
Together for six years, married for five
BFP 12/06/13 - EDD 8/11/14
BABY BOY born 8/14/14!
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Re: Take comfort...
Mrs. H
Crohn's Dx: August 2008
Endometriosis Dx: May 2010
Married: 05/19/2012
TTC #1: June 2013
BFP: December 2013
DS: Born 08/29/2014
TTC #2: July 2015
BFP #2: September 25, 2015
first son stillborn 7/20/13 at 39 weeks due to Acute Fatty Liver of Pregnancy
It's a girl! Baby Anna was born August 3, 2014!
Also looking forward to sharing this with my husband. He gets so upset when he can't comfort our daughter immediately. I think this will help him tremendously!
Can your husband find us a positive quote about lack of sleep and crazy hormones.