STMs- how many years apart are your kids?

Helmink0804 · September 2014

Do you like their age gap or do you wish they were closer in age or further apart in age?

Junebug060609 · September 2014

2y7m. I like the gap. We didn't intend for it, had a m/c and then tttc after DS, but it works for us.

ksyknelvr73 · September 2014

My boys are 3 yrs and 3 mos apart. I really am loving the age gap. I think b/c older DS is much more independent and can do (and wants to do)things on his own. He was potty trained and in a big boy bed before LO came along. He is in a very helpful phase as well, so he can grab me a diaper and even help feed LO a bottle if needed. It has been great! There is a part of me that wishes they were a little closer, and we did try for that, but I had two losses. We were aiming for 2.5ish years apart. Ultimately though I am happy with how things have ended up. If we decide to have one more we may attempt a smaller age gap, but still over 2 years.

spinsoffresonance · September 2014

18 months apart. It was intentional, doctors wanted me to crank out kids as fast as possible so they could take my uterus out. It's challenging now with basically 2 babies, but I think it will be great. DD1 is young enough that she doesn't remember a time without her little sister. Hence no jealousy towards the baby, she loves the baby. And she loves helping with everything (diapers, laundry, dishes). But she's very possessive of me and has a hard time dealing with not having my full attention. I'm sure there are pros and cons for every age gap.

ns1 · September 2014

See @Kimbus22‌ ' s 1st 3 paragraphs for me too. (Except #1 is DD)

rainstar752 · September 2014

Mine are 3 years apart almost exactly. I love the age difference. DD#1 is potty trained, and while 3 year olds can have major attitude, they also can be helpful and caring towards their sibling too. If I have to tend to a crying baby, she's old enough to entertain herself for reasonable amounts of time.

chillypenguin · September 2014

My girls are 19.5 months apart. I found out I was KU on DD1's 1st birthday. I am really loving the age gap. We had a time when DD2 was about 3 months that DD1 really struggled with jealousy (I think because DD2 was no longer just a newborn that slept all day, she was starting to play on her play mat and have toys) but through it all, DD1 just loves her SO much! Some days are hard, but overall I wouldn't change the spacing.

ETA: I have a TON of family support. We hang out at my mom's house multiple times a week for a change of scenery. When DD1 has gymnastics (with a parent since she just turned 2), my mom watches DD2. A lot of times if one has a doctors appt, my mom watches the other one. (I sometimes take both, but it's just easier with one). If I didn't have so much support, I think I would still like the age gap, but it would certainly be a lot harder.

laura3462 · September 2014

Mine are 3.6 yrs apart: 4yr old and a 4 month. #1 is independent for the most part (showering, eating, elimination etc). It is helpful. However, I can not play as much with #1 while caring for #2. It is a bigger gap but it is what God had in store for us. My older LO is very helpful and caring with #2. No real issues.

pistolpackinmomma · September 2014

16 months. Love it.

jane8188 · September 2014

I haven't posted since before we had our babies, hi again! 14 months. It is super difficult, but I think in the long run it might be easier. I don't think my son remembers life with out my daughter & he loves her soo much. I really miss sleep, but I already have baby fever again. I think I may have lost my mind.

momo214 · September 2014

Babybarlow2014 said:
Our kids are 24, 17, 14, 11, 6, 3 and 4 months.
It's insane but we love it!

Holy crap!! That's insanity!!

danabsd · September 2014

20 months. I love it. I hope my next is around the same.

danabsd · September 2014

Babybarlow2014 said:
Our kids are 24, 17, 14, 11, 6, 3 and 4 months.
It's insane but we love it!

At first I thought that was all in months and I was like woah. Then I realized that would only possible if you had sister wives. Wait... Do you have sister wives?

Bacon2 · September 2014

2 years and 5 months. I'm happy I got KU when I did.
Bc if I had waited any longer and went through this terrible fucking two stage not KU, I would never have anymore. This is the absolute worst stage yet..

Junebug060609 · September 2014

kitchencolors said:
22 months. I like the age gap in theory, but it's too close given that DD1's development is so delayed.

Two non-walking, non-talking, non-independent feeding babies is toooo much for me right now.

In another year I'll probably think it's awesome.

Dealing with different delays here, but you're right, having an older kid who isn't on track developmentally complicates things. It's exhausting.

Esbi25 · September 2014

Bacon2 said:
2 years and 5 months. I'm happy I got KU when I did.
Bc if I had waited any longer and went through this terrible fucking two stage not KU, I would never have anymore. This is the absolute worst stage yet..

Haha I totally agree! Mine are exactly 24 months apart (same b-day). When we decided to get pregnant again, DS1 was in that adorable chubby, semi-mobile, easy to control stage. We thought it was just the greatest and so fun, let's just have another! Give him a close sibling! And then, holy shit, two year olds!! They are so emotionally unstable and sometimes DS1 cries even when I do exactly what he wants! I can't win!

I think the age gap will prove to be great down the road, but for right now it's challenging, to say the least. I'm thinking a little bigger gap might've been better. But, just like before, I obviously don't know what is in store at three years old, so maybe I will take that back. My sister says three is worse than two - I can't imagine!!

Thank goodness DS2 is low maintenance and super easy going. Opposite of his brother. My only saving grace!

danabsd · September 2014

bunannie said:

danabsd how was it being pregnant with a very little one? this is kind of what i'm aiming for but have no idea what i'm getting myself into

I've Benin working to block that out. :P

It was rough at times. The second pregnancy was definetly harder on my body but it wasn't until the end that I wondered what I was thinking. Ha.

yepyepsms · September 2014

23 months apart: June 2012 and May 2014. This works for us great most of the time but of course having a newborn and a two year old is exhausting:)

spinsoffresonance · September 2014

Count me in the baby fever club as well.

Obviously not going to happen.

Mikki62 · September 2014

Mine are about 2 years, 3 weeks apart. I would have liked them closer but I had a late loss between them and it was recommended I take at least 6 months to recover, then it took a few months to get pregnant. I'm hoping the next baby is a little closer.

frugalwife · September 2014

Kimbus22 said:

Bacon2 said:

2 years and 5 months. I'm happy I got KU when I did. Bc if I had waited any longer and went through this terrible fucking two stage not KU, I would never have anymore. This is the absolute worst stage yet..

Yep. The only thing worse than 2 is 3. 3 makes me want to become an alcoholic.

I drink more now than I ever did! Mine are 2y 10mo apart. Older DS was potty trained which I thought would make things easier, but it was almost harder since he needed help. Hoisting a toddler onto the potty while breastfeeding a baby is no easy task! Things have calmed down now, but it was hard the first few months.

Helmink0804 · September 2014

Thanks ladies for all the feedback. We've been asked a few times now if we plan on another and honestly I'm not sure. It sounds like closer in age might be better- but than I'm not sure if I want to be one and done. I had a great pregnancy only suffered from being tired, labor went smoothly, had a great recovery, and our baby is really good. Since pregnency and babies are never the same I'm scared that it won't be as easy and smooth.

CamrynnsMommy · September 2014

Each of my girls are 4 years apart, I love it. I feel like we get the terrible twos and the treacherous threes out of the way before we have to deal with the newborn phase.

Katzalia · September 2014

I can't believe I'm already thinking about having another one. I think we're going to start trying again when LO is a little over a year. Though apparently I should stock up on wine if it works out that way.

bossyferg · September 2014

2 years 3 months between my lo's and I like it. I would have wanted them a bit closer together and DH cpuld have waited years. I was having some cycle issues with cysts and having to change birth control so this LO was a surprise but it was meant to be. I love the age difference. DD is so caring and gentle towards her brother. It was a bit tough the first couple months gor her to understand I was his Mom too but as time went on, I can have my Mom watch the Lo and I do some one on one stuff with DD. Even just lunch out. Fun to have that time with her.

bossyferg · September 2014

Kimbus22 said:

MK1013 said:

3 is the worst. I don't know why they call it the terrible twos, because 3 was horrifying at times for us. Two I felt like he still didn't really understand that he was doing something naughty. Three? Oh yeah, he knew. He knew full well and just egged us on! Ahhhhh!!

Yep. It's that glint in the eye that says "I know exactly what I'm doing and I'm doing it to fuck with you" followed up by the laughing in your face when you get frustrated. Fucking 3 year olds....

I'm now terrified...

Esbi25 · September 2014

Kimbus22 said:

Bacon2 said:

2 years and 5 months. I'm happy I got KU when I did.
Bc if I had waited any longer and went through this terrible fucking two stage not KU, I would never have anymore. This is the absolute worst stage yet..

Yep. The only thing worse than 2 is 3. 3 makes me want to become an alcoholic.

Oh gosh, this terrifies me.

sarag0116 · September 2014

3 years 3 monts apart

It was actually way harder than I thought. 3 is a hard year and my precious child became demon like for the first 3 months of Carter's life. She just really was aware of what was happening and became jealous.

Pros of the age difference are that dd was potty trained, in a big girl bed, pretty independent. Also, less time we will have 2 in daycare and 2 in college.

I don't regret the age difference. I'm so glad I got so much one on one time with Audrey before carter came around. We are also likely done so there was no huge rush.

jenniferroshto · September 2014

My first two are 14 months apart. Then 7 years between second and this LO. There are advantages and disadvantages to both gaps. When they were little the older two being so close was really hard but now they are so close and I love that. Them being older now they are very independent and are both huge helpers with LO but by the time she will really be able to play with them I'm sure she will just be a pest.

ho11yday · September 2014

2y3m. Next go-round, I want a 3 year gap. That way I only have two at home at a time. But I love the 2 year gap; DH does not.

spinsoffresonance · September 2014

So with 18m age gap I'm going to have an 18m old (the start of the terrible twos) and a 3yo right at the same time... Now I'm scared!

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