elopement advice

majoraimers · September 2014

OK, first I'm engaged! Second my SO had the ring before this welcome surprise baby, as if it matters, this isn't a shotgun wedding. That being said here is where I would love your advice:
I have an 8 year old and 11 year old, SO and I head to NYC this weekend for 10 days, solo. We sort of want to elope on the Brooklyn bridge, but we also want to include the kids on a humble and intimate ceremony. We are having a big celebration shindig in august and can include them then.
Thoughts? Input? Ideas?
Thank you in advance!

GradSchoolPrincess · September 2014

majoraimers said:
OK, first I'm engaged! Second my SO had the ring before this welcome surprise baby, as if it matters, this isn't a shotgun wedding. That being said here is where I would love your advice:
I have an 8 year old and 11 year old, SO and I head to NYC this weekend for 10 days, solo. We sort of want to elope on the Brooklyn bridge, but we also want to include the kids on a humble and intimate ceremony. We are having a big celebration shindig in august and can include them then.
Thoughts? Input? Ideas?
Thank you in advance!

soulcupcake · September 2014

If you want to do it, go for it. My now husband and I eloped and had a handfasting, and it was just the two of us. It was great. My MIL hosted a get-together/party about a month later, and my kids were there.

nesenotes · September 2014

I agree it's a totally up to you guys and your style kind of thing. I eloped and loved it. Planning was causing too much stress. But I had no kids. I think if I had them I would want to include them, but that's me.

weezy29 · September 2014

If it were me, I would want to include my kids but that's the thing, I'm not you so you may not feel the same way.

If it makes you and your fiancé happy, if there will be no guilt or regret, go for it!

CandEChicago · September 2014

Congrats on your engagement. Sounds like you and SO need to figure out what is more important to you....getting married on the Brooklyn Bridge or including the kids.

QueenOfSpades622 · September 2014

We cannot make this choice for you only you know what is important to you and your family

smack427 · September 2014

I agree with PP's as well that it is a personal decision. Here's my two cents because you are wanting input...If it were me I would think of it this way: would I regret not having my kids involved or would I regret not getting married on the Brooklyn bridge?

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hollieandaaron2012 · September 2014

Congrats! I say do the enlopement and involve the kids with the ceremony next August. The enlopement could be super intimate and all about the two of you. The August wedding would be more about family.

Eora3 · September 2014

Do both!! Hold your own little ceremony on the bridge and then have a private separate ceremony with the kids. There really aren't any rules. Do what you want!

My DH and I signed the marriage license almost a month before our actual "wedding" (we were living together and I was working at a school with a "morality contract", long story). The legal stuff didn't really matter to us.

Edited for words.

Saintelizabeth · September 2014

I agree with others, elope and include the kids in a later party. DH and I didn't elope but I wish we did! I would have saved a lot of money and headache and honestly I probably would have had more fun.

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