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TTC After a Loss
crdesrosiers
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Newbie (ticker warning- old post)
crdesrosiers
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I've never posted on a message before but my husband and I will soon be starting to TTCAL. I'm 30 yrs old and found out this past July that we were pregnant with our first. We were both so excited that we told way too many people way too early. At 10 weeks, (measured 8 wks on US), we found out there was no heartbeat... no baby actually. Just an empty sac. I had a D&C the next day. I never realized how traumatic that can be. I work at a children's hospital and have heard so many horrible stories, but I guess no one really thinks it could happen to them. I knew that we should have kept quiet about the pregnancy until after the first trimester, but keeping my husband quiet was not going to happen. We learned the hard way. Having to tell people after the procedure was heartbreaking. Thankfully we had a lot of support, but there's still times that I think about it and can't help but well up with tears. It's been tough lately because I feel as if I'm being surrounded by people with healthy pregnancies at work...
I wanted to start posting and having the support from the group because today I got my first period (TMI?) after the D&C. My doctor said that we could start TTC after my first period. She said intercourse was allowed after my f/u as long as we used condoms. But my husband wanted to make sure that everything was okay and said he would rather wait until after my cycle. So now we wait for my cycle to finish...
Please let me know if this is not an appropriate place to post for now. I don't want to upset anyone so any feedback if I'm posting in the wrong place would be helpful...
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Re: Newbie (ticker warning- old post)
DH & I are both 28 Together: 12 years Married: 09/24/2011
BFP#1: January '12 - DD1 09/16/2012
Preterm labor 31 weeks. Monitored for Hellp and diagnosed with oligohydramnios July '12
BFP #2: 06/25 - EDD 03/05/15 MMC confirmed 8/1 - D&E 8/4 retained tissue discovered 8/20
BFP #3 11/24 - 12/15 Heartbeat detected - DD2 07/29/15
BFP #1 05/19/14, EDD 01/19/15, MMC 06/12/14
BFP #2 10/10/14, EDD 06/19/15
I'm sorry for your loss and welcome to the board. We have a few things in common too. My husband could't wait to tell the world we were expecting and I too had an empty sac. I hope that you can find the comfort and support that you need on this board.
BFP #1 12/23/13 MMC 01/24/14 @ 9w5days
4 Losses (2003, 2008, Apr 2012, & Oct 2012)
All RPL and IF testing with multiple REs = normal
5 IUIs = BFN
All AL are welcome
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
Me-27 DH-29
TTC#1 January 2013
BFP February 27th 2014, MMC ended in D&C
Working on our rainbow!
Curious about my ute?
***Siggy Warning - loss mentioned***
*S15 Siggy January Siggy Challenge - Happy Dance*
ME: 32 DH: 38
BFP#1 - 7/18/14; EDD 3/23/14; MMC 8/11/14 (passed naturally on 8/17/14)
BFP#2 - 12/29/14; EDD 9/10/15 *PLEASE BE OUR RAINBOW!*
And don't worry, that intro was far from "TMI"
My Ovulation Chart
Started TTC Nov. 2011
1st clomid cycle June 2012- No response :: HSG August 2012- Left tube blocked, right tube clear :: 2nd clomid cycle Aug. 2012 BFN :: 3rd clomid cycle Sept. 2012 :: BFP Sept 30th :: DS born 6/15/13 :: BFP #2 7/29/14 M/C 8/5/14 :: BFP#3 10/20/14 DD born 7/1/2015 :: Applied to be surrogate April '17 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for IFs Dec. '17 :: Surro Babe born 9/11/18 :: Started 2nd Journey May '19 :: Transferred 1 Embryo for new IFs 9/24/19 :: HB 138 at 6w6d
TTC since 2012
BFP#1~ EDD: 06/21/2014 ~ TFMR --Holoprosencephaly
Said goodbye on 2/10/2014 at 21 weeks. We miss our baby girl "J"
My Chart
PgAL welcome
Married 6/11/2011
Me & Hubby: 34
TTC journey started 12/2012
BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks
BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)
Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.
Also have hypothyroidism
Started TTC again 12/2013
IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN
IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN
Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/502498
BFP #1: EDD 05/27/2014 (D&C 10/17/2014)
OP, even though you will never read this, if all you want to do is vent and offer zero support to anyone else, get a blog. They are free and you can write whatever you want.
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise