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And I've created a bad habit!

kendy20kendy20 member
in May 2014 Moms
Sorry it's so long....DH signed me up for a pajama ladies night at church. New to the church and wanted to try to meet people. The get together was for four hours, had bottles of BM for DH to give LO and explained what time everything needed to be done ect. So everything should have been fine while I was gone. However, I've only ever been away from LO for two hours prior. Hour after I left, I asked how things were going.....LO was screaming bloody murder the entire time I had been gone. DH decided maybe she was still hungry and gave her another bottle, 8 oz in 1.5 hrs! She definitely did not need that much and normally would take 4 oz every 2 hours. He swears she was screaming mama over and over. Soooo I've created a LO with major separation anxiety :-( Not sure what to do since I'm a SAHM and am with her constantly. Any advice would be wonderful!
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  • JennyinheavenJennyinheaven member
    waldothewiener1 said:

    I'm not an eoxpert, but I think at this young age it probably isn't separation anxiety per se. I'm guessing that since you're a SAHM you have LO 95% of the time? Perhaps DH isn't quite as seasoned as you are at soothing LO just yet.

    I was on maternity leave for six weeks where I had LO pretty much constantly. When I went back to work, DH was his caretaker during the day (he works nights) and we had a similar issue. DS seemed to cry a lot and DH tended to overfeed him cause that's all that seemed to make him happy.

    Fast forward a couple months and DH is excellent at soothing DS. My advice would be to let your H care for LO a little more often, maybe teach him some soothing techniques that work for you. Good luck!

    All of this andplusalso, your baby is already saying mama?
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  • kendy20kendy20 member
    @Jennyinheaven‌ I don't know if she's saying it, hubby says he thinks she does. But it only happens when I'm not home and she gets upset. We did get a recording of her mimicking "I love you" it was really cute and only happened a few times. She won't even attempt it again lol. Wish I could upload voice memos so you ladies could hear it!
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  • RachelCA29RachelCA29 member
    As others have said, this isn't yet a habit, the baby just needs more time with daddy. I remember the first time I went to yoga and left my LO with dad, he cried the whole time. But the next time I went he did better. Now it's normal and my husband knows his feeding schedule so he knows what the crying is for.

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  • kendy20kendy20 member
    edited September 2014
    @Kimbus22‌ I know they are not words that's why I said she was mimicking the sounds. He thinks she said mama but I doubt it. And I did give instructions with times for bottles and what not just because I feed on demand and he normally just does night time bottle. But I agree that I need to do it more often so he gets used to it. Thanks ladies!
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  • GracedGuestGracedGuest member
    I wouldn't think at this young of age you have to worry about separation anxiety. Our babies are 4 months old and need their mommas. :)

    If your husband is like my husband, part of it could be his anxiety about the situation. My DH was soo nervous about taking care of DD, especially when she was crying. He just would stand there holding her with a terrified look on his face. Anyways, I tried to make a big deal about every time he'd calm her or help out with her and say what a good job he did and how much she liked what he did (men are like kids sometimes, ya know ;) ) now she's gotten older and is smiling and laughing at us, I comment on how she loves smiling at daddy, how he's so good at getting her to laugh, and she is such a daddy's girl. I don't know if they were true at first, but now they definitely are. It took a while but hes so confident with DD now. Plus I think she senses that and is way more comfortable with him.
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  • NorthernGal248NorthernGal248 member
    It's the same over here. I agree with PP, our babies can smell fear.

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  • EmmagkEmmagk member
    Also your LO could very well be saying mama. Around 4 months is when English speaking babies start forming the M sounds. But they have no idea what it means and are not linking it to you.
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  • hbird0723hbird0723 member
    I have also read that around 4 months they can use mama and dada but like pp said they don't have any idea what it means so could be possible. Mine is the same way though with my husband and I'm a SAHM as well. She is always looking for me even if I just walk out of the room and she'll get sad. I also think he gets stressed alone with her and she senses that. She wasn't really taking bottles so I haven't left much either. They'll get used to each other the more it happens.
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  • QOTRQOTR member
    Ha! I ran an errand this afternoon and when I came home, the little guy was fussing and said "mama" plain as day. The look on my husband's face was great! I know it wasn't real, but it's still fun to hear.
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  • lrmrtnlrmrtn member
    DH's solution every time LO is fussy is either bottle or swing. At 1 am DH got up with LO. At 1:30 LO was in his swing screaming. DH's response was, " he won't eat and he's still screaming in his swing so I don't know what he wants." Like those are the only 2 options... Um, maybe he wants to be held? Or needs a diaper? Etc, etc...
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