when are you free to take some tea with me?

sleepswithbutterflies · September 2014

Bye!

[Deleted User] · September 2014

I mean this with care and not with snark.

This post reads quite erratic and manic. Step away from the internet and focus on your mental and emotional well being.

Write these things in a journal. Show your therapist. She can help much more than we can.

Good luck.

sleepswithbutterflies · September 2014

Well I'm def not feeling very manic. I'm in bed lol. Very tired. Now the morning he did that was a different story. I am actually feeling relief now that we have things on paper and I don't speak to him.

greenbeanqueen · September 2014

I truly wish your daughter all the luck. I think you should take some time to assess your life and what you want in a realtionship and maybe wait a while before dating, even casually. I also agree that your post was all over the place and are a lot of things you should talk about with your therapist.

ShamyCooler · September 2014

My ex started dating someone (his ex GF) two months after I left him, she moved in with him about a month after that, he had DD start calling her momma (name) at that time, they got engaged two months after that, they got married five months after that, and now they're about to have a baby in a month & a half or so. I was extremely bitter & pissed off about this other lady being around my DD as another mother figure (and so soon). It took me a long time, and a lot of alcohol, to realize that an extra person loving DD is never a bad thing & I need to be more grown up about it. I still have my moments...because it is tough, but I promise you it does get easier! If you try to focus on just you & your DD, and let go of resentment surrounding another woman, I think dealings may start getting easier. I wish you the best!

ShamyCooler · September 2014

I'm in no way defending LRMM at all, but if she's been with her ex since high school, and he's been emotionally & verbally abusive, I bet she's having a really hard time feeling confident in decisions & in finding herself post separation...I know I did. Add to that finding out that a new woman is coming into your child's life as a mother figure, even if you have no desire to get back together with your ex, that can be devastating at first. I think some people are able to handle themselves better than others, and unfortunately I think LRMM isn't taking care of herself at all...but does seem to love her DD & take good care of her. Therapy really is the best thing for everyone involved. I bet there's even a co-parenting therapist in the area.