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announcment etiquettes

regitronregitron member
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My husband and I are expecting our first baby very soon and we live hundreds of miles away from our families. We didn't have a baby shower, however many people kept asking us what we needed an where we were registered.

Last month I finally decided ok I will send out an official pregnancy announcement and included registry info on it. I've been reading forums on etiquette, and it seems like that was a mistake and people will think that it was rude.

I've sent thank you cards to everyone who had given us gifts, but I'm worried that the ones who didn't send us anything may have been rubbed the wrong way.

I really wasn't expecting gifts, I just thought it was easier to send out the info to everyone at one time simply because some people were asking for it.

 What do you guys think, was it completely uncalled for to do this?

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  • vrj0522vrj0522 member
    Yep, that was bad etiquette but like PPs, I think you didn't mean to rub people the wrong way, so I would just leave things as they are and just move on. 
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  • angeltennis3angeltennis3 member
    Not going to lie...I have never heard of pregnancy announcements let alone putting your own registry information on them.

    We do plan to send out birth announcements. It will not include our registry information, but I have made sure our registey is updated in case people feel like sending a gift.
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  • MrsSarahReneeMrsSarahRenee member
    Yeah poor taste but move on from it and you can send a birth announcement after baby is born with no mention of any of this.
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  • BreandMikeweddingBreandMikewedding member
    Ya. It wasn't proper etiquette. You really shouldn't ever include registry information in anything you send including invitations. It is done, but it's not really proper etiquette. We sent out little pregnancy announcements to our family before we announced on facebook. What is done is done and I would just move on. Just don't send registry info with the birth announcement. ;)
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    Kaylajade8911 said:

    I think if you sent it to work everyone it probably was a bit much. If you only sent that info to people who specifically asked for it that wouldn't be as bad.

    Agreed.
    If you sent the info to the people who asked for it, then that is fine.
    Otherwise, yes tacky... But again, what PP said, what's done is done.
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  • kaniela17kaniela17 member
    I guess I'm the minority on this one too. If you have no family/friends close by you, I'd think a pregnancy announcement would be the fastest way to let them all know about it, especially first child. And baby registries are just as common as a wedding one, how exactly are they supposed to know what you need? It doesn't mean you're expecting everyone you sent an announcement to, to send you a gift. And who cares of they do think that, everyone is gonna be offended by something. I don't think you did anything wrong or have anything to feel guilty about.
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    edited September 2014
    MrsSarahRenee said:

    kaniela17 said:

    I guess I'm the minority on this one too. If you have no family/friends close by you, I'd think a pregnancy announcement would be the fastest way to let them all know about it, especially first child. And baby registries are just as common as a wedding one, how exactly are they supposed to know what you need? It doesn't mean you're expecting everyone you sent an announcement to, to send you a gift. And who cares of they do think that, everyone is gonna be offended by something. I don't think you did anything wrong or have anything to feel guilty about.

    disagree. You don't send registry info on your wedding invite.
    If people ask, you tell them. If not, you don't.
    That's what "etiquette" states. But she wasn't sending invitations. Besides, with how the world is so about convenience these days I'm surprised people still knit pick about this.
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  • regitronregitron member
    edited September 2014

    Thanks for seeing it in a positive light... I still wish I would have left it out, especially since I really didn't care if anybody sent me anything for my baby. But it's good to know that there are some people who aren't so quick to judge.

     

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    @kaniela17‌ why is etiquette in quotes? And since when does convenience replace politeness?
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    kaniela17 said:
    I guess I'm the minority on this one too. If you have no family/friends close by you, I'd think a pregnancy announcement would be the fastest way to let them all know about it, especially first child. And baby registries are just as common as a wedding one, how exactly are they supposed to know what you need? It doesn't mean you're expecting everyone you sent an announcement to, to send you a gift. And who cares of they do think that, everyone is gonna be offended by something. I don't think you did anything wrong or have anything to feel guilty about.
    disagree. You don't send registry info on your wedding invite. If people ask, you tell them. If not, you don't.
    That's what "etiquette" states. But she wasn't sending invitations. Besides, with how the world is so about convenience these days I'm surprised people still knit pick about this.
    How does including your registry information in a pregnancy announcement have anything to do with the "world being so about convenience these days"?  That has nothing to do with looking gift grabby.
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    TicketTuesday said:

    MrsSarahRenee said:

    TicketTuesday said:

    MrsSarahRenee said:

    kaniela17 said:

    I guess I'm the minority on this one too. If you have no family/friends close by you, I'd think a pregnancy announcement would be the fastest way to let them all know about it, especially first child. And baby registries are just as common as a wedding one, how exactly are they supposed to know what you need? It doesn't mean you're expecting everyone you sent an announcement to, to send you a gift. And who cares of they do think that, everyone is gonna be offended by something. I don't think you did anything wrong or have anything to feel guilty about.

    disagree. You don't send registry info on your wedding invite.
    If people ask, you tell them. If not, you don't.
    Is this a regional thing? I have literally never seen a wedding or baby shower invite that didn't have registry info listed on the invitation. Maybe that's just in my area though. Just curious, not trying to participate in the original discussion.
    I don't think so? Shower invites you get registry info because the hosts are sending out the invites but a legit wedding invite does not have registry info. At least not around here I guess.
    Interesting! I must live in a tacky area, haha. I get it though.
    Me too, Ticket. Every single wedding invitation I've ever received has had registry info included.





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  • applebottomgenesapplebottomgenes member
    It's out now - I really wouldn't dwell on it. So much more to focus on! Plus you've heard the popular and unpopular opinions here. Your family/friends will have similar differing opinions, the difference is they know you better than message board friends and will know whether it came from a good place or not. I would move on and not lose any sleep over it since you're about to lose a lot of it once baby arrives.
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    TicketTuesday said:

    MrsSarahRenee said:

    kaniela17 said:

    I guess I'm the minority on this one too. If you have no family/friends close by you, I'd think a pregnancy announcement would be the fastest way to let them all know about it, especially first child. And baby registries are just as common as a wedding one, how exactly are they supposed to know what you need? It doesn't mean you're expecting everyone you sent an announcement to, to send you a gift. And who cares of they do think that, everyone is gonna be offended by something. I don't think you did anything wrong or have anything to feel guilty about.

    disagree. You don't send registry info on your wedding invite.
    If people ask, you tell them. If not, you don't.
    Is this a regional thing? I have literally never seen a wedding or baby shower invite that didn't have registry info listed on the invitation. Maybe that's just in my area though. Just curious, not trying to participate in the original discussion.
    It is common In certain circles in our area to include that information with invitations. It isn't "the norm" in general but just with certain circles. Are these invitations from friends at church?
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