crushed-first apt cancelled-total vent

surfermommmy · September 2014

Hi Mommies,

I was supposed to have my first visit with a new ob today which was cancelled (on my dirve over) due to him having an emergency c section. I completely crashed. My poor husband kept trying to chear me up and I couldnt help snapping. we wound about getting into a huge argument about money and i felt so unsupported. I came home and of course, POAS and feel like my line is not getting darker (in fact it looked lighter today but was not my fmu). Anyway, I know I am over-reacting, I just have such a bad feeling something is wrong and was so looking forward to this visit. I rescheduled for next week. is anyone else totally overwhlemed with anxiety and worry about miscarriage. I am having a really hard time managing i, im wondering if you all have anything helpful your doing? thank you for the space to vent!

Poppy715 · September 2014

She needed his time more than you. Be patient and just reschedule. If you act like this over a single rescheduled appt. it's going to be a loooong 9 months.

Shadow512 · September 2014

Agree with @Poppy715‌. You're overreacting, which is normal at this stage of the game... But try to relax. You have a long way to go.

shewasthirsty · September 2014

Keep in mind it was an emergency. That's a scary thing to go through. Inconvenient for you, yes, but you weren't blown off. Besides, if you were the one needing an emergency c-section, wouldn't you be grateful that your OB dropped everything to help you?

Pintobean39 · September 2014

That probably won't be the first time that it happens to you. Babies come when they want, OB's have to leave at a moments notice all the time.

sarahandandy · September 2014

I was supposed to have mine on Monday- they called Friday afternoon because she scheduled me wrong. Now I'm scheduled for Friday. I feel your pain. You get so excited for your appt and to wait even longer is hard!

momtosam · September 2014

Agree with PPs. With that being said, if you are concerned about having appointments canceled and rescheduled all the time. Maybe look at a different office, one that has a bigger staff that can accommodate bumps in scheduling. I know my office has several OBs and nurses on staff. If my OB were unavailable they would squeeze me in with another person at the office. Just a thought.

Anyhow, calm down. I know it is hard. And another few days is not going to change anything. Even if sadly there is a problem. There is NOTHING that can be done to change whether you m/c or not. Take a deep breath and try to refocus for the next couple of days.

littlecookie · September 2014

My first appointment with DS was cancelled because there was a fire at the office. I was disappointed, so I do understand feeling a little bummed you have to wait, but PP are right this will likely happen again. As for the anxiety, a familiar refrain around these parts helps me, today I am pregnant and I love my baby.

marijaa333 · September 2014

Managing anxiety is part of the parenthood game; I know it's easier said than done, but I tell myself that from this point on, life will include worry about my offspring, and try to enjoy the good days to the extent possible. Hope you can get your mind off your worries for a while.

surfermommmy · September 2014

Thank you all so much. I wasnt so upset byt the actual cancellation, I completely get that...however i may look into a bigger practice...thank you for that suggestion! I think my worry is just totally off the track and i need to reign it in. I love that comment "today I am pregnant and I love my baby" i think i will make that my new mantra. I have always been a worry wart and I can usually keep it together, I am just finding it so overwhelming at times. and little things throw me off. I will take all of your advice. thank you again soooooo much!

PinkRoses53 · September 2014

I'm sorry, I'm sure that was really frustrating especially since you are a ball of nerves right now which is totally understandable.

I used to be the same way about cancellations until I had an emergency with my pregnancy last time and my son had to be born via c-section immediately (like I was literally ran up to L&D from the ultrasound room after they saw that he was in trouble). My dr said that she had to run out of an appt and said to the woman "I'm so sorry but I have to save a baby's life!" I will never, ever get annoyed at a cancelled OB appt again. I go to a practice with 4 drs and a midwife and that still happens time to time when pregnant.

I love the mantra you said. I am currently feeling the same way as you with worry but I have definitely decided to take the "today I am pregnant" approach.

Hang in there!

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