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April 2015 Moms
JLaudio
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VENT: I just don't get it!
JLaudio
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Ok, so I get that my husband works from 730am till 6pm in the military fixing Generals computers at every whim but damn is it to much to ask for a little love when he gets home. I have been sending him "sexy" messages for 3 days while he is at work, tonight we went out to dinner with friends, came home, I gave him a back massage (for like an hour), had sex (pulled out ALL the freaking tricks in the book, just short of my legs being thrown behind my damn head), what does he do??? Fucking rolls over and goes to sleep, not a kiss, not a word, not even a "good game" slap on the ass. My feelings are completely hurt, fuck all I want is a little attention from HIM! I get attention from others, I want attention and to feel LOVED from HIM, am I being completely obnoxious or is this actually rational?? Currently crying my eyes out, I'm pissed!
Edit: Ok so I was gonna edit this post BUT there is no saving this one because it's just a big ole hot mess.
Edit: Ok so I was gonna edit this post BUT there is no saving this one because it's just a big ole hot mess.
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Re: VENT: I just don't get it!
Haha.
The pirate started last year when we got more emoticons. I felt like the pirate was not getting any love. It's my choice when I don't have anything nice to say. But today is talk like a pirate day so head to Krispy kremes n'at!
What's a pirate's favorite letter?
Arrrrrr
No, it's the C!!!! Haha
I ranted this like 2hrs after it happened, as it is 2am over here now, I wasn't seething ALL night long.
@mbm1983 I respect that y'all are honest. I have enough sense to tell when I'm wrong, AFTER someone brings me to my senses, which kinda sucks. I'm just a SUPER feelsy person, I wear my heart on my sleeve and get my feelings hurt very easily, till someone talks some sense into me.
You just need to talk to your dh. He may be tired, he maybe a little overwhelmed, he may be freaked out about sex with a little one in you. Who knows unless you ask him. Tell him how you feel.
...hense the reason I've stopped quoting. I'm actually finding it more comical that 2 mods have been the main ones stirring the pot than others. I meant no disrespect to women, their DH's and their sex life. Every relationship is different, and I'm sure every one is happy in theirs, or else they wouldn't be married and pregnant. And to wherever Ms. Utah is...I don't even believe in religion! I don't bow down to my husband. We respect each other very much, but it doesn't mean that everytime I'm just not in the mood, I can turn him down every single time. As I said before, not trying to start anything or piss anybody else off. So, sorry, but I don't believe I'm making it worse, I've stayed away, but I'm also not going to sit here and not defend myself.
Ok... I know this is off topic, but I couldn't get over the stupid "I don't believe in religion" comment. Religion is a belief in and worship of a controlling power. Whether you believe there is a God or not, you can't say you don't believe that there is religion. Like I said, off topic, but I do see it as proof of ignorance.
OP: it's all been covered really well. I just want to add, you said that he is normally really loving and affectionate. If that's the case then don't let this bother you. Or the past few days or so. If this is not usual behavior then there is probably something behind it. Maybe you just needed to initiate the affection. Just bring it up to him. If this isn't normal behavior I'm not sure why you would bring it up to a group of strangers on the internet. It just seems crazy to me to do. When I have an issue with DH he's the first person I go to. Not the internet. I'm not completely anti DH vents. This just seems like it was unnecessary.
...hense the reason I've stopped quoting. I'm actually finding it more comical that 2 mods have been the main ones stirring the pot than others. I meant no disrespect to women, their DH's and their sex life. Every relationship is different, and I'm sure every one is happy in theirs, or else they wouldn't be married and pregnant. And to wherever Ms. Utah is...I don't even believe in religion! I don't bow down to my husband. We respect each other very much, but it doesn't mean that everytime I'm just not in the mood, I can turn him down every single time. As I said before, not trying to start anything or piss anybody else off. So, sorry, but I don't believe I'm making it worse, I've stayed away, but I'm also not going to sit here and not defend myself.
And yet you're still talking. STOP.
Sure you do. It's called the scroll button. G'day to you!
Nah I'm okay
@redneckmomma25 it was around 1am over here when I posted because I was just getting more and more mad, I was sitting over here seething. I'm a very open book and will tell it like it is, I didn't mean to come across as bashing my DH, he is absolutely amazing, I'm pretty sure that's the reason why I was so upset. I was an emotional basket case last night. As for posting to a bunch of strangers about it, I know you ladies are honest and will tell it like it is, I posted, y'all talked some sense and then I started seeing the reality a little (a lot) more clear.
He woke up about an hour after this post, not even a 5 minute conversation, and I was back to feeling the love. I do appreciate y'all's input.
I do respect most Generals, however some of them are on an entirely different level of entitlement. The ones that are on leave, calling in "favors" to have their personal items fixed on working time, just because they can because they are higher ranking. The few who abuse the system, for some of the dumbest reasons you could possibly think of.
Arrrrrr
Shit!!! I totally forgot about talk like a pirate day!!!! Gah!! Do over. It's officially talk like a pirate weekend in my book.
And @JLaudio - It sounds like you got this one sorted, but I don't understand why you're bringing this to a bunch of internet strangers to begin with? Maybe I'm lucky to have a good man that I can talk to straight up even if it's 1am, but not cool to dog on your spouse en masse. If he's not living up to your standards, you need to have that conversation with HIM. End of story.