Mommy, Mama, Daddy or...

bfonz619 · September 2014

I have not been able to get the search feature to work for me the last few days so I apologize in advance if there is already a thread on this topic.

How do your children refer to you and your partner?

trisholio · September 2014

I am mommy, mom, mama, whatever she chooses, my wife is Laddy (lesbian daddy)

2brides · September 2014

Technically, I am Mommy and DP is Mom. But I answer to Mom too (which is what they will often call me.)

Jazibel · September 2014

I'm Mama and my wife is Aya (which means "mother" and was her chosen word). But Kaden will already sometimes call either her or I "mommy". So we'll see. :-)

ATXmommas · September 2014

My son is only 10 months, so not calling us anything yet, but I refer to both my wife and I as momma or mommy. I figure he'll end up making a distinction if he wants to later.

KH826 · September 2014

I am Momma and my wife is Mommy. I think when our kiddo(s) get older eventually my wife will be Mom and I will be Ma, but if we both end up as Mom, then I am cool with that too. Obviously, as @ATXMommas pointed out, my little guy isn't actually calling us anything yet, but that is how we refer to ourselves/each other. My wife has taken to sending me texts throughout the day with pics of Will that say "Look, Ma!" LOL... I think it is cute, and I don't mind being a Ma, even though I know some folks hate it.

bfonz619 · September 2014

@trisholio I have never heard "Laddy" before but I like it!

2brides · September 2014

Not to dismiss your question...but this was the most often asked question about our friends/family/co-workers when we were pregnant. People were so concerned that the kids would be confused.

We had originally opted to let the kids to decide - but when they started with Mom and Other Mom (DP was Other Mom) we put a kabash on that.

99% of the time, they yell, "MOM!" and we both reply with "What?"

redrockmama · September 2014

Another Momma/Ma and Mommy/Mom family here. We still get it messed up ourselves at this point, but hope that it works for M and our future kids. We'll see how it goes as he gets older and starts talking. We mostly wanted to pick something as to avoid what @2brides said.

Himee33 · September 2014

L and I will be the same as @redrockmama‌. I have friends where one is Mommy and the other parent is "Maddy" (mommy/daddy) and I liked it since it works for them, but L is not a fan at all.

firstcomeslove2013 · September 2014

I will be some derivitive of mom and C has chosen to be baba. There are a lot of really great article out there discussing how the word baba is being used for parents in the queer community. It was important to us that our little one(s) are able to feel a connection to other kids, families in the queer community while will not associating C with mom.

ball.and.chain · September 2014

redrockmama said:
Another Momma/Ma and Mommy/Mom family here. We still get it messed up ourselves at this point, but hope that it works for M and our future kids. We'll see how it goes as he gets older and starts talking. We mostly wanted to pick something as to avoid what @2brides said.

All of this.

doodah1013 · September 2014

Hello!

Here is my recent blog entry about just this subject from my personal view! It also links to the article that @firstcomeslove2013 was talking about. Check it out, if you wanna!

https://pregnantboithinksoutloud.blogspot.com/2014/09/becoming-baba.html

LolaBelle515 · September 2014

We always just figured he'd make his own decisions on that. So far, he seems to prefer calling my wife "mama" and calling me "mommy" but he DEFINITELY switches our names on a regular basis...so who knows just yet! (He will be 2 1/2 next month)

JGY · September 2014

We always said we'd let him figure out what he wants to call us, and I agree this caused a lot of concern for everyone else (not that we care). We figured I would likely be Mommy and she would be Mama. But then we were both Dada for a while, according to G. Now S is pretty regularly called Mama and I am (insert crying sad face grunts and squeals witih no actual name). Ugh. If the trend continues, next week I will likely be "Boob" and she might be "Poop."

BostonGayGal · September 2014

The plan was to let her decide but I didn't like her decision. I am Mommy and my wife is Momma. We both answer to Mom.

To make it worse, my daughter also calls me by my nickname, Em.

healz413 · September 2014

@Manada will be Mama. I'm currently leaning towards being Baba. We would both be the moms. (This is different from some mama and baba families where baba is not mom-identified. But I figure I can be my own kind of Baba and our kid(s) can learn about diverse families. )

Twochickshavinachick · September 2014

We've already settled on using Mumma (me) and Laddy (A) but who knows what baby will end up calling us. A and I use nicknames for each other 90% of the time and so there's a good chance she will hear and use those.

@jrtmom just curious, are you a bilingual family or just encouraging foreign languages?

mrs&mrsk · September 2014

we are planning to be Mom/Mommy & Ma/ Momma

HollyAndAsh · September 2014

My wife and I are not just yet parents, but when we do become parents we are thinking of going with the trend from "The L Word" and using: Mama H and Mama A. Now that someone mentioned it that it puts our real name in there, and semi takes away from the Mom aspect I am not sure. Lol.

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