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So I was listening to the radio driving this am and the topic of the morning was that couples could not be truly 100% happy if they had sex twice a month (or less). Thoughts?
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  • notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    Eh, everybody has a different number but it hard to believe that you are completely happy only having sex every other week if that.
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  • Hollylb3Hollylb3 member
    I couldn't handle it. Post partum excluded, we've never gone more than a week (okay, maybe twice that I can think of) without doing it. I need it more than him.
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  • zbeesma86zbeesma86 member
    Kimbus22 said:
    Wouldn't work in our house. We go 5 or6 days and we become unable to interact at all without getting annoyed at everything the other person days or does.
    so much this.

    usually during my period anyway so win win? haha
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  • Aussie45Aussie45 member
    I can't remember the last time we had sex. My sex drive has never been very high, and it's recently tanked. We're pretty happy though. Idk, maybe DH wants it more and just isn't telling me. I should probably get on that..
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  • bumpuser8448316bumpuser8448316 member
    sing4mysavior said:
    You'd say twice a month is a sexless marriage!? I think sex and intimacy (emotional connection) seem to go hand in hand...so twice a month or less *could* be a symptom or manifestation of a lesser connection...and those who have sex more often *probably* feel closer...thus increasing their happiness. That said...every couple has their groove?

    Totally agree. I don't know how often we do it but we are very intimate- lots of hugging and kissing, cuddling on the couch etc. so while actual sex is important for a healthy marriage so is just general intimacy.

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  • Aussie45Aussie45 member
    CnAmom said:
    I can't remember the last time we had sex. My sex drive has never been very high, and it's recently tanked. We're pretty happy though. Idk, maybe DH wants it more and just isn't telling me. I should probably get on that..
    I'm pretty sure the pun was not intentional but it still made me giggle. I plead the 5th on this particular discussion.
    Oh god lol. I didn't even notice that =))
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  • Aussie45Aussie45 member
    I feel so weird. After I commented on here, I texted DH to see if he was unhappy. We're both unhappy with our sex lives, but happy with each other. We both also have super low sex drives, and have been sick for the past week/recovering. Even so, we don't make time enough for sex. Sigh, I feel like an alien. I used to love sex and now I'm just like, meh.
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  • Aussie45Aussie45 member
    @amy052006 Thank you. I feel like I should want it, but it's just been hectic this summer and all sex has gotten pushed to the side. Weekends are spent separate usually because DH is studying for his exam and I need to get DD out of his hair so we visit grandparent's cabins every weekend. Then during the week, we both just want to veg out and doing something mindless. We both agreed when we feel 'normal' (aka not sick) that we will try to focus on it more.
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  • notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    We had some really sloppy drunk sex last night. It was the first time in a long while...still pretty happy, though I'd be happier if I wasn't so sore right now.
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  • dizzycooksdizzycooks member
    Yeah no.  I can't tell you the last time we had sex.  I am fairly certain we have maybe had sex three times this YEAR.  Are we unhappy?  No.  Are we overwhelmed and exhausted? Absolutely.  Do I see that changing anytime soon?  Nope, not really.  That's a pretty broad statement for someone to make.
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  • dizzycooksdizzycooks member
    Kimbus22 said:
    dizzycooks said:
    Yeah no.  I can't tell you the last time we had sex.  I am fairly certain we have maybe had sex three times this YEAR.  Are we unhappy?  No.  Are we overwhelmed and exhausted? Absolutely.  Do I see that changing anytime soon?  Nope, not really.  That's a pretty broad statement for someone to make.
    That's absolutely true.  I think it's very individualized among the couple in questions.  For some couples twice a month is fine and they're happy.  For others it's a sign of a big problem.

    I do think that sometimes you run the risk of it becoming so infrequent that you forget how much you like it.  Like when I was cleared after M I was all, "Eh.  I'm tired.  This seems like too much effort."  But then once we started again I remembered how fucking awesome it is and that I'm a much happier person when I'm getting laid regularly. I didn't realize I was unhappy not doing it until I started again.  Does that makes sense?
    So true!
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  • Aussie45Aussie45 member
    CnAmom said:

    My sex life right now is like a fat kid on a diet. Really, really sad.

    I died when I saw this. Awesome comparison.
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