Not excited to make pregnancy announcement

LaurenSarver · September 2014

I learned I was pregnant with my first child very soon after my husband was fired from his job. We are carrying on with our plan to make a major relocation and start fresh in my hometown. This decision which also involves leaving a business I've spent three years building. A few of my friends have expressed they think I'm making a bad call on the move and that I should leave my husband because of his employment record. One of the same friends has also kicked me out of her wedding because of my financial situation making me unable to "fully participate." I have told a few people about the pregnancy but am really not looking forward to making a real announcement as I'm pretty sure my friends and some family will not only feel but also express their disapproval. I wish I could be happy.

ElizabethSwann · September 2014

I guess it depends on why he was fired, but it sounds like you need new friends.

Sorry you aren't getting support, but congrats.

lindsayanne14 · September 2014

Not that getting fired isn't a big deal, because it can be, but unless your H did something awful to lose his job I think your friends are a little out of line telling you to end your marriage because of it. Your post doesn't give a ton of info but maybe you are sharing too much about your finances and private aspects of your marriage with your friends.

People are always going to have opinions on your life and choices (especially family and friends) but the only people's opinions that really matter are yours and your H's.

Do what's best for your family and don't worry about what everyone thinks!

LaurenSarver · September 2014

Yeah. I have definitely over-shared with my friends. That must be why they feel it's appropriate to express the opinions I do. My husband lost his job, that he loved and fought for about a year to get, because of his politics and failure to realize coworkers are not your friends. Thanks for all the kind words. It's true; it doesn't matter what other people think. I have to do what's best for my family. If friends and family disapprove, at least I will be getting a load of new friends when I move.

knlouis · September 2014

I second the motion that you need new friends.

I don't know if you are spitual or not but pray about the move and make sure you are moving with no guilty feelings and you and your husband are at peace with the move.

Right now the only people that matter are you and your husband...if you guys are happy who cares about everyone else! I know its a hard thing to do but right now it sounds like they would only bring you more stress.

Marriages are not always perfect and easy...I commend you for being with your hubby with his employment record..whatever it may be.

Congrats on the baby and T&P for everything else. xo

HZ2012 · September 2014

It's easy for "friends" to tell you to leave your husband bc he's not perfect. But at the end of the day, do you love your H? Do you want to make it work? Bc that's ALL that matters - nothing else.
Hopefully once your head clears a little and you and your H follow with your plan to move and make a fresh start, you'll be way more excited about your pregnancy.
Good luck to you!

BRNCLES · September 2014

Good luck starting your new life! I won't even justify your cunty friends with a response, but it sounds like a fresh start would be great for both you and your hubby. Here's to new things and new friends!

Ncountrygal · September 2014

Shouldn't your friends be supportive during difficult times? Sheesh kabob, they sound either self-centered or like they don't know what a good marriage looks like. You do what's best for your family! Check out mommy groups and other social clubs after your move and find some ladies who value the things you do. And take care of yourself. Moving is tough!

LaurenSarver · September 2014

The pregnancy really solidified my decision to move. We are going back to my hometown to stay with my mom for a while. She is 100% delighted about it. No insurance so delay doesn't help anything. I'm really secure in the decision to move.

vickersh1 · September 2014

LaurenSarver said:

The pregnancy really solidified my decision to move. We are going back to my hometown to stay with my mom for a while. She is 100% delighted about it. No insurance so delay doesn't help anything. I'm really secure in the decision to move.

If your mom is delighted about the baby and is willing to help you guys out for the time being, than I say go for it and don't worry about letting your so called "friends" know you're pregnant. Good Luck with the move! We just moved into our new house 2 months ago and it was a sucky process, but so worth it in the end.

kitc101 · September 2014

AGREED. Sounds like you need new friends.

Any one who isn't supportive isn't a friend.

JaneShops · September 2014

First of all, congrats on your pregnancy!
There really is no perfect timing for having a baby, but sounds like you & your husband are in love. That's as close to the best timing as you can get

I'm sure there's a lot more to what happening with DH's job/career & your friendships. But the situation is that you're pregnant with the man you love. Your choices may affect others but really.. Do what is best for you, your husband, and the baby.
I wish you the best,
& hopefully you find better friends

VeggieFan · September 2014

I agree with the PPs your "friends" suck. Best of luck with your fresh start!

emwells10 · September 2014

I hope that life back in your home town will be just the change u and hubby sound like you need. You can re-build your business no probs, but differently as a mum. Or perhaps hubby will be well suited to stay at home dad role

bbboiwithluv · September 2014

Totally understand how you feel, but try not to let others' opinions destruct your joy! You have just as much right as anyone else to announce your pregnancy happily & unashamed!

meredith6484 · September 2014

At least try for Medicaid or any help to get you through your pregnancy and birth. It is expensive. Best of wishes. I feel for you. My DH and I have been on and off for a long time. This is our fourth and I know what some family members will says....which won't be nice. So I truly feel for you.

isha12345 · September 2014

just losing a job is not something for which u should leave your DH besides u r having a baby and a baby would need both mom and dad togather. its time to make some new friends instead and congrats on the pregnancy. just dont take stress its not gud for the little one

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