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discipline!

rosij7rosij7 member
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Hi everyone, my name is Rosa and I have a 2 yo. I'M HAVING THE HARDEST TIME DISCIPLINING HER! Its my first child and im failing miserably. She doesnt listen AT ALL! Please help.
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  • DawnLillyDawnLilly member
    rosij7 said:

    Hi everyone, my name is Rosa and I have a 2 yo. I'M HAVING THE HARDEST TIME DISCIPLINING HER! Its my first child and im failing miserably. She doesnt listen AT ALL! Please help.

    What methods are you using right now? Selective hearing loss is very common at this age.
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  • DawnJM25DawnJM25 member

    What kinds of behaviors are you trying to discipline for? What methods have your tried? 

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  • rosij7rosij7 member
    Well, um she jumps on the bed all the time, i tell her no and grt her off the bed. And she will keep doing it o'er and over so i just get frusterated and sit her on her eating chair. I explained to her why she shouldnt but it feels like im talking to a doll. She will grab her sippy cup and start shaking it and spill all over the apt. And its evrrytime. I take it away but somrtimes im busy and water or juice is all over the apt. I know this is part of being 2 but i feel like im getting nowhere.
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  • DawnJM25DawnJM25 member

    Toddler behavior can be frustrating to deal with, but this all sounds very normal.  I agree with PP that at this age, redirection will probably work better than "discipline."  Focus her attention on something else that will keep her busy.  I find that if I play with the kids for a few minutes to get them started, they will continue to play on their own for a little while longer so I can get things done.  Make sure DD is getting a lot of positive attention from you so she isn't acting out to get other kinds of attention if that makes sense.  Kids will find ways to get attention, and if they have enough positive attention they won't need to find it in negative ways. 

    When DS bangs his cup of milk, it gets taken away, sometimes until the next meal.  You could offer just water so at least it won't stain if it gets spilled or shaken.  Jumping on the bed is fun for a toddler (yes, dangerous in a parent's eye) but if she can climb on it, could you keep the door closed?  Or have another fun activity ready for her if she starts to climb to redirect that attention?  Maybe she could jump on something else, like pillows on the floor.  Good luck, mama!     

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  • OffLiCuteOffLiCute member
    My son likes to jump on the couch too.  I'll warn him to "sit down nicely" and if he still doesn't, then I pick him up and place him on the floor.  I calmly tell him, "You didn't sit down nicely, so now you are not allowed on the couch."  If he tries to climb back up, I just repeat it again.  Even though it gets very repetitive, I think saying the exact same thing in the same tone every time helps them to understand faster.  You have to be consistent.  

    Her behavior sounds very normal for a two year old :)  Don't beat yourself up, you're doing a good job!
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  • rosij7rosij7 member
    Thanks so much for your advise everyone, it helps alot.
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  • pickle82pickle82 member
    I have a little time out chair.  I also ask him to apologize when he is done with timeout.  Sometimes that takes him longer.  I just think being consistent is important.  I try to focus on manners more than anything.  2yo are still little, so I try to remember that.   I also ignore fits.
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  • ashiscuteashiscute member
    theresat858 said:
    rosij7 said:
    Well, um she jumps on the bed all the time, i tell her no and grt her off the bed. And she will keep doing it o'er and over so i just get frusterated and sit her on her eating chair. I explained to her why she shouldnt but it feels like im talking to a doll. She will grab her sippy cup and start shaking it and spill all over the apt. And its evrrytime. I take it away but somrtimes im busy and water or juice is all over the apt. I know this is part of being 2 but i feel like im getting nowhere.
    I would say "Beds are for sleeping, not jumping" - and then redirect, and remove her from the room with the bed in it. Take away the sippy cup whenever she shakes it...and don't let her have juice in it until she can not shake it. Or find a different kind of cup that doesn't spill so easily.
    All of this.  We have a spare room with a mattress on the floor.  When they start jumping the door gets shut and locked.  My kids have water bottles they have access to all of the time but if they are spilling them on purpose I take them.  I would only put water in a cup she has constant access to.  Keep juice as a drink at meal times when she is sitting in a chair.  

    Natural consequences are what you need to keep in mind as opposed to discipline.  Teach your LO that if she does X she has to deal with Y.  We do timeouts for unacceptable behaviors (hitting, kicking, biting).
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