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Random Question about forums for the men...

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So my husband was lamenting the fact that while he glad that I have somewhere to go to chat and discuss everything that comes with life after a loss, he does not.
I did a quick google search but came up empty on forums or something for the men.  Admittedly it was a short search before I decided to come here to find out if you ladies knew of anything.
I am going to go back to searching though!

We met in middle school. We got married 15 years later in a February blizzard of 2010. 
TTC since February 2010
Diagnosed with Lyme Disease June 2010 Diagnosed with PCOS March 2011 Diagnosed with Celiac Disease January 2013
BFP #1: August 25th 2013 EDD May 4th 2014 SCH MC October 3rd 2013
BFP #2: February 14th 2014 EDD October 25th 2014 CP February 17th 2014
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Re: Random Question about forums for the men...

  • LittleMrsWLittleMrsW member
    I know TB has a Dad and Dads to be forum. I don't think I've ever seen a place for men to go, even outside of here.




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  • jjbmstincojjbmstinco member
    My H has been able to lean on his co-workers.  While it isn't ideal for my H to be talking about the status of my ute, at least he has something.  

    I hope your H finds someone/something!

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    BFP #2-11/13/14  EDD: 7/26/14  Beta #1: 11/14/13 (135 progesterone: 19.5)   Beta #2" 11/17/14 (733 ) 
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  • MenrandesMenrandes member
    @LittleMrsW Yeah I saw the board on here.  I think it's great that they have a board for dad's on here though!

    @EurydiceNymph He tries to be "strong" but he has seen how much being here has helped me with my feelings.   I think even if he wasn't going to talk about feelings, just knowing there were other people out there that he could talk to would be helpful for him. I will suggest the support group to him. Thanks!

    @jjbmstinco Unfortunately he doesn't have many people he is close to.  The close ones are like "yeah, that sucks."  Which isn't really enough for him anymore.  His coworkers are ever changing with each gig that comes up, so it's hard for him to get close to someone that way. 
    We met in middle school. We got married 15 years later in a February blizzard of 2010. 
    TTC since February 2010
    Diagnosed with Lyme Disease June 2010 Diagnosed with PCOS March 2011 Diagnosed with Celiac Disease January 2013
    BFP #1: August 25th 2013 EDD May 4th 2014 SCH MC October 3rd 2013
    BFP #2: February 14th 2014 EDD October 25th 2014 CP February 17th 2014
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  • jjbmstincojjbmstinco member
    Parents, brothers, sisters?  What about a therapist?

    I know I am stretching here.  I just want to see him get what he needs.

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    BFP #2-11/13/14  EDD: 7/26/14  Beta #1: 11/14/13 (135 progesterone: 19.5)   Beta #2" 11/17/14 (733 ) 
    Hoping for good news!

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  • MenrandesMenrandes member
    @jjbmstinco Oh boy...Yeah I wish.  If his dad were still alive I have no doubt he would be the one other than me he would talk to.  He's not close to his brother at all, and his mom has been less than sympathetic in the past.  He doesn't have a close family unfortunately.  I think what he really wants is to be able to talk to other men that have gone through the same thing.  But he doesn't know anyone like that.  Which is good!  But bad at the same time KWIM?
    We met in middle school. We got married 15 years later in a February blizzard of 2010. 
    TTC since February 2010
    Diagnosed with Lyme Disease June 2010 Diagnosed with PCOS March 2011 Diagnosed with Celiac Disease January 2013
    BFP #1: August 25th 2013 EDD May 4th 2014 SCH MC October 3rd 2013
    BFP #2: February 14th 2014 EDD October 25th 2014 CP February 17th 2014
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  • jjbmstincojjbmstinco member
    I def.  get it.  This topic is really secretive but then once it happens to you, a whole new world opens up.  I hope he finds someone!  Maybe the internet.  My H talks on a message board. IDK if its about this, but he likes to connect on video games.

    I will be thinking of your H.  <---Is that weird? I don't mean it weird.  

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    BFP #2-11/13/14  EDD: 7/26/14  Beta #1: 11/14/13 (135 progesterone: 19.5)   Beta #2" 11/17/14 (733 ) 
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    Everyone Welcome

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  • MenrandesMenrandes member
    @jjbmstinco Not weird at all!  I appreciate it
    :)
    We met in middle school. We got married 15 years later in a February blizzard of 2010. 
    TTC since February 2010
    Diagnosed with Lyme Disease June 2010 Diagnosed with PCOS March 2011 Diagnosed with Celiac Disease January 2013
    BFP #1: August 25th 2013 EDD May 4th 2014 SCH MC October 3rd 2013
    BFP #2: February 14th 2014 EDD October 25th 2014 CP February 17th 2014
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  • MenrandesMenrandes member
    @mrandmrsk91011 He hasn't as far as I know.  I'll ask him and if he hasn't I'll suggest it to him.  thanks!
    We met in middle school. We got married 15 years later in a February blizzard of 2010. 
    TTC since February 2010
    Diagnosed with Lyme Disease June 2010 Diagnosed with PCOS March 2011 Diagnosed with Celiac Disease January 2013
    BFP #1: August 25th 2013 EDD May 4th 2014 SCH MC October 3rd 2013
    BFP #2: February 14th 2014 EDD October 25th 2014 CP February 17th 2014
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  • meredithcarolemeredithcarole member
    MH had a hard time at first, he felt really isolated. His close friend was having marital problems and couldn't be supportive and I was reluctant at the time to tell anyone including his brother and parents. When I saw how it was affecting him, too, I changed my tune on that.

    It would be nice if he could find a forum. Is he on Reddit? There might be a thread there.
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    AMA 35 :  DH 33
    BFP#1 1/26/14 (EDD: 10/7/14).  MMC 3/10/14 D&C 3/14/14
    RE Consult 11/3/14 - AMH 2.25 "great" . FSH 7.10 . Low Vitamin D
    Myomectomy 12/17/14.  Benched until March.

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  • MenrandesMenrandes member
    @meredithcarole Currently the only internet stuff he does is forums on brew making. I don't know if he can find someone to talk to there.  He used to play WoW, and oddly enough I think that would have a beneficial in finding someone.
    We met in middle school. We got married 15 years later in a February blizzard of 2010. 
    TTC since February 2010
    Diagnosed with Lyme Disease June 2010 Diagnosed with PCOS March 2011 Diagnosed with Celiac Disease January 2013
    BFP #1: August 25th 2013 EDD May 4th 2014 SCH MC October 3rd 2013
    BFP #2: February 14th 2014 EDD October 25th 2014 CP February 17th 2014
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  • meredithcarolemeredithcarole member
    Menrandes said:
    @meredithcarole Currently the only internet stuff he does is forums on brew making. I don't know if he can find someone to talk to there.  He used to play WoW, and oddly enough I think that would have a beneficial in finding someone.

    DH is a D&D geek :)

    I just had him search, www.reddit.com/r/miscarriage seems to be active. The was also a good article on The Art of Manliness on how a man handles a miscarriage.
    TTCAL January Siggy Challenge: Animals in the Snow

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    About Me: 

    AMA 35 :  DH 33
    BFP#1 1/26/14 (EDD: 10/7/14).  MMC 3/10/14 D&C 3/14/14
    RE Consult 11/3/14 - AMH 2.25 "great" . FSH 7.10 . Low Vitamin D
    Myomectomy 12/17/14.  Benched until March.

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    My Ovulation Chart
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  • MenrandesMenrandes member
    @meredithcarole thanks!  I'll have him go check it out!
    We met in middle school. We got married 15 years later in a February blizzard of 2010. 
    TTC since February 2010
    Diagnosed with Lyme Disease June 2010 Diagnosed with PCOS March 2011 Diagnosed with Celiac Disease January 2013
    BFP #1: August 25th 2013 EDD May 4th 2014 SCH MC October 3rd 2013
    BFP #2: February 14th 2014 EDD October 25th 2014 CP February 17th 2014
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    I'm in the same situation.   I have people on 3 different online boards to talk to but DH has no one.  I wish there was a community for men.  We didn't tell anyone about the pregnancy or the loss so he feels like there is no one to talk to.  I told him he can speak to one of his friends about it, that I don't care, but he hasn't and I worry because he needs a place to go. 
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  • Elliecat17Elliecat17 member
    MH asked the same thing. So I will send him towards reddit too.
    Me: 24 
    DH: 25
    BFP: 1/12/14       EDD: 9/18/14     MC: 1/15/14
    BFP: 5/6/14         EDD: 1/5/15       MC: 5/10/14
    BFP: 12/29/14      EDD: 9/12/15      MC: 1/5/15
    Dx: PCOS - 8/20/14, Hashimoto's - 10/10/14, Gluten Allergy 10/10/14


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  • ezza671ezza671 member
    I've had no shame in sending friends to DH for support. Especially guy friends that ask me if we need anything --- "Yes, please text DH" 2 of them have had losses also, and let DH know that they were there for him. Even if he doesn't take up the convo, he knows it's an option. 

    Me: 28 DH: 27
    Married Aug 2013
    TTC Since July 2014
    BFP: 8/30/14 EDD: 5/6/15 MC:9/10/14 :(
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