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Approaching Previous Loss Point

cochenourdcochenourd member
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Last year, my husband and I lost twin girls at 19 weeks gestation. They were conceived through IVF. We also had another IVF pregnancy end in loss later last year. That was 5 weeks gestation. I am currently pregnant through IVF and am 17w1d. Approaching my 19w loss point, I'm concerned about how to best deal. At this point, I'm feeling good and positive and hopeful. Not feeling anxious or nervous. I'd like to hear how others dealt with their loss point please.
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  • peggels24peggels24 member
    My loss point was much earlier (at 9 weeks 2 days, we discovered that the baby's heart had stopped beating at 8 weeks, 5 days) but I did my best to ignore it - I knew it was coming up but didn't want to really think too hard about it.  Just trudged through day and day until I heard the heartbeat at 10 weeks.  It also helped that I had an early u/s at 7 weeks which I didn't have the first time so I was able to think about how great the heartbeat was.

    ((hugs)) to you and sending you lots of T&P's to get you through that milestone.
    BFP #1 09/26/2013 EDD 06/04/2013 MMC 11/01/2013
    BFP #2 05/15/2014 EDD 01/24/2015

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  • asglover514asglover514 member
    I pretty much have been taking this whole pregnancy day by day. My first loss point was the 10 week appointment and 6 weeks. I was very nervous but when all came out well I calmed down. Now I live every day with slight worry because my second loss point is 31 weeks and that's just so far away and a lot of time to worry. All I can say is take it day by day. *hugs*
    Stephanie Lynn 
    *BFP3:7/10/14 EDD: 3/19/15--Renley Alexander born 3/12/15!!*
    11/17/14-adopted a furbaby named Luna (born 9/05/14)
    BFP2: 11/25/11-Aaron Alexander born sleeping at 31 weeks on 05/31/12
    BFP1: 07/28/11-EDD:3/19/12, natural MC 09/12/11 at 12 wks-HB and growth stopped at 6wks
    S&A together since 05/14/11

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  • BackstreetPixieBackstreetPixie member
    One day at a time. Feel what you feel and try not to worry about it. ::hugs::
    -Megan


    Started dating Hubby May 17 2005. Married since Aug 20 2011 
    Me:30   Hubby:31
    TTC since May 2012 
    HSG Dec 2012 Fill no spill on left side, right side normal (most physically painful experience of my life..)
    Metformin Started May 2013
    PG#1: BFP 10-21-13. EDD 6-17-14 mmc 12-9-13 m/c occurred with cytotec on 12-11-13 
    PG#2: BFP 07-25-14.  EDD 4-5-15   *Hoping this is my rainbow*
    Diagnosed with PCOS, Hypothyroid,IBD/UC, (UC in remission as of July 2014)
    *I will always love you Fetey the first.* 
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  • SamanthaLaura16SamanthaLaura16 member
    So sorry for your losses. I agree with the other ladies, just take it one day at a time. Sending lots of ((hugs)) your way.
    Me- 27 w/PCOS     DH - 28
    TTC since December 2012 
    BFP 6/29/2013 - EDD 3/16/14 - MMC 9/5/2013
    Diagnosed with PCOS and taking metformin 750 mg  twice a day
    April 2014 -  - 1st ICI Cycle - BFP 5/15/14 EDD: 1/20/15
    A/S 8-22-14 - Its a BOY!!
    12/15 Checkup & heard his beautiful heartbeat
    ALL WELCOME -
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  • JuddandJessicaJuddandJessica member
    It's always been my experience that the build-up to the hard milestone is much harder than the actual day of the milestone. Hang in there and take it a day at a time. HUGS

    BPF 1. Baby Girl "Petri" 12/22/11 Said goodbye 12/27/11

    BPF 2. Baby Boy "Roo" 1/20/12 Heartbeat 160b/m 2/15/12 Said goodbye 2/20/12

    BPF 3. Rainbow Baby Boy "Creed"  4/28/12 Born healthy and alive 1/5/13

    BFP 4. "Rainbow 2.0" 8/17/14 due 4/28/15

     

    "Darling don't be afraid. I have loved you a thousand years. I love you a thousand more."

     

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  • Mom2anAngel2Mom2anAngel2 member
    We lost our first son at 19 weeks as well. The loss was discovered at our A/S, so the weeks leading up to that milestone is extremely stressful for me. I rely heavily on my Doppler to try and ease some of my fears. Movement doesn't even help because I had felt inconsistent movement in the weeks leading up to our loss.

    As other ladies have mentioned, take it one day at a time. Many HUGS to you.

    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickersLilypie - (B9PH)

     

    Lilypie - (0YVF)
     TTC since 11/2009; Lap/HSG/Hysteroscopy: 5/2011 (endometriosis - removed; endocervical polyp - removed; high pressure in bilateral tubes - cleared)

    BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d

    BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13

    BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks

    BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby 

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  • kate6214kate6214 member
    edited September 2014
    Take it one day at a time. There are some great mantras pinned to the top of this board

    BFP #1: 8/17/13     Due Date: 4/26/14      MMC discovered @ 9w 4d       D&C: 10/2/13
    BFP #2: 12/23/13       Due Date: 9/6/14      MMC discovered @ 8w 5d    D&C: 2/6/14
    BFP #3 8/26/14     Due Date: 5/7/15  

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  • cochenourdcochenourd member
    Thanks to all!! It's comforting to hear from others who share my concerns.
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  • nohalo21nohalo21 member
    I had my loss at 18 weeks, discovered at our a/s. The days leading up to our a/s this time was rough. I did rely more on my Doppler than I had (i set myself days to use it). Last week I passed the point at which I delivered my angel. Knowing that her little sister is healthy eased my mind (a bit). I also take each day as they come and repeat the mantras. I also set little milestones for myself to make it to. It has helped the days past and I can celebrate each step of the way.
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