Pregnancy Perks

texasmama786 · September 2014

Anyone noticing people liking you more now that you're pregnant? Or people being nicer and accommodating you?

I get a lot of special treatment at work these days. Coworkers are leaving me gifts on my desk and bringing me food. I've gotten 2 free lunches in the past week! My boss says nothing to me about coming in late and has been very nice and understanding. People are saying hi to me that didn't glance at me before. I'm lovin it!!

MoJo2015 · September 2014

I want free lunches! I do notice more people smiling at me and saying hi when I walk by. Not people I know either just random people I walk by when I am out and about. If people notice my bump, they always make a point to make sure I walk in a door before them. But the bump still doesn't help with the train. People (at least in DC) will still let a pregnant women stand on the metro while they try to avoid eye contact and keep their seat. I usually get on earlier enough for a seat but I see it happen to pregnant women that get on in later stops.

texasmama786 · September 2014

Train people are jerks.

Jellybean707 · September 2014

Yes! I have gotten presents and people keep telling me how great I look.

rodiesmum · September 2014

Yes my co workers have been extra nice. Well they ask me a lot of usual PG questns but generally they give me more food, prioritize me and my convenience. Some new hires - those fresh out of college- also think im a science experiment in a good way of course. They ask if they could touch my belly plus a lot of questns you think only a kid would ask.
Also i love the convenience een outside the ofc. There are special lanes for PG in restos and banks and im just happy that banks and grocery PG lanes even have seats for PG women!!! Hooray.

TXUltraRunner · September 2014

I mostly just have people asking me stupid questions and asking me how I feel every five minutes. I've not really noted any special treatment except that people won't let me carry things (Lowe's employee wouldn't let me carry a can of freakin paint the other day) and I find that really annoying.

texasmama786 · September 2014

rodiesmum said:
Yes my co workers have been extra nice. Well they ask me a lot of usual PG questns but generally they give me more food, prioritize me and my convenience. Some new hires - those fresh out of college- also think im a science experiment in a good way of course. They ask if they could touch my belly plus a lot of questns you think only a kid would ask.
Also i love the convenience een outside the ofc. There are special lanes for PG in restos and banks and im just happy that banks and grocery PG lanes even have seats for PG women!!! Hooray.

Special lanes? Where do u live?

KnitPixy · September 2014

I wish I was getting free food! I'm getting a lot of "helpful" advice from coworkers that make want to scream most of the time.

On the bright side I've been exempted from filing (whooo!) and it is occationally nice to have random people ask me how I'm doing.

Pips09 · September 2014

I swear people are nicer to pregnant women!

stephchris0321 · September 2014

Yes, this is happening to me too. Everyone wants to make sure that I'm ok, but no free lunches here. LOL!

12chachacha · September 2014

I think people are nicer in general - no free food though. I'm getting a little tired of the "how are you feeling" question but I understand why people do it and I used to do it too.
Bus people are still jerks though.

BookitBoo · September 2014

I'm with family so they treat me pretty much the same.

I do have people congratulating me and asking me when the baby is due though.

I want free food

TMast21 · September 2014

I was offered a seat on nearly every subway trip I took in nyc on vacation last week! It was great. If no one was offering, usually someone standing would shame a young man into getting up. It was such a relief since it was super hot out and my feet so swollen

elleswarth · September 2014

I enjoy the "expectant mother" parking anywhere I can, and yes, even strangers seem to smile and make conversation more. My patients are being nicer to me (less demanding usually), and my coworkers do all the lifting and moving and won't let me do much other than pass meds. I can't complain! I've got my generic answer down that I can repeat in my sleep, "I'm due in early January, it's a girl, it's our second, our first is 6, and she's very excited for a baby sister." Smile and repeat.

Maebb · September 2014

People are nicer holding doors, smiling, and things like that.

My coworker brought in donuts to share on Friday. I was in a meeting, so she sent me an IM and asked what kind I wanted and then wrote in Sharpie on the box, "BOSTON CREAM DONUT RESERVED FOR MAE." I was embarrassed but glad she saved it for me.

Stargirlb · September 2014

I'm on my third pregnancy so I'm totally comfortable milking it!

aerotigergirl · September 2014

My office provides several close-in "Expectant Mother" parking spaces, and I've used those a few times if I'm running late and need to get to my desk in a hurry. But they're always empty, so I don't feel so guilty using them.

And today, during a large staff meeting, we ran out of chairs in the conference room and I sat down on the floor on the edge of the room. That sounds stupid, I know, but this is not atypical in our office I promise. Anyway, a couple of people jumped up to offer me their chairs. I was perfectly fine on the floor, though. I guess since I'm always on the floor playing with DS, I'm just sort of used to it?

I wish folks were rushing to my cube to buy me lunch, though! That's a perk I could get into.

Ballerina0917 · September 2014

Last weekend my husband and I got to go through the TSA pre-check security line, where there were a total of zero people in front of us. And for people who are perpetually late for flights, it was much appreciated!

joujouwish · September 2014

MoJo2015 I feel ya on the train thing. Same thing happens here in Boston. Granted I'm not showing yet- I've seen other pregnant women standing and people not offering them seats. I loudly and obnoxiously point out- "That woman is pregnant! Someone should give her a seat!". Works sometimes, doesn't others. People are selfish a*holes.

robsbabygirl08 · September 2014

Nope, I mostly just get the eye roll because I'm just another pregnant lady at work. We have 8 right now. The only thing this pregnancy has changed about my work ethic is that I grunt when I have to pick stuff up off the ground

I don't know why they act like I have the plague.

SheHulk723 · September 2014

I got to go home early one day, but that's because I looked like crap and my face was swollen from crying before work. And I get to do less physical work now, not that my job required a lot, but they're careful about not having me lift much so I guess that's nice.

cabbeeby · September 2014

I really notice it with my boss who is a protective/caretaker type of person. Even before I was pregnant she would carry things (like my takeout box if I also had my wallet/phone in the other hand and she was carrying nothing).

It's a tiny company (5 people) but she replaced all of the office chairs because I was having hip issues and was uncomfortable sitting on the older ones. Also, everyone at work is obsessed with making sure that I get food whenever I need it. I'm officially in charge of when the office goes to lunch break and where we go to eat.

longcat07 · September 2014

nope. no free food or extra smiles and politeness. not even a seat on a standing room-only bus, with my 4yo in tow (and it was full enough that we were up in front where there was only one place to hold on to that my kid couldn't reach...it was loads of fun trying to hold myself up and keep him from falling all over the place at the same time.) it's ok though, i don't expect special treatment.

marvan5 · September 2014

I work at my husband's family restaurant where all of our friends work (I've only been there a year now but have been close with everyone for almost 10 years) and our good buddy Mitch lets (I should say makes) me sit down and eat through my whole meal while he helps everyone I should be helping at the counter. But otherwise I haven't had any other real perks yet. I did, however, walk shamelessly past a woman in line for the restroom who wouldn't use the handicap stall and used it myself... these days when you gotta go you gotta go!!

Beauxbaton · September 2014

DH wakes up with DS in the middle of the night now. And comes home so i can nap whenever he can.

spoonleg · September 2014

Where I live in South America, there is a law that pregnant women don't have to wait. Like, ever. It's amazing. There are special lines in the banks, grocery stores, government offices, etc for the elderly, disabled and pregnant. At first I was like, no, it's okay, I can wait like everyone else... but F that. I use that sucker all the time now!

I've seen many people give up their seats on buses or or in other crowded places for pregnant women or the elderly.

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cabbeeby · September 2014

marvan5 said:

I did, however, walk shamelessly past a woman in line for the restroom who wouldn't use the handicap stall and used it myself... these days when you gotta go you gotta go!!

I don't get that... regardless of pregnancy I wouldn't stand around waiting for a stall if the handicap was open. Is someone from the back of the line gonna be like "wup, that's my stall! Let me through, folks!"

Stargirlb · September 2014

Taking advantage of a perk

MamacitaChiquita82 · September 2014

spoonleg said:
Where I live in South America, there is a law that pregnant women don't have to wait. Like, ever. It's amazing. There are special lines in the banks, grocery stores, government offices, etc for the elderly, disabled and pregnant. At first I was like, no, it's okay, I can wait like everyone else... but F that. I use that sucker all the time now!

I've seen many people give up their seats on buses or or in other crowded places for pregnant women or the elderly.

I want to go to there.

Stargirlb · September 2014

Ha here in guatemala city there are lots of accommodations for pregnant women. Parking stalls are common in parkades compared to rare back home. I don't think I really look preggers enough to ask for any other accommodations though

Stargirlb · September 2014

Dh was late for a meeting so took one of the futura mama parking spots by himself yesterday. He told me the parking attendant started scolding him in Spanish and DH was like "no Español!" And then pointed to his stomach and was like "une Bebe!" While rubbing it. The guy looked scared and confused and just left him alone. Lol omg.

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