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Is this completely crazy? Wedding question....

thechickencoopthechickencoop member
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My sister's getting married next month, I'm the MOH.  JUST got an invite for a good friend that is also getting married the same day (they're doing it very, very small, ceremony/reception).  Am I crazy for thinking I can go to BOTH????

Sister's ceremony starts at 7, (er...or 7:30...I have to double check), we're meeting at 5:30 to get ready.  I'm getting my hair done before lunch that day.  Friends ceremony starts at 2:30, reception following but I wouldn't really stay long, just for the ceremony and to wish them well.  Locations are about 20 minutes apart......

Ugh!  Part of me feels like, duh, I can totally do it, I don't *think* my sister will need too much in the afternoon...I mean, I feel like at my wedding we all got our hair done in the morning, then just kind of hung out for a while until getting dressed like, right before the ceremony....but then what if she has some sort of breakdown or something?  She's in general, not a needy, 'bridezilla' type person......

OMG; I'm insane, right?  Is it disrespectful to go to both???
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  • thechickencoopthechickencoop member
    LalaMama81 said:
    No way, that's crazy. I would not even attempt it. 

    You're only getting together 2 hours before the wedding?


    Well we'll be together the day before; we're all getting nails done, then the morning of we all have hair appointments from 10 to, like noon or 1 I think (there's 6 of us).  We'll have lunch, and then we can't get into the venue until 5:30.
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    eaglesfan700 said:
    I would be bummed out if my sister was going to another wedding the same day as mine
    Yea, see, that's what I'm thinking.  It's her day, but dammit!  Why the same daaayyy???  It just figures.
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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
    I'd play it by ear and tell the friend what's going on that you'd love to stop by but aren't sure if you'll be able to and it's a "game day decision" - it's not as though she's needing to have a full meal for you or anything like that. 
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  • HBirdieHBirdie member
    That's tough. I was in a wedding last weekend and it was crazy... I thought it was stupid that we had to be there at 8am to start getting ready for a 3pm ceremony, but we were busy the whole time, and I definitely could not have snuck away for a different wedding.

    Not to mention, this is your sister's big day. You don't want her to be stressed out that you're not going to make it to her wedding on time. So I say not doable, even though it sucks.
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  • Aussie45Aussie45 member
    The bottom line is that it's your sister's day. Regardless of any bride going bridezilla on people, I don't think it's crazy to skip your friends wedding so you don't stress your sister out even more. You're in the wedding party and it would have given me a lot of stress to know that my MOH might potentially be late.
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  • eaglesfan700eaglesfan700 member
    If my sister asked me this, I would try to accommodate her if the times worked out. But I would be hurt that she asked and wouldn't be spending the day with me. Not mad at her, just sad
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  • raraavis28raraavis28 member
    I wouldn't do it....she's your sister and you're the MOH....I'd personally just have that whole day blocked out for the wedding and being there for your sister. Also if you ask her, she might feel like she has to say "no problem" even if she's expecting you to be there and would be disappointed....I dunno, maybe...you know her best, obviously.

    Also where will your DS be? Would going to the second wedding change any of those logistics?

    It stinks that your friend has the same wedding date, and I don't blame you for not wanting to miss her big day, but she would certainly understand...."My sister'a wedding is the same day" is a pretty ironclad excuse.
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  • thechickencoopthechickencoop member
    Alright, alright, it's crazy. Thanks guys :P
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  • likeanoldtimemovielikeanoldtimemovie member
    My parents would have killed me if I attempted this.
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  • jenniann87jenniann87 member
    Nope. I agree that they day belongs to your sister and wouldn't even attempt to try making it to the friends.  
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  • vlagrl29vlagrl29 member
    No, Don't do it…..that would be too exhausting!
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  • thechickencoopthechickencoop member
    The only reason I was considering it was because H and DS will be home; they're not meeting us down there until like 6 ish. And there is no way I would cut it close! I was thinking just go up for the ceremony, be back down with my sister by, I don't know, 4 at the latest.

    And we did know about my friends wedding ahead of time, I didn't know the time until she sent the invite and she knows my sister's wedding is the same day, I'm just excited I guess and want to do both! But thanks everyone for talking me down :)
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  • ariel06ariel06 member
    That just seems too stressful.
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